Only child v having siblings

Person_one

notanewuser wrote: »

Absolutely not. DH is 8 years older than his youngest brother.

When he got into drugs in his teens it was DH's fault for going to university and leaving him.

When the business he started in his 20s went wrong because he ran it as a jolly for all his mates and forgot that he needed paying customers it was brother 2's fault for not investing more cash.

And just recently it's not his fault that he's blown up 3 cars in 2 years by not checking the oil. That one is his employer's fault apparently for making him too tired to remember to do basic car checks.

I really don't think you can attribute all that to him being the youngest.

jellyhead

notanewuser wrote: »

Absolutely not. DH is 8 years older than his youngest brother.

When he got into drugs in his teens it was DH's fault for going to university and leaving him.

When the business he started in his 20s went wrong because he ran it as a jolly for all his mates and forgot that he needed paying customers it was brother 2's fault for not investing more cash.

And just recently it's not his fault that he's blown up 3 cars in 2 years by not checking the oil. That one is his employer's fault apparently for making him too tired to remember to do basic car checks.

Did his parents join in the blaming? Who blamed your DH for going to uni and leaving the little brother? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! your poor DH!

notanewuser

jellyhead wrote: »

Did his parents join in the blaming? Who blamed your DH for going to uni and leaving the little brother? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! your poor DH!

Quite. His brother did. Many many times. DH has felt guilty about it for the past 20 years.

CH27

notanewuser wrote: »

Absolutely not. DH is 8 years older than his youngest brother.

When he got into drugs in his teens it was DH's fault for going to university and leaving him.

When the business he started in his 20s went wrong because he ran it as a jolly for all his mates and forgot that he needed paying customers it was brother 2's fault for not investing more cash.

And just recently it's not his fault that he's blown up 3 cars in 2 years by not checking the oil. That one is his employer's fault apparently for making him too tired to remember to do basic car checks.

That is dreadful. Your poor OH.

jellyhead

notanewuser wrote: »

Quite. His brother did. Many many times. DH has felt guilty about it for the past 20 years.

He shouldn't! Tell your husband you don't want to have another in case the youngest guilt trips the eldest in the same way

Spendless

My mum, an eldest to a sibling 7 years younger, was always told it was her fault for leaving money lying around when her brother used to pinch it. But I'm also the eldest by 7 years and husband is another eldest and we've never been blamed for any antics of our younger siblings. We do both have younger sisters who think the world fades to black when they're not in it. I don't think that is a quirk either of little sisters, though my son may say otherwise. :rotfl:

ClareEmily

I hate it when people say it's lonely being an only.

My son is 28 months and will be an only child due to lots of reasons, it is up to my hubby and I to make sure that he has a happy childhood, and he will never be lonely.

Jamie.11

Maybe it's best for you to have only one child but if you really want to have another one without experiencing the trauma then try to adopt.