Limo on last day of school

jellyhead

I hope it's not sour grapes about him going to a better school! The primary here feeds mostly into 2 high schools, and they stay friends with each other quite a bit. My son's finished high school but is still friends with a few kids who went to a different high school. They don't have to fall out or break off contact.

As long as OP and her son haven't been crowing about him going to a 'better' school it's unlikely to be that. It's probably just that when the kids find out who is going to which high school they tend to start building stronger friendships with the ones who will be in their high school, especially around now when they will be finding out who will be in their class.

I started inviting a particular boy to Alton Towers, etc. when we found out that they would be the only kids from primary in their class, and wouldn't know anyone else. I wasn't deliberately excluding other friends, I was just focusing more on who would be there in his class next year.

scotnan

Putting all the rights and wrongs aside her of whether to hire limos for children, this is about your son being upset at thought of being left out by his friends and if it was my son in this situation I'd hurt for him too.

To be honest I really wouldn't be too pleased at the parents who have done this without a thought that one child would not be included in this treat. And, if I'm reading correctly one of those parents has a child that you look after a couple of days a week hmmm....... yes I totally agree with the others I'd be stopping that straight away. I'm all for helping other out but I will not be made a mug of or taken for granted. The fact that you help her so much by looking after her child (presumably so that she can go out to work) and she doen't even give your child a second thought smacks of utter thoughlessness and is totally unacceptable. Don't feel guilty about doing it either as they obviously don't feel guily at leaving your son out on an important milestone in his life.

Now, most importantly back to your son, if he really doesn't want to miss his last day then I would collect himfrom school at lunchtime so that he still has time to say his goodbyes yet doesn't have to go back in after the break and listen to them all excitedly talking about this limo coming for them as it's sure to upset him knowing he's not going to be part of it and then I'd do what you were going to do and treat him to a faulous day out. Maybe check out in advance if there's going to be anything special happening in your area that day, sports event, celebrity opening or whatever it is your son is into and take him along to that.
Have a great day whatever you decide to do.

dizziblonde

marisco wrote: »

I work at a junior school and I really hope this isn't arranged, by parents of our pupils, for our last day of term. The thought of several limos, fire engines and parents cars on general pick up, stuffing up the access roads for god knows how long is not a pleasant one! Us teachers have [STRIKE]end of summer term parties [/STRIKE] families to go to folks, dont jam the roads

Our local school uses the Tesco carpark to take the school run traffic rather than the local roads (it's got a gate through into the school grounds)... please don't jam up our local Tesco with limos when I'm trying to do the grocery shopping either!

FatVonD

I too would be dropping the other parent in the poo and I'd be doing it sharpish too as, presumably, once they leave primary school he won't be needing childcare after school any more.

FatVonD

I really, really want the OP to book a motorbike though. If I had one (which I don't) or could ride one (which I can't) I'd come and do it myself

Poppy9

stebiz wrote: »

Wouldn't be a bad thing for either schools to ban these events OR to organise them so nobody gets left out.

I agree. In DD primary the PTA were happy to take on Y6 last day activity. That way no child was excluded, even if their parent could not afford the activity. Some parents did try for something more formal/expensive but we felt it was about the children not the adults. Hence a play and eat at a local play centre - personally I didn't think they needed to eat but I was out voted!

In DD secondary school not only would the Y11 have thought it naff to be picked up on last day in a limo the school has a ban on them. Probably because there are almost 300 in the year group!

I know my friend's son was disappointed with his Y11 prom transport as the school organised a bus to take them from the school to the venue in the evening. He wanted to go in a limo as he had never been in one! His mother organised one for his 18th for a laugh and he was mortified at first but then he saw the funny side when he realised all his mates had been in on the joke:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

bestpud

chewynut wrote: »

Not getting involved in ethics and all that since I left in a limo in yr 11 and it was brilliant. That was yr 11 though. (I should probably admit that we left one girl out because she was a disgusting piece of work who'd spent the last three years splitting friends up and faeces-stirring like a queen. it backfired on her in the last few months when she realised not a single one of the people she'd spent three years gossiping about would let her join their limo group. She ended up with a bunch of weird people she didn't even know just so she didn't have to do a walk of shame LOL)

The irony!

You've justified leaving someone out by saying she was a gossip and generally horrid and then gone on to say a group of fellow pupils are weird and somehow a booby prize!

Sounds like you're as bad!

Poppy9

bestpud wrote: »

The irony!

You've justified leaving someone out by saying she was a gossip and generally horrid and then gone on to say a group of fellow pupils are weird and somehow a booby prize!

Sounds like you're as bad!

I was thinking the same thing!

pigpen

I wouldn't partake in such a stupid thing anyway!! Most primary children live within walking distance of school!!!

The words !!!!!! and get a grip spring to mind... it is bad enough when they have a limo for a birthday at 11!!

Funky_Bold_Ribena

DeannoDino wrote: »

With all due respect, it's not about the respect shown for the OP, it's about the child & the severe emotional strain that being excluded from an event like this can bring to the child.

With all due respect - it's about alot of things...I suspect the fact that the OP child minds the other child means that the parents don't respect her enough to include her [probably think of her as an employee rather than as 'one of them']. Which is all about respect...they have deliberately excluded two kids - one a bully and the OP's son - so there are all sorts of meanings behind this.