UPDATE --- Questions about a First Date (blind date) - Please HELP

burnoutbabe

is there an update

MortgageMamma

She might still be in bed !:rotfl:

bunty109

Any news?!?

MortgageMamma

well there is no missing reports on the news so she's either

a) having too much fun with the new fella

or

b) got a problem with her internet connection

or

c) had both hands chopped off

hmmmmmm

Dithering_Dad

I'm going to have to go with option "c". People who use the internet for chatting are right weirdos!

MortgageMamma

Why are we all so interested anyway, right bunch of saddo's arnt we

Bettyboop

Hi All,

I'm really sorry for not giving you an update. I have had internet problems to no end! My provider is messing about and so far this week it has only been working on and off for less than 5 minutes.

Well this is what happened : )

On Friday afternoon I got home from the hospital (where I work), got ready and went to a friends house across the road and she wanted to do my hair. I had already straightened it and she said I looked beautiful. My date wanted to do the gentlemanly thing and fetch me. He turned up my house and didn't find my here after I had texted him to let him know where to get me. My friend came out with me to meet him. He was not at all how I imagined him to be : (. From my friends house we went for dinner and afterwards met up with my friend and her date and went for a drink in town. I was so excited about the date but I just didn't feel right around him. We talked a lot but part of me just didn't want to be with him. Now I'm sure this is not what you were expecting. I am 29 years old and he will be 40 later this year. I know many say that age is nothing but a number but this age gap is a little to great for me. All evening I felt so guilty and still do because I was in fact cheating on my husband. I wish now that I hadn't gone ahead with this crazy idea.

He has still be texting me and I told him on Saturday that I only want to be friends and would he like that? From what I am understanding from his messages is that he wants more than that. I know he likes me but I can't like someone back just because I feel sorry for them. His last message (sent lastnight), was along the lines of "Rome wasn't built in a day" and he is missing our talks and texts.

I really feel this was honestly to soon for me. I am still in love with my husband and I really thought meeting someone new would make me happy and I felt there was a possibility of moving on.....

I can't reply to the message as I don't want more than friendship. His friend who arranged out date has also phoned me twice to reconsider and tell me what a lovely guy he is....etc. All I can say is that he will meet someone someday that will love to be with him but that person is not me.

Thanks all for contributing to my post. x

Errata

Well, at least you tried. Could be that the chemistry just wasn't there - it happens. And now you know he doesn't like taking no for an answer Perhaps he's a bit lonely and consequently a bit needy. Or he might think copping off with a gorgeous young woman is his dream come true and he doesn't want to let you off the hook!
Be firm, be clear and if need be keep saying 'I'd wouldn't mind being friends, but nothing more' and keep repeating it without saying anything else until he and his mate get the message. If you think the message isn't getting through point out you feel you're being pestered and hassled. And if that doesn't work you might need to use more down to earth language! And if that doesn't work ..........employ a bouncer!

Jet

It's an experience and will have taught you something.

There's nothing wrong with going on a few dates but don't expect a long term relationship from them and you won't be disappointed.

As for moving on.... it takes as long as it takes and you can't do anything about that but getting out and meeting new people is always good for you.

Angel777

Just glad your ok!

Like others have said it is an experience and at least you know now.

Just be honest like you have and tell your friend and him that you dont think there is any chemistry.

He will hopefully soon get the message.