MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

moneypenny21

Family Fix Base here with a Maxi Cosi Cabriofix and plan to get the Pearl to go on the base when miss is older!

Had an episode last night where miss drained both breasts and was still crying for more, I felt terrible, I tried to hand express and nothing was coming out. Can only hope its a growth spurt.

Great news that you can come home Dizzi!

katiechoc_2

turtlemoose wrote: »

Here is a crash test video, with dummies, showing a child-dummy sitting in a rear facing seat and a front facing seat, in the same vehicle in the same crash. This video is enough for me to go rear facing as long as possible. Statistically, the majority of serious impacts are frontal or side.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKIeExpDLDA

Jeez that video isn't fun to watch . Interesting though. I worry about someone going into the back of me as that happened a few years ago ad wrote off my car.

Yay for going home dizzi!

turtlemoose

Yes Katie I found it uncomfortable to watch too, which is why I described what happens so people were prepared! I've spent the last hour watching various crash test videos, it makes for grim viewing but I've learnt a lot.

Statistically, children are still safer in a rear facing seat in a rear impact.

After watching all those videos, *i* want to rear-face!!! Not really an option as the driver though lol

morocha

oh tried to give me a hand with baby this morning, had her from 7 am til 11, will u believe that in those 4 hs she spent most of the time crying ? then i picked her up, bf her and she webt down for two hs. she seems to sleep a lot mind u little naps after feeding and when awake feeding most of the time, my days are feed 20/30min then sleep, wake up, feed again...
maybe this is the reason she does not sleep long hs at night? sometimes i think she feeds constantly cos it is my fault i dont know how to entertain her? should i try to keep her awake?
think i will go to the baby clinic from now on when i want* which is never* but at least hv will think i am ok and ask hv not to come anymore.

iam wondering that there is nothin gwrong with J- shes just a little tender and delicate little thing, she smiles and talks back when in the mood but she just wants to be with me all the time and no one else will do; and most of that time at my boobs lol

fluffnutter

Installed Freddie in the new carseat *. He looks like such a big boy now. Too cute!

* NB. Only in the car of course. I've not sat him in it and left them in the front room. That would be weird!

fluffnutter

martafdz wrote: »

Thank you very much!! I'll go with DH to Babies R Us and Mothercare so he can see those models. It seems most of you love either the Britax or Maxi Cosi. I'll take with me a list with the models you've said.

I've also been thinking about not keeping her in the car seat for over two hours. My pram does not lay flat and it's only forward facing, so she's all the time in the car seat attached to it, which also faces me. Up to now it wasn't a problem because I rarely used the pram for that amount of time anyway, but the older she gets (and heavier) the more we will be going out and the less she will be in the carrier. So I was looking for a pram that allowed me both forward and rear facing, and has a carricot or or can be used now at three months. I saw the Graco Symbio B at less than half price, £199 in Babies R Us. Has any of you tried this one? It shapes to a carricot or pram with a few clicks, but it's just one single item. When did you stop using the carricot?

Freddie moved from the carrycot to the stroller at around 12 weeks but he's pretty big. Provided you've got a stroller that can tilt back so they're almost lying flat I don't think it matters too much putting them in it when they're young.

If money is no object you've got to get an Uppababy Vista. Pricey though

fluffnutter

morocha wrote: »

oh tried to give me a hand with baby this morning, had her from 7 am til 11, will u believe that in those 4 hs she spent most of the time crying ? then i picked her up, bf her and she webt down for two hs. she seems to sleep a lot mind u little naps after feeding and when awake feeding most of the time, my days are feed 20/30min then sleep, wake up, feed again...
maybe this is the reason she does not sleep long hs at night? sometimes i think she feeds constantly cos it is my fault i dont know how to entertain her? should i try to keep her awake?
think i will go to the baby clinic from now on when i want* which is never* but at least hv will think i am ok and ask hv not to come anymore.

iam wondering that there is nothin gwrong with J- shes just a little tender and delicate little thing, she smiles and talks back when in the mood but she just wants to be with me all the time and no one else will do; and most of that time at my boobs lol

Nowt wrong with wanting mummy when you're a little babe.

How old is she? Most babies don't sleep at night until about 9 months and even then 27% will still be waking at least once. I think we've got unrealistic expectations of when a baby starts sleeping through. Breastfed babies in particular tend to wake often (although some won't and some bottle fed babies wake often too), but there's certainly a tendency for babies on the boob to be more frequent wakers.

Freddie wakes every 90 minutes to two hours every night. Occasionally he'll go for two and a half hours but this is very rare. He's eight months old. My advice is just to go with it, particularly when they're under six months. Studies have shown that you shouldn't try to influence a child's sleeping patterns before six months because it can adversely stress them. Even after six months, those same studies show that most benefits obtained via sleep training, e.g. controlled crying, are actually only temporary.

Babies will generally find their own routine without the need for intervention. A bedtime routine is important but other than that, if they wake in the night, most studies have shown that, in the long run, it's simply better to see to their needs and not worry too much about imposing a routine.

Never think it's your fault that she's feeding because you're no fun! She doesn't want fun! She wants feeding! She'll let you know when she wants to have fun. Are you feeling a bit low, lovey? It's really hard work having a little one. It's OK to think you're a rubbish mum. Everyone does. You're not though.

fluffnutter

"I can go backwards and get under the chair. But not forwards...."

dizziblonde

fluffnutter wrote: »

"I can go backwards and get under the chair. But not forwards...."

Give it a couple of weeks max - Erin was doing the getting stuck in reverse in corners thing a fortnight or so ago max - now is commandoing it up big time (well it's more like a worm crawl with navigational issues as she hasn't quite figured out you push with your legs and then move your arms so it's more "drag your face along the carpet" than crawling).

Home - shame it's all been ruined by MIL who basically rolled up in the area uninvited (after the chaos of last homecoming I'd said I wanted a week or so to adjust before getting inundated with grandparents), cancelling flights and spuriously driving down to Heathrow and back (from the Scottish Islands) to be "oooh we're just passing can we pop in and see the baby" just as I was discharged... so after emotionally blackmailing hubby (and me by association, although I don't deserve a mention at all apparently) into letting them come play happy families while I sobbed in the kitchen (they arrived when I was frantically unpacking, sterilising bottles and sorting out laundry - and since I wasn't acknowledged I assumed staying in the kitchen was the expected thing to do), then they have the utter cheek to give us a congratulations card - which said no congratulations of the sort - but "Thank you for giving us a lovely granddaughter"... nothing about us at all - just me me me me me... it just typifies exactly what I'm up against and how I'm viewed as - a uterus on legs they can shove out of the way bodily (this has happened several times) to get to the grandchildren when they decide they want to play doting grandparents (ie to shove a photo on facebook - and don't get me started about them putting stuff on there without consulting me - I really don't like other people with different privacy settings to my own putting kid photos on there - for very valid and psycho ex shaped reasons).

So yeah - it's led to things being so fraught between me and hubby as I simply cannot take being treated like this anymore that I'm considering leaving purely to escape his effing monster mother.

Worst bit is - I know (but can't prove it yet - I have to wait and give her time to drop herself in it as she inevitably will by mentioning it in a "I was doing you a favour you sad neurotic failure of a child of mine" way) my mother is the one who got MIL to change travel plans and do this crap... despite knowing I didn't want the in-laws landing as we came home from hospital like they did last time.

I suppose I should be glad - last time MIL was on her way to the hospital to pick up some house keys to get into our house - I assumed she'd pop to labour suite reception and grab them off hubby - she rolled into the room while I was mid-pushing, sat down and proceeded to start issuing encouraging feedback - I was distressed enough at that point with the prem baby thing and talk of the forceps coming out (we know how that all ended up!) and she witnessed all of that (which is cringemaking enough to know she saw it all going on - never mind my fanjo up in the air loud and proud and me off my face on gas and air), and then I had enough of her telling me to breathe and kicked her out of the room... just backing me into a corner to have her roll up when we've just been discharged, both kids want feeding, we haven't got the moses basket set up and I've got tits the size of the knockers woman from the Simpsons Movie, hormones up to the eyeballs and haven't slept in over a fortnight is progress really.

Sooooo angry with all of them - soon as my mother drops herself in it over it all she's losing all contact with her grandchildren, but I'm utterly broken and at my wits end with the in-laws.

I can't believe anyone would think that sort of smug card was appropriate either - it was effing vile - not even one to carry a message elaborating or anything - just signed "from mum and dad" smugly. Card's now in the bin in pieces - I wasn't the one who ripped it up.

dizziblonde

Really impressed with the MAM bottles on a totally unrelated note - have had loads of bother with Robyn having wind and sicking up and hiccups using the hospital teats and she's been hell to settle after a feed there... out like a light after a feed trying the new bottles.