Affair?

bagpussbear

victory wrote: »

Her gut instinct says affair hence the thread;)

lol its strange when our gut instinct tells us one thing, yet our head searches for all sorts of other answers..

pimento

aileth wrote: »

He will only use the phone when he goes to the toilet also, and he'll be in there for 20-30 minutes. He never gets it out when I'm there and if it goes off he ignores it.

You what? This screams 'affair' to me.

DUTR

FBaby wrote: »

I'm very surprised by everyone responses. What you've written can be summarised as follow:
- you don't have an intimate relationship
- he doesn't tell you what he does in his days off
- he goes and hide for up to 1/2 hour in the toilet with his phone
- he never picks up his phone if it rings in your presence
- he never lets it out of his sight
- his phone is password protected but he won't tell you what the password is
- it would appears he protects his emails
- you've just found a suspicious note
- he hasn't bothered to call you to ask you what your message is all about and felt the need to reassure you immediately that it is a misunderstanding

and everyone think it is NOTHING???? Well sorry but I don't consider myself paranoid in anyway and trust my partner totally, but if I was the one writing this, I would most definitely be worried that he is indeed up to something. Sorry but my interpretation is that there are more chances from what you right that you have discovered something than all the above being totally unrelated and normal behaviour when all put together.

Heh heh , after the smelling the coffee thread, sexless relationships are the norm aren't they?
If he has done nothing significant then there is little to 'report'.
30 mins on the loo, yes a little suspect unless he is blocked up
Phone owners control their phone, not the phone controls them, he may ignore calls in the viewers absence too. Beside this 'lover' would know the man is co-habiting and when to and not to call?
Some folk do 'love' there phone, I have seen couples at restaurants, sat opposite each other but both blasting away on their phones (texting/browsing)
Everybody should protect their online and other access's.

The other question to ask is....if it is found that he is having an affair , then what is the author going to do? A bloke doesn't have an affair if all is happy at home

Molly41

I found out my ex was having an affair by a scribbled out note in the back of our joint cheque book. It confirmed my suspicions and that was that. You need to go with your instincts.

balletshoes

aileth wrote: »

He will only use the phone when he goes to the toilet also, and he'll be in there for 20-30 minutes. He never gets it out when I'm there and if it goes off he ignores it.

okay, thats just weird, and is screaming out he's up to something. He really doesn't use his phone at home unless he's in the toilet? Really?

juliebunny

DUTR wrote: »

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A bloke doesn't have an affair if all is happy at home

Oh don't make me laugh. That line must have been trotted out by soooooo many men to blame their poor wives for their own misbehaviour. And yes, I'm sure it works the other way round (women having affairs).

In my experience, if you think something is going on, then it usually is. Women's instinct is too important to ignore.

CKhalvashi

Alchemilla wrote: »

why does he need a password on his phone?

I have one on mine, as there is commercially sensitive information on there.

If he uses his for work, this could be the same case.

CK

Tigsteroonie

Marley doesn't really use his phone at home - he'll only pick it up if I text him during the day, or if his brother texts in the evening. He doesn't send unprompted texts, nor uses it for the internet (he's got a computer for that). Then he picks up his phone and takes it into the toilet for 20 minutes at a time .... Am I suspicious? No, because I hear the 'blip blip blip' of Angry Birds He's just passing the time in there. So - not every man is 'secretive' with his phone, some just don't use it except for bathroom entertainment (and not that sort!)

FBaby

My partner has passwords for his mobiles and playbook, but I know what they are. I didn't need to ask, he just told me (although I could have guessed anyway, they are the same for just about everything!!!)

Valli

juliebunny wrote: »

Oh don't make me laugh. That line must have been trotted out by soooooo many men to blame their poor wives for their own misbehaviour. And yes, I'm sure it works the other way round (women having affairs).

In my experience, if you think something is going on, then it usually is. Women's instinct is too important to ignore.

If it's on offer, some bloke will take it.;)