Limo on last day of school

scooby088

My daughter is in the same situation whereby a spiteful parent has left her out of the limo. Personally I can't see the point of it as I think it's chavvy and is too expensive for just a leavers party at the school. Anyway DD has decided she doesn't want to go and instead wants to have a trip to the cinema and a chinese instead.

Errata

Parents deliberately leaving a child out of something only serves to set child against child. I think when something like this happens it should be reported to the head, as the parents are bullying the child.

Poppy9

How many children are in your son's class? I have to say I think something is up if his two "best" friends didn't mention it.

I would ask the mother of the child you look after if there is any reason your son is excluded and explain how upset you and your son are.

DD 18 but in Y6 her school did the limo thing. Although one parent organised it all children were invited and a contribution was made by PTA towards cost and if any parent couldn't afford it then the PTA would have paid. If I remember rightly it was £12 a head and included Limo ride to play centre where they also had food. There was a variety of style of limos, some more boyish and the class of 32 had a fabulous last day. I know they still do it though I did hear that some parents have tried to make it more "middle class" by taking them to a restaruant instead of play centre but they are hyper and need to let off steam after the fun of the last day at school.

We did need a parent in each limo and other parents went straight to play centre to ensure plenty of supervision.

Not sure if the parents in limo needed to be CRB checked as the limo's came on school premises. I know my OH went in one limo with boys. Not sure if it was because he was off that day or because he was CRB checked.

Sky_

I'd be tempted to book a few days away, including the last day of school. Limos are uber-chavvy, waaaay over the top for leaving primary school and the whole situation sounds pretty horrid. I'd want to remove my child from it all.

No child needs to be the whipping boy up in a situation that was manipulated by some spiteful and uncaring adults!!

I also would struggle to look after your 'friend's' child. I'd maybe (but probably not) do it if my child would get a lot of pleasure from his friend visiting, but I'd certainly tell the parents that I was furious about their childish and unkind behaviour towards my son.

Thank heaven your boy is leaving that school!

mrbrightside842

Treevo wrote: »

I think that's a good idea. It gives children something to aim for and work towards. It would be even better if we held underachievers back a year until they've grasped the required level. With summer schools to help.

Not really, when they're 'graduating' from nursery, they're not actually graduating. They're just having a leaving party and dressing up in a cap and gown. They haven't graduated in the sense of achieving a level. So it's pointless.

marisco_2

I dont buy into this whole extravagence to be honest. By the end of year 6 they are only 11 going on 12. Maybe I was a deprived child because when I left junior school I walked home, feeling a massive sense of relief to have left the place and be moving on to high school. Had a drink and a snack and went out to mix with my friends, totally looking forward to 6 weeks off. That is as wild as it got for me and I am thankful for that.

If you start arranging limo pick ups and fire engines, when children are so young, how do you top this later on? What are kids going to expect for leaving school altogether, their 18th, 21st? The sky could be the limit by the time your son or daughter graduates from uni. Would they expect to be blasted to the moon on a spaceship for a party

How does your son feel about all of this? My advice is have a chat with him and see what he would like to do. It is unfortunate that your sons friends appear to have left him out. I hope very much this was an oversight. The limo collection is usually just the start of a fun filled evening of bowling or a similar activity, followed by a meal somewhere. If your son would still like to be involved with the celebrations, then could you perhaps have a chat to the friends mums who you are close to and ask if your son could join in with whatever has been arranged as the main fun activities. If he has been left out by mistake, then lack of space on transport does not mean he will miss out altogether that way.

vroombroom

I dread my son starting school cos of things like this.

I agree with the majority though OP, you should definitely knock the babysitting on the head for a while. Either tell her why or just say you are taking your son to football/swimming/karate lessons etc on the particular days you have the boy x

duchy

Have you actually spoken directly to either of the parents of your son's best friends - or indeed the "Queen Bee parent" who organized all this ( every class has a parent who takes this role) ?

If your son is only one of three to get into grammer I do wonder if there is a bit of resentment going on with the organizing parent and the rest are just oblivious

I'd definitely kick up a fuss about this -to the parents. If you offend them -so what - and it may very well be a solution is found to save their faces. .

My son "graduated" from junior school with a "prom and the kids arrived in limos (pick up from one child's house for everyone and a buzz around the town before arriving). I thought it was the most ridiculous idea but as the class was a very close one (and were scattering to lots of different schools) we all did it -and if I'm honest-it was lovely. He's 21 now and it is a nice memory he has as well as me. We however worked hard to make sure everyone was included (my son's best friend had moved away the year before and was invited back for it) and to keep the costs low . The school donated the school hall and staff to organize -we were all banned from the building (except the kitchen ) after decorating it - and got sent back sternly by the head to our own picnic in the grounds when we were caught peeking in the windows

marisco_2

onlyroz wrote: »

I have never ever heard of kids being picked up from primary school in a limo. Sounds like a pretentious expensive waste of time.

It causes chaos outside the school gates and to be honest looks so tatty. Why people waste their money on such a thing is beyond me. I can only be in a car if I am driving it myself as I suffer from travel sickness. To be driven in the back of one of those with a dozen noisy children would be my idea of hell.

itch_for_a_glitch

Whilst I think it an utterly ridiculous "tradition" (I would just pick him up as normal), if you must follow the herd of morons you live amongst, might I suggest you ask around your area as to who owns a half decent motorbike that could pick him up.
Born again bikers proliferate all over the country, with Harleys (ugh) sportsbikes et al, these people are usually responsible, friendly folk with nothing better to do with their money, They frequently spend more time polishing their rides than they do actually riding them. I'm sure they would jump at the chance to show off in front of a load of kids and their yummy mummies.