Awkward situation with a friend

koalamummy

Sorry this may be a long and boring read.

I received a text message earlier this evening from someone who I used to believe to be one of my closest friends in the world.

I say used to be as during my last pregnancy with my youngest child she had a bit of a screaming meltdown at me. I was told all sorts of unpleasant things relating to being inconsiderate, heartless, thoughtless as I was blithely approaching the arrival of my 3rd child when so many of our social group were struggling to have their first. From this point I have no contact whatsoever from her until tonight. No phone calls, cards, anything.

However this message informed me that this lady and her partner will need assisted conception to have a child. Furthermore she would like me to lend her the money to pay for it. I have not responded in any way yet as quite frankly I am scared of responding like a petulant child and not only making the wrong decision but embarrassing myself.

This lady would I have no doubt whatsoever make an excellent mother and any child would be blessed to have her. However I am more than a bit peeved that this is the first contact in 2 years! I would really appreciate sensible unbiased opinion on how to proceed please.

balletshoes

ignore it completely - honestly some people have an incredible amount of cheek!

MissKeith

Personally I would ignore her like she's ignored you for two years. What a cheek!

thorsoak

delete, delete, delete!

zaksmum

That's just taking the p1ss! Ignore her or if you must respond tell her to bog off.

mountainofdebt

My question to you is why you are even asking how you should respond.

I would have deleted the message and thought no more of it.

If she would be a brillant mum then let her adopt / foster

meritaten

Why would you think she would make an excellent mother? she sounds like a complete failure as a friend! instead of being happy and glad for you when you had third baby - she was jealous and nasty! I wouldnt want her as mother!
Ignore message and delete it and do not give her another thought!

Tixy

I would also probably ignore her.

But if you did feel you wanted to reply for some reason I would keep any reply very brief and say something like that you have a policy of never lending money to anyone (thats assuming it was a direct ask, rather than a hint).

missty25

Ignore it, first contact in 2 years. Not worth the hassle!

sweetsheep84

Personaly I will reply to her saying good luck but cant help with money. Then ignore her. I will be tempted to say few more not so nice words if she tried to get in touch again though lol.

pixo

if it's been two years.. ignore it! You can always claim you've changed your number should you for some reason see her.