The continuing saga of my (comedic) love life!

miss_independent

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

you paint a great picture Miss I!

I think you're a good few years off opening your own cat rescue so ditch that idea for now

What sort of places do you socialise? What's your hobbies?
Could it be you're just not 'looking' in the right place?

For your sporty sociable men a pub when a big match is on is usually a winner. A friend of mine is into the geeky computer types. She's dragged me into Game numerous times and has managed to pick up dates.

I'm artsy and musical and I hang out in artsy musically places! I'm also active in my church and community, I volunteer - do my bit to give back. I do some voluntary counselling and am interested in psychology.

I keep meaning to go back to the gym but it's easier to exercise at home .

I don't think I'd be comfortable walking into a pub on my own, and I'm not really much of a drinker.

I like good intelligent conversation, film, theatre, books. I like cooking and baking. Erm... stargazing...animals..the beach...yoga..

Clearly I'm about as feminine as I could be. Maybe if I was into, say, Rugby or Boxing or something I'd have met someone by now!

Cherry_Bomb

miss_independent wrote: »

I'm artsy and musical and I hang out in artsy musically places! I'm also active in my church and community, I volunteer - do my bit to give back. I do some voluntary counselling and am interested in psychology.

I keep meaning to go back to the gym but it's easier to exercise at home .

I don't think I'd be comfortable walking into a pub on my own, and I'm not really much of a drinker.

I like good intelligent conversation, film, theatre, books. I like cooking and baking. Erm... stargazing...animals..the beach...yoga..

Clearly I'm about as feminine as I could be. Maybe if I was into, say, Rugby or Boxing or something I'd have met someone by now!

Ok forget the gym and the pub on match night. Can't imagine the theatre loving artsy types frequent such places.

Off the top of my head independent music shops (much more personal so more likely to meet someone!) library's do poetry reading nights, pubs/clubs that do gigs ( and you don't have to drink alcohol) stargazing? Google brings up this http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b019h4g8/features/events
This one might be obvious but the theatre? There must be some of theatre appreciation society somewhere!!

ETA ok I've just noticed you didn't say anything about poetry but I'm leaving it in there. You never know!

miss_independent

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Ok forget the gym and the pub on match night. Can't imagine the theatre loving artsy types frequent such places.

Off the top of my head independent music shops (much more personal so more likely to meet someone!) library's do poetry reading nights, pubs/clubs that do gigs ( and you don't have to drink alcohol) stargazing? Google brings up this http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b019h4g8/features/events
This one might be obvious but the theatre? There must be some of theatre appreciation society somewhere!!

ETA ok I've just noticed you didn't say anything about poetry but I'm leaving it in there. You never know!

Wow, thanks for the effort you've put in truly! So funny though, I've been to my nearest Stargazing Live - lots of fumbling around in the dark lol, it was kind of hard to see! I go to the theatre alot on my own but never see any single men and I'm in a theatre society (no luck so far, but that isn't why I'm there). Poetry nights... I studied literature at uni so I can't say I wouldn't be interested it's just I've found that crowd to be a bit pretentious in the past but I could give it another go I suppose.

Sadly, no independent music shops here, we might even lose our HMV soon. I might join an astronomy society. hmm, maybe I should re-visit the idea of Internet dating.

That being said, you might be surprised but, there are quite a few men my age at yoga!

Part of me feels though, I'm so busy I don't know how much more I could realistically take on .

I suppose I haven't been that proactive re my love life

ETA: I've given up my gym membership and I've been thinking about taking up self defence or a martial art. That's not very girly is it?

Ladyhawk

miss_independent wrote: »

I've been thinking about taking up self defence or a martial art. That's not very girly is it?

Do it!!!!!!

I used to do jiu jitsu and had several "relationships" as a result of it. There were a good few people who were entered into longer relationships than me in my club. Some even got married. Plus its great fun, brilliant excersise and you get to meet so many people. I had to give it up because of an injury but am still great friends with a number of the club.

What style were you thinking of? Make sure that it is a social club as some are far too intense and take themselve waaaaay too seriously.

