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Bazey

Bet she's a Taurus.

spirit

Ah, so it's the run up to Christmas and she finds herself all alone and thinks ah, wait a minute, I know who I can spend the day with/get a present from....

Now finds herself backseated.

Not that I'm cynical or anything.

bagpussbear

spirit wrote: »

Ah, so it's the run up to Christmas and she finds herself all alone and thinks ah, wait a minute, I know who I can spend the day with/get a present from....

Now finds herself backseated.

Not that I'm cynical or anything.

I agree with this - she realises she is alone for christmas! I have been on the receiving end of this type of thing for Valentines day, in the past I have been asked out a few days before by guys that haven't shown any interest before, and then show no interest once Valentines day has passed.

Excuse the language but she is mind-f**king with you. If you continue to have contact she will only break your heart over again. Don't let her OP.

Keep things going with your new lady friend, even though its just a bit of fun, for now anyway.

Lunar_Eclipse

barbiedoll wrote: »

If you still care for her, love her and think that you should try again, then call her, arrange a meeting and ask her what it is that she wants?

If you want to be with her and she wants to be with you then you should be together. If she doesn't want that, or you no longer want that, then cut all contact, she has no right to dictate who you see or date.

And make sure that your current squeeze really does have "no feelings" for you. You say that she may have had the hots for you previously, if your heart isn't in it, do make sure that she knows it isn't going any further.

Oh, and good luck!

I agree with all of this. Very nicely put too.

tiger_eyes

Let's give your ex the benefit of the doubt and assume that she's genuinely in a bad place for whatever reason. Her behaviour right now isn't good for either of you - it's making both of you feel worse. No more contact.

Lunar_Eclipse

bagpussbear wrote: »

I agree with this - she realises she is alone for christmas!

Really? That sounds like schoolgirl antics to me and whilst I don't know this woman, I've read enough posts from Orlando to believe he was with a nice woman and not an incredibly childish, immature one.

gunsandbanjos

Bazey wrote: »

Bet she's a Taurus.

Oi! Less of that:cool:

OP, your ex is being incredibly unfair. She has no right to be hurt because you've moved on no matter who it's with (unless it's her sister/mum, that's not ok).

You sound like you're better off out of it to be honest.

CRANKY40

Totally agree with your friends for what it's worth. She has no right to an opinion about who you are currently seeing and you do not have to choose your current girlfriends to fit in with the rules set by an ex.

Stephb1986_2

I'd reply to her and say what I do is non of your business we broke up however long ago. I've moved on maybe you should too.

Good Luck

Steph x

marisco_2

I bet your ex isn't the only one wishing she had never text!!!

You know her better than any of us, and if you wish to hold her in high regard and think well of her, then that is your prerogative. Don't allow good memories of her to cloud your judgement now though, or permit her to mistreat and guilt trip you. She is totally out of order carrying on as she is.

From the outside looking in she sounds like a woman who doesn't know what she wants from life. She decided to walk away from you, much to your despair months ago. You didn't want your relationship to end but knew it couldn't continue. In the hopes that she could move on and be happy you called a day on it all, despite what you shared together meaning a lot to you.

It would appear that she has failed to find the happiness and contentment she thought she craved. Possibly she has realised just what she gave up when she left you and now wants you back. Only you have moved on in your life and recently met someone else. This has infuriated her and she is now playing the victim and claiming you have hurt her beyond belief.

The only thing beyond belief here is the arrogance of your ex. She is a complete bunny boiler who will play with you like a cat with a mouse if you let her. Cut contact and don't look back is my advice.