The continuing saga of my (comedic) love life!

Robin_TBW

skattykatty wrote: »

oh come on...don't we all have opinions about other people? aren't some of our opinions less than lovely? and if someone's breath was difficult to stomach. i don't see it as insulting - more descriptive!

Indeed, and I've expressed mine.

miss_independent

Robin_TBW wrote: »

To be perfectly honest, you don't sound like the nicest of women really. In one short post you have managed to insult a huge amount of men who have been interested in you. Yes these are older men but why are you hanging around that age group and then expecting 20-30 year old men to approach you?

You have called one guy halitosis-ridden, another like being licked by a toilet, completely insulted a guys fashion sense, a choice of hairstyle of another and god knows what else. Do you expect guys to be lining up knowing how insulting you are likely to be? I don't know what you look like but maybe you're not quite the prize either? Even if that's the case then personality can go a long way and you're not covering yourself in honour here.

Fair enough, I take your point maybe I haven't come across as that nice but I'd like to argue a couple of points.

We aren't really talking about a huge amount of men being interested. In my post I mentioned three. The guy with the bad breath and the toilet bowel licking thing was the same person - if you'd have read my other thread you'd have seen that I didn't want to hurt him and did consider going out with him again despite the fact that things clearly weren't great between us. The first guy I mentioned who wanted to take me on a date, my friend who is older than I want to be with, I didn't reject him because, again I didn't want to hurt him but had we went (on a coffee date, I suggested) I would have tried to be as gentle in explaining that I didn't want to take things further as I could so that I didn't upset him or lose his friendship. The third guy (the bad man who genuinely does wear tap shoes everywhere he goes) is very odd and I suspect the only reason he thinks we are in a relationship is because I have been kind and polite to him in the past which he has misread. And so I have tried since then to keep my distance and back off from him. The only thing I can see that I wrote which could be viewed as mean is that I mentioned that he was bald and his head was reflective. I'll admit I made fun and that wasn't nice but I also added that he chose to go for the skin head look because I know people, including my friend who has cancer, often do not choose to lose their hair and it's horrid to make fun of people who have that misfortune. But yes, maybe my comment was cruel and I'm sorry about offending anyone.

I don't hang around solely older people - I know and meet lots of people my own age but I also believe that people of ALL ages have something to offer. When the elderly men (all three of whom have been widowed) asked me to dance with them I did, because I was trying to be kind. I have my faults like we all do but I wouldn't say I was a nasty person, in fact the thing I strive to be the most is kind.

Ladyhawk

Miss Indie - you really don't need to justify yourself! Robin is the one being mean - he has made some huge assumptions about you personally based on one on-line post.

miss_independent

OllysMum wrote: »

Disagree Robin! I think the OP sounds quite a catch. Miss Independent is just putting a comic slant on her experiences. I think she comes over as warm, funny and empathetic. it's more likely that men assume she's already taken or there's no point trying.

Have you tried online dating? There have been some spectacular successes amongst my circle (and loads of material for your new career in comedy/autobiography! :rotfl: )

I was single for many years and really fancied speed dating. Unfortunately, I met the OH before I could get round to doing that.

(unfortunately as in I think it would have been fun, of course not unfortunate that I met my fantastic partner)

Thanks OllysMum! I haven't tried online dating simply because I've always hoped for things to happen conventionally. I'm also a bit old fashioned in that I much prefer face to face or phone contact in general so I don't do alot on online (apart from MSE lol). But a few people have suggested online dating recently so I may give it ago as agree that there seems to be quite a bit of success with it.

I think speed dating would be a lot of fun too! Glad that things worked out for you OH-wise. I like hearing the success stories!

miss_independent

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Miss Indie - you really don't need to justify yourself! Robin is the one being mean - he has made some huge assumptions about you personally based on one on-line post.

Thanks Ladyhawk (you feel like my "Wing Girl" lol, nice to know you've got my back). I know I don't need to justify myself but the whole shiny head comment I made was snide. I was trying to create the image - you really can see your face in his head but I agree that it's not a nice thing to say. But deep down inside, I know I have a good heart and always try to do the right thing even if it's at my detriment so I'm not upset. I think you only get upset if someone hits a nerve and Robin hasn't luckily.

victory

Melaniep101 wrote: »

That was Harry (or "Hairy"), who was Charlotte's divorce lawyer. Loved SATC!

That's him:j she left him because he did not fit in with her 'criteria' then realised she loved him and begged him to come back, yep:D

miss independent do you have a 'wish list'? Do you think that maybe you are looking in the wrong place and aiming too high?

Sure thing bad breath is very off putting and a definete no no:eek:

miss_independent

victory wrote: »

That's him:j she left him because he did not fit in with her 'criteria' then realised she loved him and begged him to come back, yep:D

miss independent do you have a 'wish list'? Do you think that maybe you are looking in the wrong place and aiming too high?

Sure thing bad breath is very off putting and a definete no no:eek:

Victory, I did have a wishlist but I've learned I can't be choosy! The wishlist has gradually got shorter and shorter until its 1.Kind/Good Morals 2.Family Orientated 3. Humorous 4. Good Hygeine and, finally, Responsible. Looks and money don't really come into it much. I've accepted that I probably won't get a Prince Charming (a six pack was the first thing to get crossed off my wish list lol!) but still hoping a decent guy may show up.

I don't really know where the "right" place to look is?! Answers on a postcard please!

Actually, in all honesty, I do feel like just giving up and not looking at all. I don't want to be the "desperate" girl.

victory

miss_independent wrote: »

Victory, I did have a wishlist but I've learned I can't be choosy! The wishlist has gradually got shorter and shorter until its 1.Kind/Good Morals 2.Family Orientated 3. Humorous 4. Good Hygeine and, finally, Responsible. Looks and money don't really come into it much. I've accepted that I probably won't get a Prince Charming (a six pack was the first thing to get crossed off my wish list lol!) but still hoping a decent guy may show up.

I don't really know where the "right" place to look is?! Answers on a postcard please!

Actually, in all honesty, I do feel like just giving up and not looking at all. I don't want to be the "desperate" girl.

Supermarket have single nights:rotfl:

Our local hotel has over's night:D:D

The local nightclub has over nights also:D

miss_independent

victory wrote: »

Supermarket have single nights:rotfl:

Our local hotel has over's night:D:D

The local nightclub has over nights also:D

:eek: Am I "over" at 28?

Maybe I should visit Cats Rescue at the weekend...

Cherry_Bomb

you paint a great picture Miss I!

I think you're a good few years off opening your own cat rescue so ditch that idea for now

What sort of places do you socialise? What's your hobbies?
Could it be you're just not 'looking' in the right place?

For your sporty sociable men a pub when a big match is on is usually a winner. A friend of mine is into the geeky computer types. She's dragged me into Game numerous times and has managed to pick up dates.