Crying and more crying and she hasn't even gone yet!

seashore22

If this is for real (and I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt here, despite the fact that you have succeeded in pushing all my buttons) then a phone call once a day is the worse thing you can do. You will be constantly waiting for the phone call and if you don't get one, for whatever reason, you're going to go into meltdown. No news is good news, as they say.

We are also a very close, loving family, but this level of smothering is totally unnecessary. Your daughter has a wonderful opportunity, so let her enjoy it in peace.

Edit - having read the whole thread I'm a trifle annoyed now! You appear to suggest that those of us who don't want hourly updates on our offsprings lives are not close or loving! On the contrary I think we all have a healthy balance and know how to let go.

geoffky

stebiz wrote: »

That's very harsh. It's a holiday/trip. How would you like to go abroad 'alone' ie no family, with no use of a phone/camera?

I have a feeling you might be in for a shock...Your bill is going to be high...And hers untouched..

stebiz

Frith wrote: »

Can I ask how it works when your daughter is at school? Does she have to text or phone you throughout the school day?

She doesn't 'have' to do anything. We are a close knit family who keep in close contact with each other. Lifts, Homework, Talk, Go out together eg Cinema, etc

I have just spoke to her about phone calls and asked what 'she' wants and she said well other than being a 1000 mile away I'd like to phone you when I can and email you when I'd like you to phone. Sounds good to me. That means when we phone it will be convenient for her.

Frith

Why would YOU be phoning her? I thought it was up to her to phone you?

balletshoes

stebiz wrote: »

Get a bloody life. I'd phone her if I wanted to. She has a mobile. If I was sitting there and thought oh right I wonder what she's upto I'd give her a quick call. Hate to be in your house. Leave notes do yeh?

I think what others might be getting at here is - expecting daily updates and expecting that your daughter will call you every day while she's away on an organised holiday with her friends may be unrealistic. Similarly, I'm really glad your daughter has told you that she'll email you when she wants you to call her - because seriously, otherwise if you are sitting home and thinking I'll give her a quick call, and thats every day, the other kids in the group might well think thats overpowering and overbearing.

thorsoak

Don't forget the time difference, don't forget the additional "roaming" charges. Far better to wait for her to post on F/B .....if she has time!

Just when do you intend cutting the umbilical cord???

CH27

stebiz wrote: »

Get a bloody life. I'd phone her if I wanted to. She has a mobile. If I was sitting there and thought oh right I wonder what she's upto I'd give her a quick call. Hate to be in your house. Leave notes do yeh?

Stop suffocating her. You will make her a laughing stock.

stebiz

thorsoak wrote: »

Don't forget the time difference, don't forget the additional "roaming" charges. Far better to wait for her to post on F/B .....if she has time!

Just when do you intend cutting the umbilical cord???

It really isn't a case like that. My Mum and Dad are in their 70's. Go to France next month. They call a few times. My wife when she's at work phones me. I phone her. My daughters text each other lots. We all go on holiday - extended family as well, together.

I'm not really too bothered about charges. I'm not skint. Although if cheap tariffs where there great. Seems to me like there are a few on here (not all) that enjoy their own company that much they don't share their lives with the family. Sad really.

stebiz

Well he or she don't appear to phone each other. Seems I'm the odd one enquiring if DD wants a lift here, or if she phones wanting me to collect something. It's how we are.

balletshoes

stebiz wrote: »

Well he or she don't appear to phone each other. Seems I'm the odd one enquiring if DD wants a lift here, or if she phones wanting me to collect something. It's how we are.

But you won't need to be doing any of that while she's away on holiday .

My daughter and I phone/text each other too, but not every day, because we see each other at home every day and chat then.

You don't want your daughter thinking she has a duty to call/contact you every day while she's away, do you? Of course if she wants to she should, and she's already told you that when she can, she'll call/email.