Awkward situation with a friend

Sambucus_Nigra

I would probably text back with 'