MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

*Nutella*

My LO successfully ate her Weetabix with a spoon this morning - nothing on the floor, on her bib or elsewhere in her face I had to help her load the spoon every now and then, but still!... I bought some new cutlery for her that has really helped - she even tried to eat her orange with a spoon this morning, although she quickly realised that it wasn't the best idea and went back to eating it with her fingers

*Nutella*

lazywife wrote: »

Today is not great here. Feeling really low. Yesterday was busy, did morning 1hr walk (he has to do something in the morning or gets very grumpy) then church toddler group in afternoon, then a work evening training session. It was too much. I'm shattered today as I was go, go, go. He only had sleeps when I was walking of coming back from group so no sit down time for me. Try to get more rest today, but just feel like I'll be tired forever and can't seem to get on top of house which is a sh*t hole as everything is everywhere as can't get round to cleaning or putting away as normally do that when he's asleep. Just the thought of finding the time to wash and dry my hair this morning brought me to tears & can't make it "last" another day.
Sorry guys, I know everyone has felt like this at some point, it's just my turn.
L.xxx

Sorry you're feeling low - sending you a big ((hug)). I know me telling you that things will get better (and they really will) isn't going to help at all, as I know you want things to get better NOW. I do wonder if there might be some practical things you could do to help you feel a little better though. Showers - can your LO come to the bathroom with you and stay in a chair/on a playmat (sorry can't remember how old he is)? I used to leave my LO in her cot with the mobile on so I could have a shower - kept her entertained for long enough. Cleaning - can your OH help; either by taking charge of your LO for a bit so you can do some cleaning, or by actually doing it himself? Any other relatives or friends who could help? I know most of us don't like asking for help, but most people are more than happy to help out, and you know you'd do the same for a friend if they needed you. Or if you don't have anyone who could help, could you spare a tenner or £20 and pay someone to do give your house a good clean? It's easier to maintain something by doing little bits each day than dealing with an overwhelming feeling of *everything* needed to be sorted out. Personally, what I found hardest was the feeling of not being 'in control' - as long as I had a reasonably clean and tidy house, I could cope better with tiredness. Naps - have you tried having a nap together? My LO wasn't a good napper in the early days (20 minutes max in basket/cot), but when we cuddled up together on the big bed she'd sleep for a couple of hours and it kept me sane! Hang on in there hun x

PS: I'd love Nigella's cooking skills, her broken marriage less so

fluffnutter

*Nutella* wrote: »

My LO successfully ate her Weetabix with a spoon this morning - nothing on the floor, on her bib or elsewhere in her face I had to help her load the spoon every now and then, but still!... I bought some new cutlery for her that has really helped - she even tried to eat her orange with a spoon this morning, although she quickly realised that it wasn't the best idea and went back to eating it with her fingers

What cutlery have you got?

fluffnutter

lazywife wrote: »

Supersaver, only today to do then it's the weekend! I think getting her a ring would be lovely. A fab day out for the three of you would be nice too.
Nigella, hooray for the toothbrush breakthrough.
Today is not great here. Feeling really low. Yesterday was busy, did morning 1hr walk (he has to do something in the morning or gets very grumpy) then church toddler group in afternoon, then a work evening training session. It was too much. I'm shattered today as I was go, go, go. He only had sleeps when I was walking of coming back from group so no sit down time for me. Try to get more rest today, but just feel like I'll be tired forever and can't seem to get on top of house which is a sh*t hole as everything is everywhere as can't get round to cleaning or putting away as normally do that when he's asleep. Just the thought of finding the time to wash and dry my hair this morning brought me to tears & can't make it "last" another day.
Sorry guys, I know everyone has felt like this at some point, it's just my turn.
L.xxx

We've all been there. It's hell. It's totally normal that you have to either walk with them or drive around before they'll sleep, leaving you unable to get some rest when they're napping. It does get better. As they get older their nap times become better defined and they sleep in their cots (mostly!). Then you can sleep yourself. Or more likely, do the bloody washing up!

Personally I found it totally useless when people said 'oh! Don't worry about the house! Leave it a tip! Don't worry about bathing! Or getting dressed! Just concentrate on your baby!'. Actually that's pretty unrealistic and having a tidy(ish) house and managing to wash yourself makes you feel 100% better. I think it's more useful to ask yourself 'what do I need to happen to make me feel like I'm coping OK and what help do I need with that?'. Then get the help. If you can't get the help, start thinking about what can be compromised, e.g. OK, sod the vacuuming and dusting, I'll just do the washing up and a bit of tidying. Sod the hair wash but I WILL have a shower, etc.

Anything to make you feel human. Baby's important, but so are you.

Gillyx

I'd recommend Oxo Tot cutlery Fluff. Aaron has been successfully using that for around 7 months now. We use the bowls and plates too. He can do his own, cereal/weetabix/porridge/sloppy dinners like cottage pie but not without mess like Nutellas LO. I dream of the day I have no dollops of weetabix on the floor It'l come one day surely?

Yay for sleeping through the night too, shows they do it in there own time

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fluffnutter wrote: »

What cutlery have you got?

We've got the Oxo Tot fork and spoon - I chose it because of the good reviews, and the spoon really is fab Haven't used the fork yet, but I like the look of it, and it's fairly harmless as it's not sharp at all. Would definitely recommend!

*Nutella*

Hahaha - Gilly beat me to it by one minute!

Gillyx

The plates and bowls are good Nutella, the spoon and fork sit nicely over the side of them, I got a set from TK Maxx, but they are on 3for2 atm at Boots.

*Nutella*

Thanks Gilly - for now I think we'll stick with the Munchkin suction plates and bowls as we have a glass dining table that they stick beautifully to, but that's good to know for when the time comes when she can be trusted to not chuck plates on the floor!

Lola888

We have the Oxo tot set in pink, I'm too OCD to let her do wet/sloppy food with a sppon. I give her a fork mainly to attempt spearing food. She keeps trying to eat peas with it which is hard enough for adults to do let alone an uncoordinated 17 mth old!!

I have tried giving her a spoon with her yoghurt, but she loses interest and just sits there like a goldfish opening and closing her mouth or sticking her fingers in it and licking the yoghurt off! *sigh*