Limo on last day of school

paulineb_2

I was talking in general about ridiculous sums of money. £17 is a lot of money to people who don't have it and I count myself in that.

I think organising any event and leaving any child out is wrong and yes, to me it does look bad.

You go to someones house twice a week but your parents are part of organising a leavers event and won't invite your child's friend?
I think that does look pretty bad and if theres a point being made, the kids dont need to suffer.

clairec79

It may not be your child's friends parents delibrately leaving him out.

My daughter had a 'prom*' at the end of year 6 last year, we had a phone call from one of her friend's mothers not long before saying she'd found out that some of the kids were having a limo (and the boys a party bus) so she was organising one so the other kids wouldn't be left out - we agreed as didn't want our daughter being the only one left out - unfortunately someone did end up getting left out which wasn't deliberate and I felt bad about even though we weren't organising it and were led to believe it was being done as an inclusive thing to ensure noone was left out

*by prom I mean disco locally with burger and chips - it wasn't a prom, some girls did go OTT with the dresses etc though, and crowns etc - ours did have a long dress but it was about £15 from debenhams

kjmtidea

jellyhead wrote: »

As the adult I'd be tempted to stop having this boy over, but what if her son likes having him there? Maybe he's a nice lad and had no idea that her son wasn't being included in the limo.

Exactly this. My son and him are really good friends, he is a lovely boy who has almost become part of the family but I will be speaking to the mum because I am unhappy with everything at the moment.

Anyway thank you for all the replies, at the moment I think I am just going to pick him up at 1pm (school finishes at 1.30pm) and then we can go and do something fun.

Errata

It's a very long time until July, why not use it to get this sorted out?

charlieann

OP, turn up at the school gates with a giant helium balloon, start a new (cheaper) trend. Everyone will be jealous as who doesnt like balloons!

Bogof_Babe

Could you pick him up in a proper London hackney cab, if there are such things in your area? That would be reasonaby affordable but still something a bit special, all the more so as it would be exclusively for him. Perhaps you could wait round the corner and let him be "in charge", then get in when he's out of sight of his classmates. Of course you'd have to brief the school staff so that he wasn't totally bewildered when it arrived for him.

Actually I'm with the posters who think the whole thing is over the top and unnecessary, but I can also feel for your lad, who must be mortified at being left out for whatever unknown reason. Very hurtful at any age, but particularly at such a pivotal time of his young life.

splishsplash

kjmtidea wrote: »

Exactly this. My son and him are really good friends, he is a lovely boy who has almost become part of the family but I will be speaking to the mum because I am unhappy with everything at the moment.

Anyway thank you for all the replies, at the moment I think I am just going to pick him up at 1pm (school finishes at 1.30pm) and then we can go and do something fun.

With respect OP, I think it's a bit early in the day to resign yourself to that option. That should be your last resort.
This is something that may sit with your son for many years - being excluded by his peers. You really cannot just decide to do nothing about it, imho. You have three+ months to sort it for him. Why not have a chat with the other parents, particularly the mother of the child you mind after school. If no good comes of that, then drop the childminding, for your son's sake as well as your own, and let the mother know why. See if the inconvenience of having to make alternative arrangements makes her pull her socks up a bit.

You say your son is friends with the child in question, yet that child was cute enough to say nothing to your son about the limo, even though he is obviously aware of the plans, so don't delude yourself about him being almost being part of your family. He really is not.

Talk to the other parents and ASK if your son can join their limos. As others have said, I'd be surprised if there was a problem, but if there is, that's when you will have to just remove him from the situation.

If you do end up having to do that, I would suggest picking him up far in advance of 30 minutes early - how is he going to feel if limos are lining up for other kids by then? That would be awful.

kjmtidea

splishsplash wrote: »

With respect OP, I think it's a bit early in the day to resign yourself to that option. That should be your last resort.
This is something that may sit with your son for many years - being excluded by his peers. You really cannot just decide to do nothing about it, imho. You have three+ months to sort it for him. Why not have a chat with the other parents, particularly the mother of the child you mind after school. If no good comes of that, then drop the childminding, for your son's sake as well as your own, and let the mother know why. See if the inconvenience of having to make alternative arrangements makes her pull her socks up a bit.

You say your son is friends with the child in question, yet that child was cute enough to say nothing to your son about the limo, even though he is obviously aware of the plans, so don't delude yourself about him being almost being part of your family. He really is not.

Talk to the other parents and ASK if your son can join their limos. As others have said, I'd be surprised if there was a problem, but if there is, that's when you will have to just remove him from the situation.

If you do end up having to do that, I would suggest picking him up far in advance of 30 minutes early - how is he going to feel if limos are lining up for other kids by then? That would be awful.

Limos can only take 8 and fire engines 6, there is no space for him and it is not something they can change unless they tell a child who already has a space that they can no longer go. They are booked for 1.45pm so I think picking him up at 1pm will be fine. We aren't booking anything yet because he hasn't decided what he wants to do but I cannot see the limo situation changing between now and July.

silvercar

kjmtidea wrote: »

Limos can only take 8 and fire engines 6, there is no space for him and it is not something they can change unless they tell a child who already has a space that they can no longer go. They are booked for 1.45pm so I think picking him up at 1pm will be fine. We aren't booking anything yet because he hasn't decided what he wants to do but I cannot see the limo situation changing between now and July.

There must be limos that take more than 8, I've seen ones that take 14+.

Poppy9

kjmtidea wrote: »

Limos can only take 8 and fire engines 6, there is no space for him and it is not something they can change unless they tell a child who already has a space that they can no longer go. They are booked for 1.45pm so I think picking him up at 1pm will be fine. We aren't booking anything yet because he hasn't decided what he wants to do but I cannot see the limo situation changing between now and July.

My DD went in a limo that took 14 and I know you can get 10 or 12 seaters too.