Update on my DD

balletshoes

Lagoon - you're right, its not a bog-standard circumstance.
Please read darlyd's previous threads on the subject. This is not your usual teenager versus the world situation.

Dunroamin

Quite honestly, I'm surprised that the police didn't take further action when this happened. It rather smacks of the old days when domestic violence was shrugged off as "only a domestic".

FBaby

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Shall we assume you meant empathy rather than apathy? It would do most teenagers a lot of good to lose the apathy and increase the empathy! (Sorry for being a smart@rse)

Ha ha, no, absolutely right, I do get plenty of apathy from my DD, clearly stuck in my mind

sassyblue

I read this yesterday and your story has worried me.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2294221/My-sister-psychotic-killer-Toms-sister-knifed-mother-death-years-later-butchered-stranger-reveals-I-death-list-too.html

Your daughter is violent and you have your suspicions about her mental health. YOU, not professionals know best. Make a nuisance of yourself until someone listens and to get the appropriate care and meds.

This cannot go on or your daughter will ruin all your lives.

**professor~yaffle**

sassyblue wrote: »

I read this yesterday and your story has worried me.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2294221/My-sister-psychotic-killer-Toms-sister-knifed-mother-death-years-later-butchered-stranger-reveals-I-death-list-too.html

What a terrible story OK even given a bit of 'journalistic licence' which the Daily Mail are known for, it's a tragic tale. But what can a person do when through nobody's fault one of their children turns out to be like that. Everyone in the family suffers and then people from outside the family end up being victims of this person. Very frustrating, when the family have known for many years that the person is disturbed and a danger.

gingin_2

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

What a terrible story OK even given a bit of 'journalistic licence' which the Daily Mail are known for, it's a tragic tale. But what can a person do when through nobody's fault one of their children turns out to be like that. Everyone in the family suffers and then people from outside the family end up being victims of this person. Very frustrating, when the family have known for many years that the person is disturbed and a danger.

I remember Darlyd's previous posts quite well and it was beginning to affect her younger child quite significantly. It's very sad that a year on she seems to be in a worse place.

Darlyd, do you keep in touch with teabag29? I think she managed to get her daughter in to some sort of residential placement for a period of time. Weren't you two in a similar area of the country? I think she's made some small steps lately, perhaps you can get in touch if you aren't already.

Darlyd

gingin wrote: »

I remember Darlyd's previous posts quite well and it was beginning to affect her younger child quite significantly. It's very sad that a year on she seems to be in a worse place.

Darlyd, do you keep in touch with teabag29? I think she managed to get her daughter in to some sort of residential placement for a period of time. Weren't you two in a similar area of the country? I think she's made some small steps lately, perhaps you can get in touch if you aren't already.

Yes we are in touch we been keeping each other up to date. Poor thing.

I don't know what to say now I'm lost.

Sw been involved twice and both times refer her to groups apparently there is no more they can do, I pleaded and begged to have her put into care but they won't. Cahms told me this week that they will be referring again to ss not heard nothing yet.

Like physiatrist says these groups are a waste as its like counciling someone who has diabetes with no treatment. Lets see how these antiphicotic medication works.

I dread the day she moves on her own even worse when she has her own kids. :-(.

*max*

I'm shocked that the police just let this go! It was very clearly a serious assault. What would happen if OP were to press charges? Not saying she should, I'm just curious to know what the consequences would be.

I think it's high time something is done, if only for the younger daughter's sake. Her safety and mental health are at serious risk living with someone with such potential for violence! Poor mite.

gizmo111

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

How would Darlyd go about getting the daughter placed into care, if she decided that's what was needed? Would she need the support of social services? What if they just fobbed her off?

I am no expert on kids' behaviour so it's not worth my putting whether or not I think the girl is mentally ill or just outrageously badly behaved, but something has to change. The situation can't go on like this.

Yes she would need support of social services and senior management in the Local Authority as they are the body that will be funding it.
The significant factor in this case is that there is a younger child who is at risk of signifcant harm both emotionally and physically - child protection procedures should be instigated.

OP - go to the GP Monday and get your injuries recorded.
Everytime she kicks off - call the police.

**professor~yaffle**

gizmo111 wrote: »

Yes she would need support of social services and senior management in the Local Authority as they are the body that will be funding it.
The significant factor in this case is that there is a younger child who is at risk of signifcant harm both emotionally and physically - child protection procedures should be instigated.

OP - go to the GP Monday and get your injuries recorded.
Everytime she kicks off - call the police.

Absolutely, we are all agreed that something needs to be done. But it sounds to me like when darlyd has tried to get support she is let down by social services, the police and the doctors and I was wondering if there's a way she can somehow make them take her seriously.