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Orlando_Virgin

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I think that was honest without being guilt-trippy, although I'd personally have left out the middle paragraph.

Well done for explaining - now follow through with the removal of numbers, FB, email etc.

I really just wanted to send you a hug after reading the thread. Good luck

HBS x

I've done it. Deleted everything and I've explained why.

I can't do anymore. I need to start healing,

System

The saying goes, If you love something, Set it free... If it comes back, it's yours, If it doesn't, it never was yours....

Very wise words but so hard to do. If she loves you enough, she'll be back.

Orlando_Virgin

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I think that was honest without being guilt-trippy, although I'd personally have left out the middle paragraph.

Well done for explaining - now follow through with the removal of numbers, FB, email etc.

I really just wanted to send you a hug after reading the thread. Good luck

HBS x

Thank you. The last thing I wanted to do was to make her feel guilty. That isn't what it's about at all, just because I don't like at all what has happened, I accept that it was the right thing to do for her. I do not blame her and I certainly don't resent her.

I just don't want her to think I am blocking her out because of any resentment. It's just what I need to do now to move forward in re-building my own life.

spock007

Different situation here. Been dating girlfriend for 6 years, she's 18 years older with kids (largely grown). She wants a commitment but I'm not ready - can't bring myself to ask. It's alot to take on with the age gap and kids.. but other than that she's everything I'd want - so what's wrong? Met a nice girl my own age and nothing has happened (honestly) but I feel an excitement being with somebody my own age. But I don't want to throw away the best relationship I've ever had... I feel so low it's unreal.

ShAnE

Orlando, I think you've done the right thing. Cutting off all contact, although hard at first is better in the long run. You're handling this very well, and I am sure she understands your reasons.

Orlando_Virgin

ShAnE wrote: »

Orlando, I think you've done the right thing. Cutting off all contact, although hard at first is better in the long run. You're handling this very well, and I am sure she understands your reasons.

Thanks mate, I appreciate that. She replied to my e-mail as I expected. She is struggling with the fact I'll be gone completely and wants me to know she'll be there any time I need her. I appreciate the sentiment but unfortunately that's not gonna allow me to move on.

It's been the toughest 2 days of my life and I genuinely mean that, but I will do my best to not let it get me down and get through it.

marisco_2

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time. It can be really hard when you have been in a relationship for a long time, to find there is something pulling you both apart. Even worse when neither one of you can put your finger on it, discuss it and work through it. Something it is clear you both wish you could do.

Give your girlfriend some space for both your sakes. Keeping in touch for now via facebook etc might cause more pain than do any good.

I hope in time you two can be at least good friends, if not work it out all together.

Orlando_Virgin

marisco wrote: »

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time. It can be really hard when you have been in a relationship for a long time, to find there is something pulling you both apart. Even worse when neither one of you can put your finger on it, discuss it and work through it. Something it is clear you both wish you could do.

Give your girlfriend some space for both your sakes. Keeping in touch for now via facebook etc might cause more pain than do any good.

I hope in time you two can be at least good friends, if not work it out all together.

I have for now, I have blocked her from FB, deleted her numbers and asked her politely not to contact me. It obviously breaks my heart to do so but the situation has dictated it, not me. She understands I don't want contact, I know it guts her to know that she will most likely never hear from me again but understands if nothing else.

I do genuinely hope we can be friends again at some point in my life, I just can't see how that could be right now.

make_me_wise

Orlando_Virgin wrote: »

Broke up with my GF yesterday after 2 years. I'm 28 and she's 22 and basically for the last month or so we've really been struggling to be happy. I've seen her become less happy as the time has gone on and that has spiralled on to me being unhappy as well because I couldn't figure it out.

I hate to bring this up but it would seem that you two have been happy up until very recently. Then all of a sudden over the last month or so your girlfriend has been struggling and unhappy. Is there any possible chance she may have discovered that she is pregnant and not coping well with the idea?

I hope I have got this wrong and dont mean any offence by raising this point. It was the first thing that went through my mind though when reading your post OP.

Orlando_Virgin

make_me_wise wrote: »

I hate to bring this up but it would seem that you two have been happy up until very recently. Then all of a sudden over the last month or so your girlfriend has been struggling and unhappy. Is there any possible chance she may have discovered that she is pregnant and not coping well with the idea?

I hope I have got this wrong and dont mean any offence by raising this point. It was the first thing that went through my mind though when reading your post OP.

No offence taken, and no she isn't pregnant. She had a period within the last month so I know it's not that. She is also a very honest person so she would tell me I'm sure. If I were to try and explain the sudden drop off in happiness, it would be only that she finally started to struggle compressing whatever unhappiness she is suffering and it finally came to a head.

She could not tell me exactly why she is unhappy in truth. She is very confused and doesn't know herself. I can tell it is killing her that she can't make whatever it is right and be with me.