Just hope my DD doesn't leave it too late.

Tweety

As her mum I think it is right that you share your feelings/concerns with her - hopefully she will see that you do it because you care..

Now that you have given her your opinion she needs time and space to decide for herself when the right time is. You say she has mentioned that she would like a child so it is on the radar. Weddings are stressful enough to plan so let her take one step at a time.

oliveoil99

vroombroom wrote: »

how is it any of your business?

It's called caring which I have done from the day she was born and will do till the day I take my last breadth.

vroombroom

oliveoil99 wrote: »

It's called caring which I have done from the day she was born and will do till the day I take my last breadth.

well if my mother said anything like that to me, I'd be mortified.

TeamLowe

surely as long as your daughter is happy and healthy that's all that matters, whether she has children or not.

if you're not careful all you'll do is make her feel horrible if she's trying and it's not happening (which she could already be, people don't always share the intimate details of their love life with their mother) or make sure that she'll never ever tell you when she does start trying because you're already nagging and could get worse.

when she chooses to try for children is between her and her future husband, no one else not matter how well intentioned.

missindecisive

Lots of people have children in their late 30's nowadays. You;ve said your bit, now just leave it and let her get on with life. She's more likely to not concieve when under pressure and feeling like it's expected.

codemonkey

As someone who is the same age as your daughter and my mum says this to me all the time, I have 4 words for you. STOP IT RIGHT NOW!!! Seriously. It's a horrible thing to say and it's even worse to hear. I know you're coming at this from a caring place and you don't mean to be hurtful and you want her to understand that it might not happen later but really all you're doing is telling her she's old.

Do you know for sure they've not been trying and just not mentioning it? Because I haven't told my mum and we've been trying. I'm close to my mum too. And if she is trying and you keep going on about body clocks and getting a move on, its really painful. I remember leaving my mum's once fans bursting into tears in the car and crying all the way home.

Even if they're not trying, really. You've made your point. Your daughter will try to have a baby when she's ready and what you say makes no difference.

You sound like a lovely mum who just cares for daughter and wants the best so please, just drop this.

Goldiegirl

It's her life, and how she wishes to live it is her concern.

You've mentioned it to her, she'll either listen to you or ignore you, but it's her choice on how to proceed.

I wouldn't mention it to her again.

Maysie

Is your daughter aware of the early menopauses in the family? If so she is making an informed choice. You do have to stay out of it however much you care. She is an adult. For all you know she has taken fertility tests and has great fertility so is not worried.

My aunty had her first child at 43 took her 3 years of trying.

Tygermoth

Caring or not you are interfreing in somthing that is none of your business.

As a daughter of a 'caring' mother who goes on about leaving it to late or making it harder for my self as an 'older mum' trust me its unwelcome.

My mother refuses to belive i wish to be child free by choice as she 'cares'* that i will regret it. Thats my look out, and not hers.

No offence meant, but you and your daughter being close or not, babies are between the couple making them only.

*obsesses

oliveoil99

Tygermoth wrote: »

Caring or not you are interfreing in somthing that is none of your business.

As a daughter of a 'caring' mother who goes on about leaving it to late or making it harder for my self as an 'older mum' trust me its unwelcome.

My mother refuses to belive i wish to be child free by choice as she 'cares' that i will regret it. Thats my look out, and not hers.

No offence meant, but you and your daughter being close or not, babies are between the couple making them only.

I feel like I am being attacked on this thread, I was hoping for informed opinions and it's just turned into slag the OP off, I will now sign off and thank-you to those who replied from the heart without having a go you know who you are.