MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

PurpleFairy26

P.s. don't get the tea tree from places like m0thercare, I get mine from h0me bargains for about £0.90 rather than £5 in m.care. If you don't have a HB you'll be able to get from fleabay cheaply I would imagine.

koalamummy

janninew wrote: »

Hey ladies,

Feeling a bit down today, just been speaking to my friend who has a daughter who is 1 in May and she has started to walk over the weekend, feel like Poppy is so far behind other babies and don't feel like we are even getting close to any more milestones. I know you shouldn't compare but feel like she's getting left behind.

Right that's my moan for the week now, time to pull myself together, don't know if I'm hormonal but I feel close to tears at the moment.

Love that picture Fluff, he looks so cheeky. I remember years ago when my little brother started crawling, he could only ever go backwards, he got himself in some right pickles!

Been interesting reading reviews of car seats, we are still in our first size car seat, think it takes up to 22lbs and we only weigh 16lb at the moment so a way to go yet!

Hope you're ok Morocha.

xx

Hi Jannine, I realise that this probably won't help you very much but the support team my oldest boy had told me that you completely disregard age appropriate milestones for pre term babies until they are approx age 8 when everything should be evening out anyway.

My biggest boy was over 2 before he walked, he never crawled so have no time frame for that. He did not say his first words until he was over 4 and only after much input from SALT. He was 7 before he could read anything at all. He was 9 before we could take him out to eat without a full clean up kit with us as the scarring caused by ventilator tubes made him vomit every time he ate or drank when even slightly distracted. He is 14 now and costing us a fortune in orthodontic treatment again to repair damage attributed to ventilation.

It really does all even out eventually and now there are no real clues in evidence to his slightly trickier than average start in life. He is completely level with his peer group now and nobody would ever be able to tell that it has ever been any different.

martafdz

I was a 30 week pre term baby and I think I've turned out ok

DH and I went out today to see the Graco Symbio B, it turned out to be a bit too narrow for my liking, so we ended up in Mothercare buying the Mothercare Orb at £280 ( I signed again for baby club and got the £20 off voucher), which is very similar but bigger. It spins around to change from forward facing to parent facing, plus has a pramette /carricot that transforms into a stroller later on. Some reviews suggest the stroller might be small for 3yo, but I have the other pram if it really is an issue. Apparently it's manufactured by maxicosi. The previous model, Mothercare Spin, had not so great reviews, but apparently the rebranding also involved sorting them out. Any experience on this one?

Morocha, my lo is 14 weeks+, she had a couple of weeks where she woke up once between midnight and 8am, but we are now back to 2-3 bottles. You said DH is scared of cosleeping and he is sleeping somewhere, do you put your lo in the middle? I put her on the outside, so I'm in the middle. I only have her in bed from around 5am until 8-9am, she stirs and wakes up and I put her with me to block out the light from the window and try to get her to sleep for a bit longer. My lo used to feed every 60-90 minutes, the mw called it snack feeding and we were told to try to distract her before a new feed was due with a bath or play. We did not really do it, her stomach would take only what it could hold, and she started to increase the amount she could take at her own time. We feed her 8-9 times in 24h and she takes about 20-24oz in total, during the day it's about every two hours, we have only stretched out the nights. Have you tried to start with bed time routines to see if she starts to sleep for longer at night and feed more in the day?. The books and formula tub says she should be on 5-6 feeds but no chance, lol. Something that helped me to see her patterns, understand what she needed and plan ahead, was logging her feeds, nappies and sleep. I cannot recommend it enough. I used a normal notepad to start with, now I use an app and it's easier, plus it gives me stats and I can see at a glance how long it has been since the last feed, sleep, nappy.. It takes a bit to customize but once set up it's been a great help. It helped me see how often she needs to sleep and for how long, now she sleeps every hour and a half for about 40 min, before she used to have 2h naps. If I see she has not eaten enough for the day so far, I offer her again the rest of the feed after ten or twenty minutes, etc. Since everything now is on demand, it helped me to see how often she demands certain things, so I now can jump ahead of her and start rocking her to sleep before she cries or have a feed ready before she complains. I've been logging every feed, sleep and nappy for the past three months, but it helps me see if she is having a growth spurt by looking at the sudden increase of feeds or extra long naps afterwards, for example. It has an option for breastfeeding, you put what boob you used, for how long, etc. The app I'm currently using costed a couple of pounds, but there are others that are free, I just wanted this one because of the graphs it has and all the customization that can be done.

I think I should try to find some baby group and start to socialize outside the internet. I'm happy with my love for home and staying indoors, but I think my lo is copying me lol. Three times on a row now that we've been out and she's been unsettled yet when we arrived back home she would start to smile and be all happy and excited from then onwards. Is that weird?

fluffnutter

martafdz wrote: »

I think I should try to find some baby group and start to socialize outside the internet. I'm happy with my love for home and staying indoors, but I think my lo is copying me lol. Three times on a row now that we've been out and she's been unsettled yet when we arrived back home she would start to smile and be all happy and excited from then onwards. Is that weird?

