Would you be annoyed?

HeadAboveWater

Back to this then...

ShAnE wrote: »

It sounds like a 26year old is living with a 16 year old.

Joons

helenut wrote: »

I did think my multiple texts were a bit OTT. I've calmed down a bit now, still won't be speaking to him until I get home, I want to see if he will actually put dinner on without me telling him how

I probably do need to chill out a bit, he's young and a student. I think I may be a little jealous?? It has been a couple of years since I left uni and I'm on a distance learning course + working full time + paying all the bills (his mum pays half the rent). I wish I could be out partying

Yeah I wud be a bit jealous too and that would make me even angrier him not getting in touch! It's not a major problem but speak to him tonight about how worried you were etc and no matter what he says, texting someone at 8am and not hearing from them is a lack of respect, does he sulk a lot when you point out his wrongdoings?

glitter03

I bet he managed to call/text his mates tho to arrange where to meet up etc!

19lottie82

Are the few posters on here that are suggeting that the OP leave him or "think long and hard about their future together", REALLY SERIOUS?

The lad is 23 years old. He went on a bit of a bender with his mates. Woweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Don't get me wrong, if I was the OP I would be a bit miffed too BUT more over the fact that he didn't reply to the texts than he went out and got drunk.

I wouldn't make it easy on him (the last time my OH got blotto and fell in at 4am, I dragged him up at 9am to trapse around town, to finish the xmas shopping :rotfl:) but it certainly wouldn't make me "serisously consider our future together"!

LannieDuck

To those who are saying 'he's just had an evening out, what's the problem?', I suggest that waking your gf up at 1am with no hint of either a thank you or an apology is seriously out of line.

Gra76

If I did what the OP's other half did I'd be in the doghouse for weeks. It takes all of 20 seconds to reply to a text. He sounds like he doesn't really see it as a big deal. Ask him what he'd think if you acted the same way he did.

Joons

19lottie82 wrote: »

Are the few posters on here that are suggeting that the OP leave him or "think long and hard about their future together", REALLY SERIOUS?

The lad is 23 years old. He went on a bit of a bender with his mates. Woweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Don't get me wrong, if I was the OP I would be a bit miffed too BUT more over the fact that he didn't reply to the texts than he went out and got drunk.

I wouldn't make it easy on him (the last time my OH got blotto and fell in at 4am, I dragged him up at 9am to trapse around town, to finish the xmas shopping :rotfl:) but it certainly wouldn't make me "serisously consider our future together"!

If they are serious, they're the ones who need the help! :rotfl:

newcook

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Will he even notice? I wouldn't.

of course he will - he's hungry and needs to know how to cook the food!!


I would be pretty peeved off that he'd not let you know he would be back late - one of my ex's used to go out and not answer his phone or not text back that he would be out til late.
funnily enough he would let me know if he'd be late after he had to sleep in the garden one night as I wouldnt get up and answer the door and had turned off my phone!
childish? perhaps but it seemed the only way he'd learn!!

bitemebankers

helenut wrote: »

I probably do need to chill out a bit, he's young and a student.

This, exactly.

If I felt I couldn't go out for a *pre-arranged* night of drinking with friends without being in constant ping-pong text contact with my partner, under threat of rage when I got in, that wouldn't be a suitable relationship for me.

Lighten up, or you might succeed in driving him away.

balletshoes

LannieDuck wrote: »

To those who are saying 'he's just had an evening out, what's the problem?', I suggest that waking your gf up at 1am with no hint of either a thank you or an apology is seriously out of line.

maybe he's going to apologise is person later today?

I've been running your scenario through in my head OP, both from your perspective and his, and so far, I'm not really seeing the big deal?

He said he was going out with his mates, in advance. He went, and came home when the pubs chucked out, too drunk to get the door open - he wanted to pass out in bed and sleep the deep sleep of the drunken (been there, done that in my dim and distant youth ). So he did. You got up, went to work, he was still in bed. He's now up and feeling rough as a badger's bum.

Yes, he should apologise for getting you out of bed so late - and maybe he will this evening when you get home from work. But honestly, unless you're both in the habit of texting each other 3 times a day and immediately replying to each other's texts, I wouldn't be concerned with the lack of texting. If I was really worried that something had happened to him, I wouldn't have stewed until the middle of the night - I would have called him instead, at 7.30pm, to ask if he was staying out, and if he was, I'd have said thats fine, see you when you get home.

If you were worried last night OP, and thats whats annoyed you, then tell your OH that, today, but I don't see theres any need to have a massive falling-out over it.