Awkward situation with a friend

shop-to-drop

Ha Ha looks like I killed this thread (not the first time). Just hoping all is well with you KoalaMummy. Did she get back in touch again? If so how did you cope?:)

koalamummy

shop-to-drop wrote: »

Ha Ha looks like I killed this thread (not the first time). Just hoping all is well with you KoalaMummy. Did she get back in touch again? If so how did you cope?:)

Sorry I didn't think anybody would be interested in how the situation played out in the end as it was all so unpleasant in the first place.

This lady who I now absolutely consider a former friend got back in touch at the weekend just gone by. She visited rather than called though. It was definitely not a pleasant exchange. I was asked pretty much straight after the pleasantries were echanged if I had the money they needed. I explained that what I had was not available to them until I firstly knew exactly how much they wanted, and secondly could discuss it with DH. Not entirely true of course but I really didn't want any hostility with my children being in the same house.

The response to this was a raging torrent of abuse. I was called a whole host of names and told I was a spiteful manipulative cow who is smug, conceited, condescending and a whole host of other equally choice things. Apparently people like me with chronic medical conditions should not be allowed to have children as it is too unfair to perfectly healthy people who struggle, in fact it is a downright insult. The best bit was being informed that my husband being armed forces should be even less entitled than me since he is never around to appreciate them! I will apparently never see or hear from her again as I have completely ruined her life.

There was a whole lot more said but I think the above will be sufficient for you to understand why I want to forget about it as soon as possible. I can sort of see the funny side of it now but at the time I felt very differently.

meritaten

I did think that this might happen!

You do realise this woman isn't exactly mentally stable? Whether that is directly due to being childless I don't know - but doubt it.

Well done you, for saying perfectly reasonably, that you want to know how much, what for and to discuss matters with your OH. A 'reasonable person' would totally understand that.

I am sorry hun that you went through that - I also understand that you wish to forget about it, so thanks so much for the update!
Forget this person - and concentrate on your kids who should be on their knees thanking the gods that YOU are their mother and not this insane witch!

Jox

Glad this toxic woman has shown what an evil person she is and you need never feel any guilt or obligation towards her again.

A sad outcome but obviously she has a lot of resentment towards you, however misguided it may be.

victory

koalamummy wrote: »

Sorry I didn't think anybody would be interested in how the situation played out in the end as it was all so unpleasant in the first place.

This lady who I now absolutely consider a former friend got back in touch at the weekend just gone by. She visited rather than called though. It was definitely not a pleasant exchange. I was asked pretty much straight after the pleasantries were echanged if I had the money they needed. I explained that what I had was not available to them until I firstly knew exactly how much they wanted, and secondly could discuss it with DH. Not entirely true of course but I really didn't want any hostility with my children being in the same house.

The response to this was a raging torrent of abuse. I was called a whole host of names and told I was a spiteful manipulative cow who is smug, conceited, condescending and a whole host of other equally choice things. Apparently people like me with chronic medical conditions should not be allowed to have children as it is too unfair to perfectly healthy people who struggle, in fact it is a downright insult. The best bit was being informed that my husband being armed forces should be even less entitled than me since he is never around to appreciate them! I will apparently never see or hear from her again as I have completely ruined her life.

There was a whole lot more said but I think the above will be sufficient for you to understand why I want to forget about it as soon as possible. I can sort of see the funny side of it now but at the time I felt very differently.

OMG OMG and OMG::eek: she rehearsed that before she came round, she must have known it could be a no and decided she would throw venom your way, a whole lifetime of it.

To say that about your OH :eek: she is completely detestable, never think of her again.

ever.

barbiedoll

Apparently people like me with chronic medical conditions should not be allowed to have children as it is too unfair to perfectly healthy people who struggle, in fact it is a downright insult.

This sentence says it all really, doesn't it?
Not only is she rude and grasping, she's also discriminatory, not that it stops her blagging money from someone whom she clearly sees as an unsuitable parent. And despite knowing that you have medical issues, she is still prepared to take your money, leaving your kids not only living with someone who is incapable of caring for them (as she thinks) but in poverty too! :mad:

Sorry that you had to find out the hard way OP, but what a lucky escape. Hope you can put this behind you and that your usual good cheer will return! (and good luck with your seeds )

marmitepotato

Big hugs to you OP, you wanted to be her friend again and all she wanted was your money. She stooped as low as she could get, and you held your head high with dignity all thro her abuse.

You are a good person. She is not.

amstuck

Have read this thread, you sound lovely, she sounds very bitter indeed, and if she can't afford anymore rounds of ivf maybe it wasn't ment to be, some people have children others don't. Thanks for updating.

shop-to-drop

Thanks for updating, hope you are OK and getting over the attack. I wouldn't have dreamed she would be quite so blatantly nasty geez.

Best that you know exactly where you stand hope she doesn't darken your door again and also that your other half has no more to do with her either.

All the best to you and your family.:)

CH27

What a horrid experience for you KM but at least you know where stand now.
Good riddance to her.