Not weird. She's starting to be more aware of her surroundings and likes what she's familiar with. When she's a bit older, her natural baby curiosity will push her to explore other places more. But she still might be a little wary when she's somewhere new until she relaxes. It's natural.

katiechoc_2

marta can't help with the Orb but I had a secondhand Mothercare Spin for a few months. It was great for the spin element - if the wind / sun was in his face just click and voila, sorted! Never used the carrycot attachment as he was 6 months+ when I got it. I found the stroller ok size wise but the liner and cosy toes didn't attach in any way, you threaded the straps through it but that was it. So as soon as he was sitting upright in it it sort of slithered down and he ended up being hung on the strap around his boys bits and generally not looking very comfortable. It also didnt sit up as Upright as i expected. I've now got an umbrella fold stroller which I love, must admit I wouldn't have liked him being forward facing much younger though...

dizziblonde

marta I find the more you take them out and about - even if it's just popping somewhere for coffee... the better they sleep! Biggest incentive going for me to get Erin to babygroups... guaranteed good 2 hours zonk time when we got home!

Actually debating going to baby group tomorrow (and making daddy come too - he'll LOOOOOVE having to sing nursery rhymes) even with the small and very angry lady to factor in.

Someone's just commandoed it up the full length of the lounge part of the living room and is looking very pleased with herself (to get at the dangly toys on the baby carseat that she dilligently ignored for the MONTHS they were on hers)! She'd better learn to crawl properly soon though - she's wrecking the snot outta all her clothes!

Since a fair bit of our baby stuff got stuck in MIL's loft and she's not been helpful getting it back (she coulda brought it down with her impromptu accidental "oooh I was just in the neighbourhood, never mind you've been discharged from hospital 2 hours ago, can we come and see the baby" trip) we've had to resort to using the cot instead of the moses basket upstairs - so I've attached that with one side off again as our very el-cheapo co-sleeping solution. More cheesed off lots of MY blankets and pram sheets are up there so we've had to re-buy... obviously she was within rights to hang onto the stuff we'd borrowed from SIL. At least we got the baby clothes back I guess - no way they're getting stored at hers again - I may have NO space under beds and in wardrobes - but they're staying here till they're used and then going on either freecycle or to the charity shop after they're done with this time around... I kind of want to get a memory bear done with some of the teeny tiny prem baby clothes though - but they're costly as hell.

Anyone know if you can buy the head hugger part for the cosatto double buggies seperately anywhere? Our umbrella double has them missing - not that I want to use an umbrella fold much while Robyn's this tiny though but it's handy to have the option of a buggy that just lives in the rear seat footwells in the car if you decide to pop out somewhere on the spur of the moment - or we have the dogs in the boot so can't take the tank out.

katiechoc_2

dizzi head hugger - http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/COSATTO-HEAD-HUGGER-UNIVERSAL-HELLO-DOLLY-PLUM-BURGUNDY-NEW-/251249490680?pt=UK_Baby_Pushchair_Accessories_parts_ET&hash=item3a7fa2faf8

janninew

Thanks for the kind words ladies, can always moan on here and feel better afterwards! Plus my Mum told me to pull myself together, we go for the tough love in our family!!

Break up for Easter on Thursday for 2 weeks off - heaven!!

dizziblonde

janninew wrote: »

Thanks for the kind words ladies, can always moan on here and feel better afterwards! Plus my Mum told me to pull myself together, we go for the tough love in our family!!

Break up for Easter on Thursday for 2 weeks off - heaven!!

Oh I get the pull myself together thing endlessly... the one that really made me rage up until a couple of months ago was the "oooh but she's heeeeeere now and it's allllllll ok" (delivered in an insipid tone of voice that added to the irritation).

And how I looooove waiting in for the flipping midwife who didn't appear yesterday and apparently is coming before a 12pm surgery today (but no sign or contact yet) - I'm expecting a phonecall about 11.30 asking me to be understanding and not get a visit today as well, at which point I'll explode mildly with a jaundiced child I'm not sure is near regaining her birth weight and questions I need to ask about some stuff on my birth notes (the incomplete placenta bit - where's the missing bit hanging around?!?!)

morocha

katie, hope your LO is better soon.
jannine,hope you are feeling better.
Marta, i love making graphs of everything and have everything organized tho i do not want to do that with Jade, i will be mad checking everything why some pattern has changed, why she has done x amounts of nappies today etc... she is awake for 1-2 hs then she goes to sleep for 30-40 min. and asks for a feed, her biggest nap is at 1 till 3, the rest are very lightly and can wake up anytime.
I just come to accept that her feeding at night is normal and be grateful that she feeds and go straight back to sleep.

dd1, on school holidays has woken up with a terrible cold, fun times...lol