Limo on last day of school

vroombroom

I think the mam of the boy you watch has been a bit underhand not to mention it. You really should consider your position with her.

jellyhead

vroombroom wrote: »

I think the mam of the boy you watch has been a bit underhand not to mention it. You really should consider your position with her.

Yes, she should have thought of OP's son. But I can see how other mums might have just booked for a few kids and not considered who else might be left out.

If I were OP I'd be upset with the mums of his 2 best friends, but the fact that you've only just found out about it now suggests that it's something the mums want and talk about, and not something the boys themselves find exciting. They haven't mentioned it in school. He can still be friends with those boys - they aren't deliberately leaving him out.

dizziblonde

It's ridiculous, it sounds like an utter nightmare adding things with that level of manouverability to the standard after-school traffic bedlam - but it doesn't surprise me... I know of at least one 4 year old who celebrated her birthday with a pink limo and mocktails followed by a pamper party.

School I used to work at celebrated Y6 leaving by letting them all bring bikes and skateboards in and go nuts over the entire playground, followed by a mass waterfight (where the teachers got to participate too and avenge a few grey hairs caused over the year) - indeed one of the presents for the teachers from a kid was the biggest super soaker you'd ever seen.

jellyhead

dizziblonde wrote: »

It's ridiculous, it sounds like an utter nightmare adding things with that level of manouverability to the standard after-school traffic bedlam - but it doesn't surprise me... I know of at least one 4 year old who celebrated her birthday with a pink limo and mocktails followed by a pamper party.

School I used to work at celebrated Y6 leaving by letting them all bring bikes and skateboards in and go nuts over the entire playground, followed by a mass waterfight (where the teachers got to participate too and avenge a few grey hairs caused over the year) - indeed one of the presents for the teachers from a kid was the biggest super soaker you'd ever seen.

Skateboards and a waterfight sounds amazing

thunderbird

I would speak to the parents again and tell them how upset your son is at being left out - there surely must be some way that he can be accommodated. Plenty of time to get it sorted before the end of term.
If you go out of your way to look after their child twice a week (I assume this is unpaid?) then surely they can do something to help you/your son?

Triangle

End of middle school (primary) - a certifcate ceremony in the morning

End of high school (secondary) - a meal in the canteen and then out in the evening with friends trying to get served in various pubs

This new prom craze terrifies me - I hope its calmed down a bit by the time my little one is old enough

splishsplash

OP it's very simple. Your son can't sort this for himself - it's up to you. He is upset at being left out, it bothers him, emotions are running high, so sort it out for him.

Talk to each of the other mothers, ask them outright if your son can join their limo. If the answer is no, tell them to keep him in mind as it's a long time till July and things may change. If I was one of those parents, I would be mortified that I'd omitted a child and would certainly rejig things to make space for one more. I can't imagine why your son would be excluded from his friends' limo?

If you feel it is a deliberate attempt at exclusion, then for sure drop the kid you mind immediately and let the mother know why. To not do that is saying it's ok for that child's mother to walk all over you. Not on.

Then you're into damage limitation. Either book a holiday and miss the last couple of days, or if you can't organize something equally as exciting to your son as a limo ride with his friends, then keep him off for the last day and do something comepletely different.

It's a rotten situation, but it does need to be dealt with, for your son's sake.

I do wonder what's next though - helicopter pick-ups?

jumpedtheshark

I was in a somewhat similar position when I was a kid. There were 'limited' spaces at Brownie camp for the younger kids, and I was only one joining in my year for whom they didn't have 'room'. I was really upset because I felt like no-one liked me. It helped that my parents explained that it wasn't my friends' fault, but the parents' fault because the parents who organised were all friends and my parents weren't good friends with them.

My parents said that I could do whatever I wanted with the same money as the camp would have cost. So we talked about it a few times and got excited over ideas. In the end, I went shopping with my Dad for the afternoon - I got a brand new bike (my bike had been a hand-me-down from a neighbour), a smart bell for it, and went to McDonalds. I felt like I had had a much better time than my friends.

pollypenny

Fire-engines and limos to leave primary school! :eek:

Yea gods! This makes me so depressed! What will these spoiled little 11 year olds want when they graduate ? A trip to the moon? :cool:

This_Year

When my DD left primary school we all went to the Leavers Assembly, cue tears from everyone. Once it finished and they were free to go they went off with their friends on foot to McDonalds/BK/Costa etc [on their own] and parents mostly went [STRIKE]to the pub and cried [/STRIKE]home.

Limos etc are pretty much for Senior Proms here.