Plus girliness is over-rated.

Artytarty

Oh dear and i may get shot down here but from daughters experience, male, artsy musical types who are straight can be a bit thin on the ground!
She has so many good friends who share the same interests but are gay. I think she had almost given up hope until she met a lovely young (penniless!) assistant director.

Cherry_Bomb

Lol yeah I hadn't thought of the downside to stargazing. Bit like dating in the dark really!

If you really think you're going to be too busy to physically get out and meet someone then I think Internet dating would be the way forward. It's not like years ago where you'd only get the 40 year old virgins living in their mums spare bedroom surrounded by wrestling posters. Times have changed!

Being very MSE I think most offer a free trial too

Defo go for it on the self defence classes! I do kickboxing and its awesome! Plus the instructor is really fit. Win win really!

miss_independent

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Do it!!!!!!

I used to do jiu jitsu and had several "relationships" as a result of it. There were a good few people who were entered into longer relationships than me in my club. Some even got married. Plus its great fun, brilliant excersise and you get to meet so many people. I had to give it up because of an injury but am still great friends with a number of the club.

What style were you thinking of? Make sure that it is a social club as some are far too intense and take themselve waaaaay too seriously.

Plus girliness is over-rated.

I LOVE being a woman lol! Erm not too sure about the style... Whatever is on offer round here I suppose - its not like I live in a big city options are limited. I like watching Kung Fu movies and always wanted to be a kick !!! girl like Princess Leia or The Bride in Kill Bill lol. I'm open to self defence/martial arts suggestions! I don't want to get a broken nose or bones though. A bit of bruising is ok lol.

Artytarty wrote: »

Oh dear and i may get shot down here but from daughters experience, male, artsy musical types who are straight can be a bit thin on the ground!
She has so many good friends who share the same interests but are gay. I think she had almost given up hope until she met a lovely young (penniless!) assistant director.

It can be very true. What's worse is when there are young, straight guys they get snapped up instantly - the competition is more than fierce where women outnumber men at least 10 to 1.

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Lol yeah I hadn't thought of the downside to stargazing. Bit like dating in the dark really!

If you really think you're going to be too busy to physically get out and meet someone then I think Internet dating would be the way forward. It's not like years ago where you'd only get the 40 year old virgins living in their mums spare bedroom surrounded by wrestling posters. Times have changed!

Being very MSE I think most offer a free trial too

Defo go for it on the self defence classes! I do kickboxing and its awesome! Plus the instructor is really fit. Win win really!

I used to do BodyCombat. There were loads of fit men but our instructor was a very hot female wearing next to nothing. And that is probably why they were there :rotfl:

Ladyhawk

miss_independent wrote: »

I LOVE being a woman lol!

I hope you didn't misinterpret my comment about girliness being over-rated!

I've also done some muay-thai kick-boxing but jiu jitsu was so much more fun and more practical from a self defence point of view (well in my experience anyway).

Slinky

Before internet dating was popular, I met my OH through an ad in the personal column of a national newspaper. Was fed up of being single and never in the right situation to meet the right person for me. Took3 adverts and met several nice men before finding 'the one', and even then I nearly let him slip past me. In no way was I 'desperate' but chance wasn't bringing me the right person, I had to make the effort (and so did he).

My friend met her now husband through them both doing amateur dramatics helping out behind the scenes, could this be of interest to you? Or an opera group. Lots of places have community choirs, maybe your man is waiting for you there.

Don't rely on chance bringing your man into your life, sometimes you have to give chance a helping hand.

miss_independent

Ladyhawk wrote: »

I hope you didn't misinterpret my comment about girliness being over-rated!

I've also done some muay-thai kick-boxing but jiu jitsu was so much more fun and more practical from a self defence point of view (well in my experience anyway).

Not at all!

Yeah...I want to be able to defend myself as well. I did a kick boxing taster once and I was good at it and enjoyed it but from what you say something like jiu jitsu sounds better. I'm not really interested in competing or anything, just learning!