Limo on last day of school

aloise

Fire Engines? And what happens if there is a major fire and all appliances are needed?.
I would certainly make excuses about minding one of the children after this, but to be fair it does seem as if it has all been a bit haphazard and nobody organized anything properly. Probably no insult was intended. Best to downplay it to your son and don;t make it into a major thing.
The motor bike thingy sounds good. Boys love them and i bet he would be thrilled and the other kids green.

Poppy9

Sky_ wrote: »

Limos per-se are not chavvy, but limos for 11 year old boys, driving them around for an hour? It seems like a lot of fuss and expense for something they probably won't even enjoy after the first few minutes.

Spending money for the sake of show and for no other reason, is something I associate with chavviness.

My son went to London (we live in the far north so it was a real treat) with his class around that age, stayed in a hostel, went to the theatre, visited lots of museums and generally had a really fun and educational trip whilst bonding with his classmates. That is the sort of thing I'd see as worthwhile.

But many children do enjoy it and for some it will be the only time in their life they have a limo ride.

Re going away DD school did this too. They went on an adventure weekend which was lovely.

lostinrates wrote: »

I don't have kids, but if I did its certainly not something I would be encouraging AT ALL. (Nor that sort of holiday personally).

I love the idea of a giggly and excited last day with a few treats and high spirits, perhaps some talk about what is important in life....nota bene...not leaving peope out, how to make an effort to keep in touch with friends, what to do before stating seniour school etc etc). I remember some of us crying on last days too, as friends were separating in next stages of life). Then a summer including planned meet ups with friends and different activities and lots of just relaxing and self motivated play/activity.

They can have that too!

DD went to RC school and they had a lovely leavers assembly, a leavers school play, a leavers mass and a weekend away. They wrote on each other's shirts, they had a group photo which each has a copy. I thought it would be nice to buy the teachers/staff a cake with the children's photo on - went down very well and I thought it looked so nice I bought 2 so the children could have one too!

Finally they had their limo ride and activity. Everyone included as was the norm. Excluding a child would never have been tolerated by the Head or other parents. It would have been against everything the children had been taught in school and hopefully at home. Whichever parent who volunteered to organise the
knew to make sure there were enough limos to accommodate the whole class. As I said earlier PTA contributed so no child would need to be left out due to cost.

Her class was splitting 3 ways with almost equal amounts going to 3 schools so it was really the last time she would see many - though a lot are now in touch via facebook and they see one another out in Town now they are 18!!

Many parents buy the teachers/school a thank you gift if it's the end of their association with the school. I chose to buy from CAFOD a school pack for each year DD had been educated to date.

Leaving 2 children out is disgraceful and mean. Parents really should know better. It goes on in Secondary school with children using their parties as a way of slighting someone. There is one really odd girl in DD year who never they really dislike and when the bands are out for an 18th party DD said she often goes and asks for one for herself - generally the party person will give a few to one person to pass onto friend group. DD said it's really sad as even her "friends" don't want to go with her or really be friends with her but she has no one else. She is odd though!! I'm laughing now (which I know is harsh) and one of the really strange things she does!!

securityguy

aloise wrote: »

Fire Engines? And what happens if there is a major fire and all appliances are needed?.

It'd have to be a pretty major one before they start phoning up people who own second-hand fire appliances and asking to borrow them. About the same sort of fire which would involve asking male strippers who wear fireman uniforms if they're handy with a hose (ooo-er, missus).

stebiz

securityguy wrote: »

It'd have to be a pretty major one before they start phoning up people who own second-hand fire appliances and asking to borrow them. About the same sort of fire which would involve asking male strippers who wear fireman uniforms if they're handy with a hose (ooo-er, missus).

:rotfl: :rotfl:

choccybuttons

You know I would pull him out of school for last couple of days and go camping or theme park - something really cool that he never really gets to do.

Things like this happen and yes they really hurt and truly suck - people are mean esp some parents with kids weirdly.

Stuff like this will happen again unless he is charmed.

I would tell your so called friend who's child you look after that the last week of term you wont be able to because your doing x with your son as you don't think its fair that he was excluded from the limo parties.

