Would you be annoyed?

pmlindyloo

Since mobiles/texting are part of the modern age then I would be expecting them to be used as part of daily life.

There are 2 issues here.

One he got blind drunk, woke you up and hasn't yet apologised.

Two, he did not contact you to let you know that he was going to be late.

Both of these need to be addressed in the near future.

Whether adults or teenagers I think in this day of modern technology a text or phone call to say you are going to be late is common politeness.

Yes, before the ability to have instant messaging/telephoning you had to hope and pray everything was OK and in an emergency track down the person by other means.

And this is what I think it is all about. There is no excuse for people not to contact each other and let them know what is happening 'outside the norm'. Supposing you or his mum had been taken seriously ill - what would have happened then?

As for someone being too drunk to text- this is rubbish. The young are experts at texting - I expect there was a constant stream of texting and taking photos going on all evening.

This is not about your constant nagging - in fact you should not have to be texting/nagging at all. He should have texted you to say he was going to be late and not to wait up.

Anyone who lives in the same house should be aware of everyone's whereabouts. This is plain common sense. Obviously there will be exceptions to this but a quick text is comforting and polite.

Your OH does sound a little 'unaware' (I am being polite!)

He needs to be reminded that, in future, you would expect a quick text.

As for waking you up an apology is needed - hope you get one!

Marshflower

helenut wrote: »

it's not like it was a lads night out. He went out with him and a group of females, one of which their boyfriend just broke up with her as he was jealous of how she and my OH act together. I haven't met them and they all go to college together (he does a very female-heavy subject).

Is this not maybe the real crux of the matter? Who he was with?

Gloomendoom

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Since mobiles/texting are part of the modern age then I would be expecting them to be used as part of daily life.

I was an early adopter of the mobile mobile phone, back in the early 90's when they were huge. However, three or four years ago I just stopped carrying one about.

It's liberating.

pmlindyloo

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I was an early adopter of the mobile mobile phone, back in the early 90's when they were huge. However, three or four years ago I just stopped carrying one about.

It's liberating.

I totally agree,

I hate the things and only have one for what I call essential usage (like phoning the OH when I'm out and am going to be back later than expected!!!!!!!) or for if I break down in the car (have you ever tried using one of those motorway call boxes in the pouring rain and with traffic whizzing by at 100 mph?)

My particular pet hate is listening to inane conversations from mobiles on the train. I am really naughty and always make some comment when they finish their conversation like 'so what will you be wearing on your night out?'

make_me_wise

Person_one wrote: »

Female what? Female monkeys? Female cats? If you mean female humans they're called women, for future reference.

:rotfl::rotfl:

You really feel the need to ask what the OP was referring to? Then go one step further and point out the obvious. Where do you get off being so patronising and condescending.

Person_one

make_me_wise wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:

You really feel the need to ask what the OP was referring to? Then go one step further and point out the obvious. Where do you get off being so patronising and condescending.

I think you missed the point. Referring to other women as 'females' comes off as a touch derogatory, don't you think?

helenut

Person_one wrote: »

I think you missed the point. Referring to other women as 'females' comes off as a touch derogatory, don't you think?

I didn't mean it in a bad way, they're all about 18 years old and I don't yet consider myself as a woman so I thought it sounded old! But girls sounded too young :P but yes, female humans haha

MissSarah151

My ex did that to me and it got progressively worse - he would say he was going for a drink with the lads - great no problem - have fun - but the lads (bar one) would all go home at normal times - but he would head up to the casino and spend all night there - so a drink with the lads soon translated as 'I'll be back between 5-7am''. Would never think to text/call (I know it sounds like he was cheating on me and I'm being incredibly naive - but he was most definitely at the casino - I found all the casino marked ATM receipts - luckily it was just his money he was blowing). I feel like such a mug looking back on it - so I recommend you get this sorted - and don't let it get to that stage! There honestly is nothing worse than lying in bed trying to get to sleep and thinking every little noise is them coming in, worrying that they aren't home yet.

Sorry that turned in to my own little rant! In short though - yes I would be annoyed! It takes a few seconds to text saying they will be home later on!!

Person_one

helenut wrote: »

I didn't mean it in a bad way, they're all about 18 years old and I don't yet consider myself as a woman so I thought it sounded old! But girls sounded too young :P but yes, female humans haha

Ok, fair enough. Girl is fine if they're teenagers, but I'd avoid using female as a noun!

balletshoes

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Since mobiles/texting are part of the modern age then I would be expecting them to be used as part of daily life.

There are 2 issues here.

One he got blind drunk, woke you up and hasn't yet apologised.

Two, he did not contact you to let you know that he was going to be late.

Both of these need to be addressed in the near future.

Whether adults or teenagers I think in this day of modern technology a text or phone call to say you are going to be late is common politeness.

Yes, before the ability to have instant messaging/telephoning you had to hope and pray everything was OK and in an emergency track down the person by other means.

And this is what I think it is all about. There is no excuse for people not to contact each other and let them know what is happening 'outside the norm'. Supposing you or his mum had been taken seriously ill - what would have happened then?

As for someone being too drunk to text- this is rubbish. The young are experts at texting - I expect there was a constant stream of texting and taking photos going on all evening.

This is not about your constant nagging - in fact you should not have to be texting/nagging at all. He should have texted you to say he was going to be late and not to wait up.

Anyone who lives in the same house should be aware of everyone's whereabouts. This is plain common sense. Obviously there will be exceptions to this but a quick text is comforting and polite.

Your OH does sound a little 'unaware' (I am being polite!)

He needs to be reminded that, in future, you would expect a quick text.

As for waking you up an apology is needed - hope you get one!

am I reading the same thread as everyone else? Was he later than he expected to be? Or was it that the OP assumed that because she was going to be home by 8pm that he would be home by then too, from his drinks out with his friends? He may have expected to be out til 1am when he mentioned it to the OP before he went out? So why then would he text or phone her to tell her he was on schedule?

I do agree he should apologise for getting the OP out of bed to let him in because he was too drunk to open the door.