They forgot my birthday!!

Person_one

Sommer43 wrote: »

And send your parents a thank you card. For giving you life on the 27th February and whatever year you were born.

Oh yuk! I hope that's a joke!

whitewing

Announce that you are having your forgotten birthday celebrations on Mother's Day.

msb5262

alwaysworried wrote: »

yes saving pennies the debt does still bother him and I can understand that. I wasn't expecting a gift but a card which costs less than £1.00 is obviously too much money to spend on me!

To the posted who said to buy myself a gift because he bought himself one. I won't do that, it would cause a war in our house. in the sales just after Christmas I bought myself a pair of boots because my old ones burst and they couldn't be repaired (cobbler confirmed this). They weren't expensive boots, they were from Primark, cost £15.00.

OMG the row that caused!!!! I understand I shouldn't get anything because I was the one that got us into debt, but even "happy birthday sweetheart" it doesn't cost anything. I'm just not worth that!

Can you just run that by me again? I must be reading it wrong because it looks from here as if your husband is behaving like a 2 year old...

sassyblue

That's not nice OP, I've seen plenty of money saving ideas on here, your hubby could have at least taken the kids off your hands to let you do something for yourself if he couldn't have afforded anything else.

Get yourself a small pressie, flowers and cake like someone suggested, even better tell them you'll be having a belated birthday on Sunday so they can spoil you. I did that this year because l felt ill on my actual birthday!

And happy birthday from me. Xx

alwaysworried_2

msb5262 wrote: »

Can you just run that by me again? I must be reading it wrong because it looks from here as if your husband is behaving like a 2 year old...

he is behaving like a child, well I think so, and you do too, but then, we are talking about my husband!!!

CH27

What a rotten thing to do

Has your OH come to terms with the debt & secrecy or this him lashing out at you in revenge?

Do you normally have a good relationship with your parents & if so do you have any idea why they have forgotten or ignored your birthday?

Make-it-3

He buys a golf club membership (aren't they mega bucks?) and you can't even replace a worn out pair of boots.

I don't know your history - but this sounds like a very troubled marriage. Is this his way of punishing you for the debt? Sounds like he wants you to stew in it.

alwaysworried_2

Can I just say, it's not the first time my parents have forgotten my birthday, I guess I'm more annoyed at my husband and kids forgetting/just not mentioning it. I thought my oldest would have remembered, he's 16, but he didn't.

I won't get and buy myself anything. I dont want anything. I just wanted a card, a hug and someone to cook me my dinner for a change. I didn't want much (well I don't think so), just some people who I thought I was important to, who cared and bothered about me to make a little bit of an effort on my birthday, but they didn't, and I feel so so sad. I don't see why I should have to remind them it's my birthday, they don't have to do this when its their birthday.

alwaysworried_2

Make-it-3 wrote: »

He buys a golf club membership (aren't they mega bucks?) and you can't even replace a worn out pair of boots.

I don't know your history - but this sounds like a very troubled marriage. Is this his way of punishing you for the debt? Sounds like he wants you to stew in it.

yes I think this is his way of "punishing me" until the debt is paid.

Joons

If he's gonna punish you until the debt is paid you better have a word, that's now the way to resolve things, you need to have a good chat with him, if he can't come to terms with the debt then you're both in trouble, either way, he can't make you suffer like this, a pair of £15 boots but he gets a golf membership for himself - I hope he's not using the debt as a way of having power over you.