UPDATE --- Questions about a First Date (blind date) - Please HELP

MortgageMamma

I met someone online once when I was 24 (I am now 31). I went out with him 7/8 times, and on the 9th (i think) time decided I fancied a roll in the sack so to speak. So, gave out all the right signals, got him back to my place and he spent so long on the foreplay I needed the loo!

When I came back from the loo I found him rooting around in my bedside drawer. I said "what the hell are you doing" and he said "oh I was just looking to see if you had any fun stuff" - odd I thought, I've only just met him and he wants to get my toys out. Thought it would have been a sign of good times to come!

Anyway, did the business, woke up the next day and he was gone. Went downstairs for a brew and there was a note from him on the fridge - "You've been had, Love P"

Too right I thought smiling to myself. Later that day I decided to go get my nails done. Went looking for my purse. Looked and looked, nowhere to be found. I'd been robbed purse credit cards, all jewelrey everything.

This guy claimed to be a police officer working for Greater Manchester Police.

Needless to say it was reported and mine wasnt the first case either - I dont think they ever caught him.

So I apologise if I have been a little negative - but I wouldn't wish this sort of thing on anyone else.

MM

Ps - I was also wearing big knickers, but I'm not sure that had anything to do with it.

MortgageMamma

absolutebounder wrote: »

Avoid alchohol its the greatest sex aid known to man.

And women, if used in moderation.

Bettyboop

Thanks all for the fabulous advice. I can't put into words how happy I am....what worries me is when we see each other? If he doesn't like me or I don't like him maybe we could be good friends.

bunty109

Betty, I hope you have a great time.

Only advice I have is to make sure someone knows where you are. My best friend has been on a couple of blind dates and she has told me where she is going and asked me to text her during the evening just to make sure it's kosher and she's ok.

Just don't enjoy yourself so much you forget to text back!!!

PS Nothing wrong with not drinking!

Mizz_Pink

Ive got a top tip,

To save you time taking your knickers off just pull them to one side :rotfl: AAAhhhh them were the days

Seriously keep texting a good freind with details of where you are, relax if you can, and be yourself !

Let us know how it goes

Bettyboop

All this advice is wonderful....I'm also quite clumsy and can see myself spilling something on my clothes, tripping over something (I'm probably worse that Susan from Desperate Housewives) : ).

I haven't told my husband about this....I don't want a reaction from him. This guy makes me smile...(I have been down for months on end) and I don't know what it is but he makes me so happy - even though we have only spoken over the phone once and texted each other loads.

MM - What an idiot to have done that to you. It's a shame you didn't have a picture of him that you put out for everyone else to see. There is only one friend who knows about him and I'm going to ask her to text me when the date eventually happens. It's not this weekend as it's my turn with my daughter. Next weekend is her fathers turn. So maybe then.

MortgageMamma

The world is full of idiots betty but there are some equally amazing people and I've been fortunate to meet someone who is not only a great lover but is my best friend too - its not all hearts and flowers but the connection and attraction is strong

You sound like you lack in confidence a bit. Not suprising after a seperation and being in the throws of divorce, I know this as I have been there. Howver I went the opposite way and went through as many men as I could to prove to myself that I was worthwhile.

You might benefit from some personal development - I personally have benefitted from hypnosis in various ways and I have read a lot of books. As a starting point i think you should read Instant Confidence by Paul McKenna, its easy reading and can really work, then read change your life in seven days by Paul McKenna. I also read I will make you slim by paul mckenna but my head was mashed by then and I'm still overweight.

These books will make you question how you think if nothing else and I'm sure will help you.

Good luck you deserve it, and most importantly, an update after your date would be nice!!

MM x

BettyDebt

I think most importantly is just have a good time. Enjoy the flirtation and feel good and if nothing comes of it after meeting. Thats ok too.
Its hard to not pin your hopes on someone new when you've been badly hurt but if you can meet this guy, there are others to be met. And as MortgageMamma says there are idiots out there but some amazing people too.

Have fun!

MortgageMamma

Hi BettyAnother thing that I think - some relationships you have will be short lived, but exciting and intense. Some will be lengthy and eventually settle down into more of a friendship. You just have to live for the day and enjoy whatever time you have with that person. its not the amount of time you are with them that counts its the quality of the time and the emotions when you are with them that counts. There was one man I met, only ever saw him a few times (days at a time not hours) but boy did I feel for him. I was gutted when it ended suddenly and without explanation - but just shoved all the good memories into the good memory bank and moved on. Equally there have been men I have known for months and years who have'nt had a fraction of that effect on me. I just love the buzz of new relationships when theres a lot of anticipation and excitement. Older men are always so much better too.Don't pin your hopes on him or you will get hurt (or worse scare him off), just enjoy the moment while it lasts! Has he texted you today?

Bettyboop

MM, he has texted me a few times today. He said he will call me after work so I'm not sure whether to answer it the first time (he may think I don't have anything to do) what do you think?

For the last few days all am thinking about is him. I am walking around smiling for no reason and today he said that he hadn't been so happy in such a long time....and it's the same with me. Why am I constantly thinking about him....he's literally on my mind every second of the day....it's so odd since we have never seen each other.