The continuing saga of my (comedic) love life!

miss_independent

mountainofdebt wrote: »

well if you fancy a younger man I an give you Junior's number as he sounds like your male equivalent.

He'll go totally OTT .....flowers, meals out that sort of thing and allows the b!tchest of girls to walk all over him.

He does come, unfortuantely, with me who promises to be the MIL from hell should you ever do the dirty on him lol!

Aww bless him! I'd never do the dirty (it's been done to me and he broke my heart) and I'm not a !!!!!. But I've heard that men love !!!!!es so maybe that's why I'm still single :rotfl:.

Sounds like you raised a good one there!

miss_independent

VestanPance wrote: »

I hope you find someone soon who you find that special connection with. You always come across well on here and it does seem like you have rotten luck with us blokes.

Although now based on you being chatted up by such older men I'm imagining a 28 year old with a blue rinse!

Aww thanks Vestan! Nope, no blue rinse here :rotfl:. Maybe it's the Zimmerframe and Nora Batty stockings?


Right, night night folks!

Netwizard

I'm also 28, never been asked out and never gone on a date! However, I'm male.

I say as long as your happy, it doesn't matter. Although if I had £1 for every time I've heard "You will find someone when you least expect it", I'd be a millionaire!

I have debated trying the online dating thing, but after reading threads on other forums about people's online dating experiences, I've been put off that idea!

Also, what few male friends I have left are all under the thumb, have kids, and very little money, so doing stuff with them is well and truly out the window.

I just enjoy being on my own now. I have an OKish job (nights don't help the social life at the moment though!), and look on the bright side, you can do what you want, when you want, with no moaning other half in your ear complaining, and all your money is your own, you can do as you please with it

onlyroz

In my line of work (computing) I come across plenty of single men who are really nice guys, but are painfully shy and appear at a glance to be awkward and aloof. Perhaps if you want to find a nice man closer in age to yourself you need to be a little bit more forward and approach people yourself. If they seem to be uninterested at first then it could be that they're just shy and need a bit longer to open up to you.

VestanPance

onlyroz wrote: »

In my line of work (computing) I come across plenty of single men who are really nice guys, but are painfully shy and appear at a glance to be awkward and aloof.

:rotfl:

That does so sum up most of the folk I've ever worked with. Although I have been told I come across as aloof as well. I think I do awkward by default. :eek:

I've always found it strange that computing and traditional engineering subjects still remain mostly male. We had a couple of students in over last summer and even now they said out of Computing Science intake of about 150 students in their year there was only three girls on the course. I guess computing is still seen as being full of social outcasts and geeks to attract women to it.

PinkLipgloss

miss_independent wrote: »

Unfortunately, it's from a 50 year old, bald, extremely odd man who is a compulsive liar, wears tap shoes everywhere and who is always offering me lifts. Despite the fact he doesn't drive. I frequently drive past him whilst he waits for the bus as the rain bounces off his extremely reflective head. I think he polishes it. (I'm not being cruel, he does intentionally go for the skin head look - its a choice of his). From the tone of the card, he clearly thinks he is in a relationship with me.

:rotfl:

Well they do say the truth is stranger than fiction!

Do you have any idea why he is always wearing tap shoes? I'm curious!

onlyroz

VestanPance wrote: »

I've always found it strange that computing and traditional engineering subjects still remain mostly male. We had a couple of students in over last summer and even now they said out of Computing Science intake of about 150 students in their year there was only three girls on the course. I guess computing is still seen as being full of social outcasts and geeks to attract women to it.

Well my background is in Physics (my degree course was maybe 15% female) but I drifted into computing because that's where the money is. In my team of maybe 20 developers I am one of two females. In the other teams I know of maybe half-a-dozen female developers. I tend to get on extremely well with my male collegues because I'm totally uninterested in typical female persuits and I'm more comfortable discussing the merits of the latest sci-fi series, or Mac vs. PC and other similar "geeky" topics.

I met my husband while on a summer placement in the laboratory where he works (between years 3 and 4 of my undergrad degree).

miss_independent

onlyroz wrote: »

In my line of work (computing) I come across plenty of single men who are really nice guys, but are painfully shy and appear at a glance to be awkward and aloof. Perhaps if you want to find a nice man closer in age to yourself you need to be a little bit more forward and approach people yourself. If they seem to be uninterested at first then it could be that they're just shy and need a bit longer to open up to you.

Yes, this is the advice my male friends have recently given me. They've said I'm going to make the first move because men don't approach me.

Netwizard wrote: »

I'm also 28, never been asked out and never gone on a date! However, I'm male.

I say as long as your happy, it doesn't matter. Although if I had £1 for every time I've heard "You will find someone when you least expect it", I'd be a millionaire!

I have debated trying the online dating thing, but after reading threads on other forums about people's online dating experiences, I've been put off that idea!

Also, what few male friends I have left are all under the thumb, have kids, and very little money, so doing stuff with them is well and truly out the window.

I just enjoy being on my own now. I have an OKish job (nights don't help the social life at the moment though!), and look on the bright side, you can do what you want, when you want, with no moaning other half in your ear complaining, and all your money is your own, you can do as you please with it

Have you ever asked anyone out though? Lots of women, myself included, are still quite traditional and like men to make the first move. It's not a playing hard to get thing (with me at least!).

Agreed, I enjoy my life and my independence (hence the username ) but ultimately, I did always want to fall in love, marry and have children. I wouldn't really have chosen to be single. But it is, what it is.

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

:rotfl:

Well they do say the truth is stranger than fiction!

Do you have any idea why he is always wearing tap shoes? I'm curious!

He is a great British eccentric! To be honest, there is a lot that makes me think he has some genuine problems. He tells so many lies that he is lucky he hasn't been arrested before now for fraud or impersonating an officer of the law.

VestanPance

onlyroz wrote: »

Well my background is in Physics (my degree course was maybe 15% female) but I drifted into computing because that's where the money is. In my team of maybe 20 developers I am one of two females. In the other teams I know of maybe half-a-dozen female developers. I tend to get on extremely well with my male collegues because I'm totally uninterested in typical female persuits and I'm more comfortable discussing the merits of the latest sci-fi series, or Mac vs. PC and other similar "geeky" topics.

My current workplace is a small software firm (only about 30 employees) and we went from one female developer to none. The only female employees are in admin and marketing, and they both take as little as possible to do with the geeks in development and consultancy.

Although the marketing girl may have a fair point as at least a couple of times she's been ribbed as colouring things in for a living!

The IT world is still certainly top heavy with men. My best friend is a teacher, his job is the exact opposite with 90% of the workforce being women.

NAR

miss_independent wrote: »

I've had a genuine heart to heart with some male friends over this weekend (and some female) and there was a common theme that they feel men don't know what to say to me so they don't bother and most people think I'm with someone already. In fact, it was me going to the party alone which made people aware of the fact that I'm single and then I got all the usual questions (how long? Why? Etc) followed by the pitying looks and reassurance that I'll meet someone when I least expect it.

This to me speaks volumes with regards to your single status. If you are as funny and as articulate in real life as you are on here you sound "quite a catch" to me. You just need to find the opportunities to put yourself out there to be seen and heard. Maybe a few singles from the weekend will find the courage to ask you out, having found out you are single and available. Good luck.