40+ and single on 'single awareness day" again! Anyone else?

supermum38

richardvc wrote: »

Ok you got me on that one !

Perhaps he just feels really comfortable in your company - you cannot be a better friend than that !

Isn't there a quote somewhere that goes like 'the best friends make the best lovers?'. I mean, for me he ticks 9/10 of my boxes (joke). The only think he doesn't do is make me laugh and it is quite high on my list of priorities (another joke).

Nevertheless, I wasn't offended by his rejection. I am a great believer in fate so I just accept that it's not meant to be.

Afterall it takes 'two to tango' !

I can't thank all the posters enough for cheering me up today and i hope some of you feel better as well.:j

SailorSam

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My friends all say "don't you want to be in a relationship ?" Well, my answer is, i don't really know, as i've got so used to being able to please myself that i honestly think it would be difficult for me to put up with someone else now !
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They're my exact thoughts, although i tell myself i'd like to meet someone special, i've said to people i'm that use to being here by myself i worry could i put up with a woman who kept putting the toilet seat down; didn't put the top back on the toothpaste, and left dirty knickers in the sink.

Person_one

SailorSam wrote: »

They're my exact thoughts, although i tell myself i'd like to meet someone special, i've said to people i'm that use to being here by myself i worry could i put up with a woman who kept putting the toilet seat down; didn't put the top back on the toothpaste, and left dirty knickers in the sink.

I always say my perfect situation would be a relationship with someone who wanted to be monogamous but would be happy to live next door or down the road and never move in together!

supermum38

Person_one wrote: »

I always say my perfect situation would be a relationship with someone who wanted to be monogamous but would be happy to live next door or down the road and never move in together!

That about sums it up for me. When I've met guys who share a house or live with their parents I ran a mile. I couldn't consider a relationship with someone who didn't have their own place or life. I'd like to think if we were to live together it would happen naturally in time, not something I'd have to think about from day one!
For me it would also be nice to go to their place to escape the madhouse I live in and not have to worry about going to get a drink in the kitchen in the nude!

Person_one

supermum38 wrote: »

That about sums it up for me. When I've met guys who share a house or live with their parents I ran a mile. I couldn't consider a relationship with someone who didn't have their own place or life. I'd like to think if we were to live together it would happen naturally in time, not something I'd have to think about from day one!
For me it would also be nice to go to their place to escape the madhouse I live in and not have to worry about going to get a drink in the kitchen in the nude!

Ah, I meant living separately permanently.

supermum38

Person_one wrote: »

Ah, I meant living separately permanently.

Well sure. But I'm open to negotiation...;)

SailorSam

[QUOTE=supermum38;59362813We look alike and were both single so started sharing dating stories. We were on the same site and one day discovered the same guy was messaging both of us. We hatched a plan to arrange dates with him at the same time and see what happened...
Well, he tried to wriggle out of one date or the other but we both kept insisting it was the only available time so he arranged us back to back! Cheek!
You can guess that neither of us made it and then we both texted him at the same time to say we knew each other and knew what he was up to!

We never heard from him again!:T[/QUOTE]

I don't think he was to bad there, talking to you and your friend at the same time, even going on the odd date with both of you. I've spoken to more than one woman at the same time, but usually tell them, because at first it's very casual. Obviously if you decide to see one again it's the time to stop messaging the second.

supermum38

SailorSam wrote: »

I don't think he was to bad there, talking to you and your friend at the same time, even going on the odd date with both of you. I've spoken to more than one woman at the same time, but usually tell them, because at first it's very casual. Obviously if you decide to see one again it's the time to stop messaging the second.

It wasn't that he was chatting to both of us but he denied involvement with anyone else. When I say messaging. It was texting and quite forward. Who knows just how many he was chatting to like that...

lix75

supermum38 wrote: »

Anselm, will you be my 'virtual' valentine? You made me smile.X

Lix75. You are 'lucky' you have a young child in the sense that once you have met someone they will be fast asleep in the evenings or hopefully at their dad's for the weekend?
!

Thank you, you are very nice. I thought it would be easier as kids get older but then I should know better, I was raised by a single mum too.

Redman30

supermum38 wrote: »

Hi all

So another valentines day and no date...again!
I'm guessing this is about the 5th year in a row for me but that doesn't mean I've been single all that time. Just that the people I was seeing were non-committal and not romantic enough to make a fuss about it.

I guess the only reason I started this thread is to chat with anyone else in the same boat. I don't have any single friends anymore so don't have anyone to go out with and I absolutely would not go out alone! Sure I meet people at work but no men even flirt with me?

Anyone else out there feeling a bit bewildered at being single for a while?

Bewildered is the word. The last of my single friends is now coupled and our nights out have dwindled horrifically, which is totally understandable, though denies a lot of future opportunity. I'm male, 38, intelligent (hopefully), with a silly sense of humour, have a hell of a lot going for me all in all.

And yet I'm single. Still. It's getting a bit damn annoying to be truthful I just don't seem to make that initial impression on women, I can be a bit backward in coming forward, but I've been trying to get past that and doing ok.

I'm fairly sure there's a few blokes in each area with beckham-like good looks and the commitment issues of a hollywood celeb, who date everything within a 20 mile radius and destroy their minds for the rest of us genuine types Internet dating is especially good for hearing stories of this!!

Anyway, V-day can be a bit depressing for us blokes too. But hey, we'll wake up tomorrow and carry on, that's just what we do eh