Limo on last day of school

Poppy9

So many snobby parents on this thread saying Limos are chavvy and acting like they are too good or above all that!

Perhaps they would prefer all the children go away to[STRIKE] middle managers butlins[/STRIKE] Center parc for the weekend!:p

kjmtidea

I have spoken to both parents because as soon as I thought about booking it, I contacted them straight away. They are the parents of my sons 2 best friends so that seemed the right thing to day, clearly no one else thinks like that!

The general reply was 'oh a few parents were talking about it and then we just booked it' no ones seems to have actually put any thought into it. I did point out that now my son doesn't have a limo and I got a 'oh sorry' and a quick change of subject.

I am going to speak to my son and let him choose something for us to do and I am really looking forward to him going to grammar school and hopefully making some new friends.

duchy

I suspect they are embarassed rather than it's deliberate but I'd find an absolutely fantastic treat for your son ....and stuff the lot of them (I'd actually give him the option to ditch the last day of school IF he wants to as well.)

lostinrates

Poppy9 wrote: »

So many snobby parents on this thread saying Limos are chavvy and acting like they are too good or above all that!

Perhaps they would prefer all the children go away to[STRIKE] middle managers butlins[/STRIKE] Center parc for the weekend!:p

I don't have kids, but if I did its certainly not something I would be encouraging AT ALL. (Nor that sort of holiday personally).

I love the idea of a giggly and excited last day with a few treats and high spirits, perhaps some talk about what is important in life....nota bene...not leaving peope out, how to make an effort to keep in touch with friends, what to do before stating seniour school etc etc). I remember some of us crying on last days too, as friends were separating in next stages of life). Then a summer including planned meet ups with friends and different activities and lots of just relaxing and self motivated play/activity.

itch_for_a_glitch

kjmtidea wrote: »

My son is going to grammar and there are only 3 boys from his year going so it's his last day with his friends, I think emotions are playing a big part in this too.
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It is time to take your son aside and explain to him that to go to grammar school is a great change in his life, an opportunity to grasp, and that later in life he will look back on the day he left his "friends" behind was the start of the path to a much better life.
I know many of the kids who didnt make it to grammar school when I did, lots did very well, but it was much harder for them. Amongst the kids I went to grammar school with, hardly any ended up failures.

couponqueen123

kjmtidea wrote: »

It wasn't arranged by the school, there were no letters, just groups of parents arranging it all. I spoke to the head teacher in passing the other day and he said that it was difficult for him to get involved because it isn't arranged by the school but the limos go onto the school grounds so surely they hold a little responsibility? I think because the tradition was started years ago, it will always continue and the school should get involved - even if it is just sending out letters making everyone aware so that children don't get left out.

My son is quite upset about the whole thing, I haven't really let on about how annoyed I am with the whole situation because I don't want to make him feel worse! I like the suggestion of picking him up 30 minutes early so he can avoid the whole thing, I don't drive but we could go jump on a bus and find something nice to do.

I do agree that it is a little ott but I think that it is a nice thing to do for them, it would be £17 each for the limo. My son is going to grammar and there are only 3 boys from his year going so it's his last day with his friends, I think emotions are playing a big part in this too.

Thanks for all the replies, just nice to get others peoples views and ideas.

hey hun, i feel for u , it must be awful as a mum trying to fix it , but have you though of hiring a "nice high end car" to pick him up a Bentley , Porsche, Ferrari, etc might cost a bit but , be worth it i think as all others will be squashed in to limos and your son could have a "proper car" set a new trend

if thats out of reach , i would give my child what i could afford and let them treat them selves over easter and explain that seeing as he couldnt use the limo hears the money to treat your self and some times people can be unkind but new school new frieds and another prom im sure be allong soon

p.s the school i went to stoped the limo/own transport thing as it was causing havock in the school (whos going with who and whos haveing a bigger limo etc . ) the school put on a bus with a £2 cost

kjmtidea

As much as I am tempted to hire a posh car for him, I think it is more the fact that he won't be with his friends that is the problem. I am going to let him choose something amazing to do - it will be a good excuse to do something nice with him anyway.

couponqueen123

Errata wrote: »

I think that's a horrible solution. Playing top trumps with kids emotions is unacceptable.

its not playing with emotions, its showing a child they wont be left out , and just because they culdnt have the same "TREAT" as the other kids , dosnt mean they shuldnt have better if available

also its only "better" if other see it as that , untill he had that limos were the best

kids eh:D

Sky_

Poppy9 wrote: »

So many snobby parents on this thread saying Limos are chavvy and acting like they are too good or above all that!

Perhaps they would prefer all the children go away to[STRIKE] middle managers butlins[/STRIKE] Center parc for the weekend!:p

Limos per-se are not chavvy, but limos for 11 year old boys, driving them around for an hour? It seems like a lot of fuss and expense for something they probably won't even enjoy after the first few minutes.

Spending money for the sake of show and for no other reason, is something I associate with chavviness.

My son went to London (we live in the far north so it was a real treat) with his class around that age, stayed in a hostel, went to the theatre, visited lots of museums and generally had a really fun and educational trip whilst bonding with his classmates. That is the sort of thing I'd see as worthwhile.

edeneve

Hi,
You know things like this really make my blood boil! Fire engines and limos just because its the last day of school....what a silly bunch!

Proms are bad enough, a leaving party great...but proms nowadays are just beyond ridiculous, limo's, expensive ball gowns, all day at the beauty shop etc etc etc.....I just don't buy into such a fake and over the top school parent culture...because half of the time it is the parents all trying to out do each other.

I have 4 teens and 3 little ones and whilst they have gone to prom, I have not spent fortunes, clothes came from debenhams sales bought before hand and everything was budgeted.

BUT...there has to be a line where pure silliness stops and this would be it for me...last day of school most we did was write all over our school shirts then sing on the way home....

Hiring a limo or fire engine...no way....I think too many parents and kids have been watching these OTT reality shows...it isnt really real life and it just breeds a generation of spoilt kids who expect mumy and daddy to do everything for them.

OK so your child hasn't been invited, inevitably someones always left out....if it were me i'd be thankful and i'd pick him/her up from school and go away somewhere nice for the weekend and then he can tell his friends that he couldn't come in the silly limo anyway as he's going away on holiday straight after school to celebrate leaving school with his family.....

We wonder why kids are spolit...or go into life refusing to take the NMW wage jobs to get them through college, instead expecting the bank of mum and dad to support them...god forbid they help themselves....things like this are the reason why, because they are over indulged and brought up living in a spolit bubble...

sorry for the rant....i just hate this kind of stuff