Would you be annoyed?

Pleaseadvise

I wouldn't just be annoyed, I'd be incandescent! 23 is not a child - at that age my husband and I were married and parents. The fact that the boyfriend isn't even sorry is amazing.

19lottie82

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That was your choice. I think most 23 year olds are still out partying rather than changing nappies.

benjus

I don't like texting very much, and don't make a secret of it... so hopefully people that know me wouldn't be surprised if a text wasn't replied to promptly. OTOH, I wouldn't ignore 6 texts. So while it's not great, his behaviour on this front doesn't seem like such a big deal to me. As the earlier poster said, people did manage 15 years ago without being able to call/text each other all the time.

Having a big night out after telling you he would be out and asking if it was OK doesn't seem like much to complain about either.

The thing that does bother me is the way he treated you when he got back home and the next morning, which does seem to show a total lack of respect.

Errata

people did manage 15 years ago without being able to call/text each other all the time.

People only send vast numbers of txts, often to the same person almost by the minute, because they're free.

HeadAboveWater

benjus wrote: »

I don't like texting very much, and don't make a secret of it... so hopefully people that know me wouldn't be surprised if a text wasn't replied to promptly.

I think this is another good point. You're not a texter so little or no texting is the norm for you.

If OP and OH are regular texters, then no response is not the norm. Same as with me on Saturday night as per my previous post. OH would normally reply within an hour even when he's out. But 3+1/2 hours with no response, and 1+1/2 hours after he said he'd be home, that's worrying!

Marshflower

I don’t think what he did is the issue so much as it’s clearly something that has occurred before which you have established you don’t find acceptable within your relationship, he knows this and yet he still went ahead and did it. You need to talk to him, rather than ignoring him, and find a compromise.
I would be as cross as you at being ignored (not the going out bit), but then that's just me. I suspect if he were the one posting on here, he would be telling us that he'd told his girlfriend he would be out, been completely open, but she kept hassling him and wouldn't just leave him be to have a good time.
Although I imagine he is feeling a bit guilty about waking you up at 1am....

Dunroamin

Although the BF is acting rather young for 23, the OP is acting rather middle aged - not a recipe for a successful relationship.

19lottie82

Dunroamin wrote: »

Although the BF is acting rather young for 23, the OP is acting rather middle aged - not a recipe for a successful relationship.

Great post! :T

helenut

Dunroamin wrote: »

OP is acting rather middle aged

I feel it! Probably something to be worked on...

bitemebankers

Dunroamin wrote: »

Although the BF is acting rather young for 23, the OP is acting rather middle aged - not a recipe for a successful relationship.

Steady on there...me and my partner are practically middle aged and we don't get cross about the other going out for the occasional p!ss up.