Would you be annoyed?

heartbreak_star

I had a similar thing on Saturday where I was left hanging while the OH had "just one more drink". (We were out with separate groups of friends, I was driving).

Me and my lot planned to be finished up by 8. OH said he'd meet me at 8.30, by 9.30 I was frantic trying to call him in case something had happened. He answered and said he'd be 10mins.

He finally showed up at five past 10. Livid wasn't the word - I bit my tongue a bit and we had a good talk about it the next day.

I said I never want him to stop going out, I like the fact we have our own groups of friends and hobbies etc. as well as shared ones. I was just worried that something had happened, so if he's going to run on drunk-bloke time, could he keep me informed. In turn he said he never realised how worried I'd be as I was out with friends too, and admitted if the situation was reversed he'd have torn up the town looking for me as he would have worried so much.

Communication is key - it sounds like you need a very long talk.

HBS x

HeadAboveWater

I'm starting to think all our OHs were at the same bar the other night :rotfl:

bodmil

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Gloomendoom

martinthebandit wrote: »

There are some posters on this thread that are coming across as a bit needy, it is possible to go a whole day without texting someone.

I never have a problem with other people getting upset because I don't text them. I just don't bother with a mobile phone.

lauroar

helenut wrote: »

texted him at 8am
texted again in the afternoon again asking how it went, but got no reply.
texted him saying I will be home in about 2hrs
7:30pm texted again. No reply.

I would have been seriously p***ed off in your situation. It's common courtesy to at least reply to one of the messages you sent him - I get that when you're out drinking time can pass without you checking your phone but you're not telling me he didn't look at his phone for 18 hours. All it needed was one text to say hi/he was out/not to worry. I'm naturally a worrier and I would have been so worried that something may have happened to him. Saying that, my bf would always text at some point during the day in this situation, just to check in - maybe your bf is different and he didn't feel it was necessary.

I think the fact that everyone these days is constantly 'connected' (phone/internet) makes it more disconcerting when you don't hear from someone you're trying to get in touch with.

System

Have none of you gone out with the intention of only having one drink and ended up plastered? I know i have.

As long as it wasnt a regular occurrance i wouldnt worry about it but i'd make him suffer anyway.

As for not responding to your texts. When i am hammered i cant use my phone. Its as much as i can do to keep it safe but managing how to work it.... thats well beyond my capabilities.

Joons

The going out getting drunk is not a problem, he's a big boy but clearly not big enough to bother letting you know where he is and when he'll be home, total lack of respect I'm afraid. You need to make it clear to him you won't tolerate this and he needs to take that in and ensure it doesn't happen again, ie, texts you b4 he goes on the sauce so at least you know not to expect him, don't give him a time limit, let him come home when he wants, he'll be the one witht he sore head the next day!

Gloomendoom

But he did tell her that he was going out for a drink. She said it was OK.

helenut

I did think my multiple texts were a bit OTT. I've calmed down a bit now, still won't be speaking to him until I get home, I want to see if he will actually put dinner on without me telling him how

I probably do need to chill out a bit, he's young and a student. I think I may be a little jealous?? It has been a couple of years since I left uni and I'm on a distance learning course + working full time + paying all the bills (his mum pays half the rent). I wish I could be out partying

Gloomendoom

helenut wrote: »

I did think my multiple texts were a bit OTT. I've calmed down a bit now, still won't be speaking to him until I get home,

Will he even notice? I wouldn't.