Crying and more crying and she hasn't even gone yet!

Kildare

We all coped on a week away with the school in the 80s without mobile phones or even calling home once so I think todays kids will manage. Especially as these days the teachers/group organisers will have a mobile on them! And as another poster said it makes sure they are concentrating on the activities they are taking part in and not being distracted by texts.

To the OP - at the most I would expect a call once in the 14 day trip. She should be having such a good time she doesn't feel home sick and calls you just the once to update you on how the trip is going.

Padstow

My daughter has just returned from a five week trip in central America, camping in rainforest, white water rafting, the lot.
After three weeks I received an email. "Hola XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX"

:rotfl::rotfl:

gingin_2

stebiz wrote: »

I think what a few are forgetting is that a mobile is always with most 'kids'. Even now at home we keep in touch one way or another - usually email.

I can't see how she couldn't find time to send a text - and the occasional call. It's not as if it's going to cost her anything. I'm guessing she'll probably do it late at night once she's settling down but if she doesn't that's not a big problem.

And what if the network isn't working for some reason - another problem we've had when my overseas Father in law comes to visit and he can't get in touch with his daughter. The poor girl is going to be panicking because of your (selfish) expectations.

Can't you view it that if she is allowed the phone she can get in touch if she needs and nothing else.

Hermia

stebiz wrote: »

She is allowed a phone and the place she is staying at the first week has Wi-fi which should make calling us even once a day to say she's okay quite easy. That's all I'm after really 'I'm fine' once a day from her.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! I am actually cringing thinking about it. The poor girl will be a laughing stock amongst her friends. When I went away as a teenager everyone was too absorbed in the trip to worry about their boring old parents at home. As someone else said what if she forgets to ring you one day? Will you be having hear failure thinking she's dead? Your daughter could be jetting off on a gap year around the east when she is 18 and only ringing you every few weeks. You may as well see this trip as a chance to get used to your daughter being away. I feel for you, but I really hope your daughter hasn't picked up on your feelings.

balletshoes

stebiz wrote: »

I think what a few are forgetting is that a mobile is always with most 'kids'. Even now at home we keep in touch one way or another - usually email.

I can't see how she couldn't find time to send a text - and the occasional call. It's not as if it's going to cost her anything. I'm guessing she'll probably do it late at night once she's settling down but if she doesn't that's not a big problem.

It does sound to me like you really do expect her to contact you every day. i think thats unnecessary pressure on her to be honest. if she wants to i,m sure she will but she may not feel the need to ~ and you really need to be ok with that.

stebiz

balletshoes wrote: »

It does sound to me like you really do expect her to contact you every day. i think thats unnecessary pressure on her to be honest. if she wants to i,m sure she will but she may not feel the need to ~ and you really need to be ok with that.

Not necessarily. If the guide leader does what she says she is going to do and update the blog they have set up I'm sure that will be fine.

Person_one

stebiz wrote: »

Not necessarily. If the guide leader does what she says she is going to do and update the blog they have set up I'm sure that will be fine.

They probably won't do that every day though.

Look, I hate to be blunt here, but if something terrible happens you'll hear about it very quickly.

No news is good news! Just let her enjoy herself and don't let her trip be overshadowed by worrying about contacting you.

maman

stebiz wrote: »

I think what a few are forgetting is that a mobile is always with most 'kids'. Even now at home we keep in touch one way or another - usually email.

I can't see how she couldn't find time to send a text - and the occasional call. It's not as if it's going to cost her anything. I'm guessing she'll probably do it late at night once she's settling down but if she doesn't that's not a big problem.

I assume from reading this that your DD will call/text you because it seems it's expected of her both at home and away. She probably has grown up accepting that she has IMO over-protective parents and she just lives with it or maybe imagines everyone is like that.

It's obvious from the responses you've received that very few posters agree with you but you seem determined. You've moved on from floods of tears to finding a way out of seeing her off and hanging on to her by expecting a daily contact. I know you said you had depression but I find it excessive to treat a 17 year old like that. It's not that others don't love or care about their children but they've learned to loosen those apron strings. You obviously haven't.

Incidentally, when I'm away I don't even call my DH every day!:rotfl:

stebiz

maman wrote: »

I assume from reading this that your DD will call/text you because it seems it's expected of her both at home and away. She probably has grown up accepting that she has IMO over-protective parents and she just lives with it or maybe imagines everyone is like that.

It's obvious from the responses you've received that very few posters agree with you but you seem determined. You've moved on from floods of tears to finding a way out of seeing her off and hanging on to her by expecting a daily contact. I know you said you had depression but I find it excessive to treat a 17 year old like that. It's not that others don't love or care about their children but they've learned to loosen those apron strings. You obviously haven't.

Incidentally, when I'm away I don't even call my DH every day!:rotfl:

I suppose some of your points are right but we have always been a close family. I still call my brother, Mum, Dad regularly. Even go on holiday with them as a big gang. I lend my brother money. He does things for me. It is the way we like it and it works well for us.

I agree about loosening those apron strings but she'll always be my daughter and I'll be there whenever she needs me.

ampersand

'and I'll be there whenever she needs me.'

CLUE: -so let her decide when this is.....please!