tonights the night

Dumyat

good luck.
have to say from what you said it doesnt sound the best relationship in the world. maybe this could be a point at which you can both take stock and set some new boundaries.

Dr_Hook

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

:rotfl: well, you should have a more macho username then, like "Butch Guy" or "Rambo Killfest" or at least "Mr Southwester"!!

PMSL at "Rambo Killfest"! Now why didn't I think of that when I picked my username? :rotfl:

Best of luck Hannahsmummy, hopefully your OH won't be as bad as you think tonight. It's natural to fear the worst and he surely must have some redeeming features or you wouldn't be with him in the first place.

Best wishes

Dithering_Dad

Dr_Hook wrote: »

... he surely must have some redeeming features or you wouldn't be with him in the first place.

Tsk, don't you just hate it when these "reasonable" posters come in and ruin a good old "get rid of the deadbeat wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/sheep thread?

and I was just getting warmed up! :rolleyes:

onamission_2

v.v. much good luck tonight.

hannahsmummy1

i have just got off the phone after telling him everything. he was at work- so he didnt go mad, but he does have his own office so he could have done. he just said we will talk about it tonight. im sat here bawling my eyes out, i think that its just sheer relief. he doesnt know the amount, but he does know the reason is because of the wedding. He knows that it was supposed to be sorted out, but he now knows it wasnt and isnt. i told him i still have some left to pay but thats why i took 2 jobs and i am working towards paying them off, i told him i paid off my barclaycard loan (i paid that last year 1500) and that in total i have paid back 2900 of what i originally owed. I told him i feel really bad about what has happened but that i have worked really hard in paying these debts off and that havent had to ask him for one penny, which he admitted was true. so we will see what happens tonight. half expecting him to come home from work now. But its done!

Little_Miss_Winner

Well that's the hardest part over now, so stop panicking, cos what is done is done....

How the hell did he think YOU were going to pay it back alone, with a 2 year old to look after during the day, and struggling with 2 jobs.

How much did you borrow for the wedding?

Hugs babe, you have done the right thing!
xxxxxx

rosiedee

Hi,
Hope all goes well tonight. I'm in the same boat, although the debts are joint I look after (that's a joke) our finances and have got to tell my husband what a mess I've made of it.

Good luck

sammy115

Phew! I was really worried for a minute that we had scared you off. Well done, you are braver than me. I suppose if he doesn't know how much you owe, in his head he may build it up to megabucks, so when you tell how much you owe in reality it may be a relief.

Have a good cry !!!!!!!!{hugs}}}}}} you should sleep easier tonight.

hannahsmummy1

all together i borrowed just shourt of 9K- that was for EVERYTHING. I have paid off 2900 off that, leaving me just over 5K left to pay. Thanks for everyones kind words! xxx

mrsmortenharket

HM, I am so gald you told him. I kept my debt from my dh as well. Now he knows everything & its much better.

Can I PM you or you PM me, I'd like a chat

Lisa x