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Awkward situation with a friend

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  • DUTR
    DUTR Posts: 12,958 Forumite
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    Personaly I will reply to her saying good luck but cant help with money. Then ignore her. I will be tempted to say few more not so nice words if she tried to get in touch again though lol.

    You shouldn't have to explain yourself to her, her needing money is not your problem, as others have said, she is a cheeky ***ch.
  • You could wish her luck if you want to respond but there's no need for you to do anything more than that .
  • nettttie
    nettttie Posts: 318 Forumite
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    personally I'm a bit crap at holding back. I'd have to say - you've ignored me for 2 years and you now want money? good luck but it's a no from me!

    the cheek of some "friends"
  • DUTR wrote: »
    You shouldn't have to explain yourself to her, her needing money is not your problem, as others have said, she is a cheeky ***ch.

    Oh yeah i agree. Only reason for my reply is to let her know for sure that i will not help
  • koalamummy
    koalamummy Posts: 1,577 Forumite
    She more than let me down as I am diabetic, have a history of difficult pregnancies, and also found out I was pregnant after my husband had been deployed overseas (armed forces). However I have never struggled with becoming pregnant and do have sympathy if not understanding with how this may make others feel.

    We had been friends since school and I have seen her with my oldest child back in the days where children were for idiots like me. She was always fabulous with him to the point where I felt like a sub standard failure. She just has that knack and would be a wonderful mother.

    Also sad as it may sound I really miss her.
  • an9i77
    an9i77 Posts: 1,460 Forumite
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    It sounds like her jealousy over your ability to conceive easily may have been what's driven you apart. I'd just reply saying sorry unable to lend any money but all the best, and then leave it at that
  • Tixy
    Tixy Posts: 31,455 Forumite
    koalamummy wrote: »
    Also sad as it may sound I really miss her.

    If you'd like to try to rebuild your friendship then that is a little different. Although still don't lend her the money.

    But you could possibly reply to say its nice to hear from her after all this time and it would be good to meet up and catch up with each other and to talk through things (i.e the argument/total rant from her). You could say you hope she is able to sort out something for the funding as you think she'd be a good mother but you won't be helping with a loan yourself.
    A smile enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give
    or "It costs nowt to be nice"
  • kelpie35
    kelpie35 Posts: 1,789 Forumite
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    I would ignore her and then block the number if your phone allows.
  • lostinrates
    lostinrates Posts: 55,283 Forumite
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    koalamummy wrote: »
    She more than let me down as I am diabetic, have a history of difficult pregnancies, and also found out I was pregnant after my husband had been deployed overseas (armed forces). However I have never struggled with becoming pregnant and do have sympathy if not understanding with how this may make others feel.

    We had been friends since school and I have seen her with my oldest child back in the days where children were for idiots like me. She was always fabulous with him to the point where I felt like a sub standard failure. She just has that knack and would be a wonderful mother.

    Also sad as it may sound I really miss her.



    Some people do go a bit loopy in their frustrated broodiness, I am one of them. :o:D

    I think your understanding is wonderful, and she probably misses you too, but is consumed by want and envy at times.

    I think the suggestion above of replying with ' sorry we cannot help with money but good luck' is kind. You might add, if you feel it. 'but I miss you and think of you lots'
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    koalamummy wrote: »
    .

    Also sad as it may sound I really miss her.

    But does she you? No contact for 2 years would appear not:eek:

    Delete delete what you miss is a friend, someone to chat and laugh with and she used to be but stopped being a friend the moment she started name calling
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
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