Limo on last day of school

bestpud

This has to be more about the parents as the boys would surely have mentioned it if they felt in the least bit excited about it!

It seems it hasn't been mentioned at all so what's the point really if it's not a big event for them?

But anyway, it says far more about them than you so enjoy whatever it is you are planning for your son and let them get on with it.

I hate to see one or two children left out - never ceases to amaze me how parents can justify that. :mad:

susancs

I hate to see one or two children left out - never ceases to amaze me how parents can justify that. :mad:[/QUOTE]

Totally agree with you, I can always understand if there can only be half or two thirds of the class invited to an event such as a birthday party, but to leave one or two children out, I consider to be either very thoughtless or in some cases just downright unkind.

Goldiegirl

I think it's really mean of the parents.

If he can't be included, I think it'd be a nice idea to take him out for the day and just miss it completely.

He'll be at a new school in September and can start again, so he can leave all this behind him.

Or I suppose there is another option. Hire a Harley Davidson and driver, so he can turn up on the pillion of the Harley. Who needs limos and fire engines when you can have a Harley?

On another note, I don't have children myself and I'm completly stunned at this last day tradition that seems to have started. When my friend's children were younger I don't recall any of this limo business. Is it recent, or just in certain areas of the country?

marisco_2

I work at a junior school and I really hope this isn't arranged, by parents of our pupils, for our last day of term. The thought of several limos, fire engines and parents cars on general pick up, stuffing up the access roads for god knows how long is not a pleasant one! Us teachers have [STRIKE]end of summer term parties [/STRIKE] families to go to folks, dont jam the roads

Toto

There is nothing on earth that would lead me to hire limos for 11 year olds. I didn't even hire cars for my wedding because I thought it was a complete waste of money!

I get that your boy is upset though and it really is a horrible feeling to be excluded. I'd be upset too. I would speak to the parents to see if its an oversight, in which case it should be easy to resolve. If it isn't and they just don't want your lad to join in, I'd want to know why. Has your lad done something to upset them so much? If so, well, it's an opportunity for learning. But, if these kids are just being spiteful then stuff them, I'd find something mega cool to do instead It wouldn't involve hiring chav mobiles though

stebiz

My eldest daughter got offered a place in a Limo a couple of days before she left junior school. That was 6 years or so ago. The Dad didn't want any money even after I pleaded with him. In the end I found out were he lived and put it through his letterbox.

Wasn't going to be caught short next time around and asked my daughter a couple of months before to ask around 6/8 of her friends and if they wanted to go it was £15 each.............I stumped up the rest. I'll have it again in a few years time.

Wouldn't be a bad thing for either schools to ban these events OR to organise them so nobody gets left out.

poet123

splishsplash wrote: »

OP it's very simple. Your son can't sort this for himself - it's up to you. He is upset at being left out, it bothers him, emotions are running high, so sort it out for him.

Talk to each of the other mothers, ask them outright if your son can join their limo. If the answer is no, tell them to keep him in mind as it's a long time till July and things may change. If I was one of those parents, I would be mortified that I'd omitted a child and would certainly rejig things to make space for one more. I can't imagine why your son would be excluded from his friends' limo?

If you feel it is a deliberate attempt at exclusion, then for sure drop the kid you mind immediately and let the mother know why. To not do that is saying it's ok for that child's mother to walk all over you. Not on.

Then you're into damage limitation. Either book a holiday and miss the last couple of days, or if you can't organize something equally as exciting to your son as a limo ride with his friends, then keep him off for the last day and do something comepletely different.

It's a rotten situation, but it does need to be dealt with, for your son's sake.

I do wonder what's next though - helicopter pick-ups?

I would do all the above also. Emotions will be running high that day to begin with so I would do all in my power to ensure this issue was sorted out. If it is an oversight all the parents should try to help you sort it out. I would ask them outright if they would be happy for it to be their child who was left out, if they would like his last memories of the school tainted by this. I do hope you get it sorted OP I would be so sad and so annoyed. This is a time to let the Lioness out!!;)

middlewife

This whole limo thing is ridiculous. It's yet more imported Americanisms and one-upmanships. Hello - there's a recession on at the moment. Have just had to explain to my 12 soon to be 13 yo that unlike his friends I haven't got £200 to blow on a ski/laser/bowling/paintball party.
When my sons (twins) left year 11, I made it very clear that I would not fund a limo or a year book. I had already shelled out on the prom tickets and a suit for each of them. Unfortunately their friends' parents assumed they would be going in a limo and had quoted the other parents accordingly. When I politely declined their e mail asking for money I got a nasty one back saying that all the other little darlings would have to pay more now. I duly drove mine there and back, at least a third of the kids also arrived in normal cars, my son took much better pictures than the official photographer, 1 year on it's a dim and distant memory. Put into perspective, although it's upsetting at the time, it is only a short time in his life, move on. I bet some of it is sour grapes because he's going to a better school, and in their shallow little minds they don't want to include him. Many people do not keep up any friendships from their primary school years, university maybe, but not primary.

Hanging_by_a_thread

marisco wrote: »

Us teachers have [STRIKE]end of summer term parties [/STRIKE] families to go to folks, dont jam the roads

Yeah god forbid anyone cut into your 6 weeks off. Such a short holiday! :rotfl:

chewynut

Not getting involved in ethics and all that since I left in a limo in yr 11 and it was brilliant. That was yr 11 though. (I should probably admit that we left one girl out because she was a disgusting piece of work who'd spent the last three years splitting friends up and faeces-stirring like a queen. it backfired on her in the last few months when she realised not a single one of the people she'd spent three years gossiping about would let her join their limo group. She ended up with a bunch of weird people she didn't even know just so she didn't have to do a walk of shame LOL)

Personally, I wouldn't make a big fuss because of the way kids talk. The last thing you want is for him to start yr 7 with the other kids giggling about how his mum threw a tantrum and nobody likes him enough to tell him about the limos (I can see that's not true but young teenagers are the nastiest little creatures on the planet once they start ganging up on each other).

Let him have the last day off and take him somewhere awesome. Then if anybody in yr 7 actually notices he wasn't there, he can say 'Oh, I went to Alton Towers instead' or something.