FBaby

I think you need to put it all in perspective. Most likely, it was parents happening to be together discussing the idea and one going ahead and booking and unfortunately, your son was left out because you were not there during these discussions. Most likely, the boys were not involved in the organising of it, so didn't have the chance to tell their mum to remember your son. They are probably sad for your son, but boys being boys at that age, they don't care that much that they would decide not to go.

That or... there a friendship issue that your son, and therefore you, are totally unaware of. If that is the case, it has clearly got more implication than just missing out on the limo.

My daughter was part of the popular' gang, that liked to see themselves as hip, but thankfully, hiring a limo or other transport was never discussed. It just wasn't seen as 'cool' by the kids and parents because of its extravagance. I'm really glad because I certainly wouldn't have wanted to pay £17 for it, let alone more. My daughter had a simple dress bought abroad in a summer marche and a bit of making up on, that was it.

lostinrates

Poppy9 wrote: »

They can have that too!
!

My point is I would not want the 'too' I would want that as the "all". It's not a proportionate reaction to that stage of their lives, further more rather inward looking, perhaps a little 'self satisfied' or 'I am the centre of the world' ish.

Chavvy is not a word I like or use, but as its the one you and others have suggested people are feeling I am content to go with that as being a summation of how I feel about it in addition to my other reservations about it, if not in my terminology.

jellyhead

mrbrightside842 wrote: »

Not really, when they're 'graduating' from nursery, they're not actually graduating. They're just having a leaving party and dressing up in a cap and gown. They haven't graduated in the sense of achieving a level. So it's pointless.

A 3 year old being a failure and needing summer school :rotfl:

At the high school my son attends they have to earn enough merit points to be allowed to buy a prom ticket, so if behaviour or attendance is something they struggle with they have something to work towards.

stebiz

kjmtidea wrote: »

I have spoken to both parents because as soon as I thought about booking it, I contacted them straight away. They are the parents of my sons 2 best friends so that seemed the right thing to day, clearly no one else thinks like that!

The general reply was 'oh a few parents were talking about it and then we just booked it' no ones seems to have actually put any thought into it. I did point out that now my son doesn't have a limo and I got a 'oh sorry' and a quick change of subject.

Well personally I think some things would need spelling out. Okay so what are we going to do about it? How many kids are going. So we'll need to hire another and split 3 ways!!

Now if they shrug you off and say no chance. Then I'd say well if that's how little you think off my son then maybe you look after your own after school from now on.

The fortunate thing is that he will be in a brand new school in September. Grammar as well, so he's obviously a bright lad. He can get more friends then.

As for the last day. I'm assuming there is a Disco or something. Take him out of school that day on a day trip and bring him back later after all the limos have gone and let him just go straight in to the disco.

jellyhead

kjmtidea wrote: »

I have spoken to both parents because as soon as I thought about booking it, I contacted them straight away. They are the parents of my sons 2 best friends so that seemed the right thing to day, clearly no one else thinks like that!

The general reply was 'oh a few parents were talking about it and then we just booked it' no ones seems to have actually put any thought into it. I did point out that now my son doesn't have a limo and I got a 'oh sorry' and a quick change of subject.

I am going to speak to my son and let him choose something for us to do and I am really looking forward to him going to grammar school and hopefully making some new friends.

Where were these parents talking about it? My son is in a friendship group where the other mums are really close and do lots of things together but rarely remember to invite my boy, and it's because the rest of them go to football, hockey etc. classes together whereas my boy goes to different sports classes. Also they're all only children whose fathers work Saturdays, so those mums and 7 year olds spend a lot of time together and things are discussed and booked while the mums watch the football game, etc.

So, maybe it's not bullying or deliberately leaving him out, but just that he wasn't there at the time, and there were enough of them there at the time to fill a limo.

Are they doing anything fun after the limo ride? You could take him to that. I'm another one who doesn't really understand the appeal of a limo, maybe because I have boys? I asked mine if he wanted to share a limo to get to the leavers disco at the end of year 6 and he said no. Perhaps if there were playstations in there :rotfl: