MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

fluffnutter

I think with preemies, it's best to just throw the milestone book out the window, jannine. Poppy will do things when she's good and ready. In the meantime, just spend all your time gazing in adoration at her. I would. She's beautiful

janninew

fluffnutter wrote: »

I think with preemies, it's best to just throw the milestone book out the window, jannine. Poppy will do things when she's good and ready. In the meantime, just spend all your time gazing in adoration at her. I would. She's beautiful

Aww thanks Fluff, she is rather gorgeous if I do say so myself! I know I can't compare her to other babies and most of the time I don't, but every now and then it gets to me. Her Consultant tells me she's doing great, that's what I have to keep telling myself (and what a bloody miracle she is!)

BadlyWrittenPoem

janninew wrote: »

Feeling a bit down today, just been speaking to my friend who has a daughter who is 1 in May and she has started to walk over the weekend, feel like Poppy is so far behind other babies and don't feel like we are even getting close to any more milestones. I know you shouldn't compare but feel like she's getting left behind.

Right that's my moan for the week now, time to pull myself together, don't know if I'm hormonal but I feel close to tears at the moment.

:grouphug: Babies vary loads without it meaning anything particular - my husband didn't walk till he was almost two and that was still considered to be within the normal range.

katiechoc_2

Aw hugs jannine. Poppy may not be hitting the traditional milestones but if you think about how much she's been through she leaves any other babies in the dust just by being here.

It's so effing cold at the moment, it's nearly April and its snowing! I'm so sick of it, need some sunshine! George has got another virus and chesty cough so can't take him out in this weather really so he's running riot at home. :eek:

morocha

Im ok, just got the doctor on the phone to give me the prescriptions without having to leave the house in this freezing weather, all i need is to send dh to pick them up tomorrow.

Jannine, big hugs! as a parent is so hard not to compare our children and guess if there is anything wrong, i agree with fluff, i bet Poppy is gorgeous and improving lots, all children are behind at some point then they catch up eventually. xx

Cake4brains

Sorry to butt in with yet another question....

For those of you who use re-useable nappies, do you soak them while waiting for enough washing to fill the machine? Just started using our 1st re-useable today and realised I'd not thought that far ahead!

Congrats Dizzi, hope everyones ok. Sorry I haven't read back yet. Been very busy with 2 little girls snotting and sneezing everywhere

BadlyWrittenPoem

Cake4brains wrote: »

For those of you who use re-useable nappies, do you soak them while waiting for enough washing to fill the machine? Just started using our 1st re-useable today and realised I'd not thought that far ahead!

I don't soak mine.

dizziblonde

janninew - I know we went through nowhere near what you've been through, but I do kind of get where you're coming from with the milestone thing - I was breaking myself into pieces a few weeks ago thinking Erin would never figure out crawling, when other babies who've been going to baby group about the same length of time as us were blooming walking around and my little girl couldn't even sit up without faceplanting... it's heartbreaking - even without the obnoxious competitive milestoner element as well. Not quite sure what the answer is to it - other than time, and trying to look at where preemies end up - I think it was the Team GB cycling girl who reduced me to utter fits of tears when the press were saying all about how premature she was and the start she'd had - and she'd just won gold in one of the events... it kind of helped. Erin's still hitting milestones slightly late (to the extent I postponed her developmental check from 9 months - they like to do the 9-12 month one at 9 months round here - to get her the extra months as I didn't want her being labelled as behind or anything so early on in her life... still haven't had the damned thing done yet, but no doubt the HV will nobble me about it when she picks up Robyn's care after the midwives discharge me).

What also did amuse me the other day was one of the NICU doctors being in the lift with Erin in the hospital and asking if she'd turned two yet - his face when I turned around and told him she was a 33 weeker who wasn't even one was a picture! (Then I had to hide from the doctor Erin slapped during one of the endless blood heel jabbing sessions shortly after that!)

Just been for a massive baby clothes retail therapy session - well since Robyn seems to have acquired the nickname Birdie - I had to buy the babygros with little birds on... and several other outfits... purely to differentiate the baby photos of the pair of them since they look soooooooooo ridiculously similar as babies (even down to matching jaundice!). Kiddicare have the new Morrisons kids clothes range in and it's lush - the girls' stuff is lovely and not saturation-pink either - loads of lilacs and mint greens and things and decently priced - got some really cute stuff. In my defence - I'd held off baby clothes shopping totally until I knew how early I'd deliver this time and what size clothes I was going to be looking at.

Oh and REALLY cheesed off with hubby's work - his boss had oked in principle him saying he wanted to take some holiday after his paternity leave... was all "don't book it in and we can do it when we know dates it won't be a problem yadda yadda"... so he emails in, saying "can I have X and Y after paternity leave" and the utter steaming witch has refused it saying the month is fully booked with annual leave and no one else can be released - she never had any intention of granting a leave request from him! Soooo angry - means I'm going to be thrown into being on my own all day with the two girls much earlier than I anticipated and before we've got into a decent routine of things - no right of redress about it either - she's done all the "don't book it - it will be no problem" stuff verbally the scheming cow. Between that, the in-laws saga (MIL admitted the card was a big mistake and not nicely worded), the behaviour of my mother... it is NOT fun here at the moment!

Sammie_03

Ahh huge hugs jannine. My friends sister gave birth at 25 weeks and her little one is nearly 3 now and absolutely thriving Poppy will get there in her own time but it is only natural for you to feel like you do, you are her mummy after all. X

Katiechoc - yes it is bloody cold! I was freezing taking the kids to school today!

PurpleFairy26

Cake - I don't soak mine. You can dry pail (no water/pre wash) or wet pail (with water/ pre wash). I dry pail but put a few drops of tea tree oil in to the base of the pail. Just makes it smell a little sweeter, although with 2 it may not be so much of an issue.

Hugs it dizzi, jannine, morocha and anyone else who is down at the moment. Must be something in the water ( or snow) am thoroughly fed up here DD1 really testingme behaviourally and I'm very isolated when DH at work as no family near by, couple of friends I met at postnatal who I see about once a month but no other contact in between and my other so called friends don't visit as we selfishly moved too far away (an hour) we used to live double that, so it's up to us to visit them and family :mad: as its waaaay too far to travel... Oh yes cause with two small ones it's a dream we've lived he 8 years and Less than 10 times have we had visits from my friends, DH friends or our siblings (combined). Oh well. Think I need to rethink my 'friends', there may be a cull on the horizon

Thankfully LO is golden most of the time, I do however, feel like she is not getting my attention that she deserves, that combined with DD1 behaviour and me having to go back to work early is very depressing. Oh well, I guess I must make the most of the situation and be grateful for what I have right off to bed in case LO has any ideas about a midnight snack :rotfl: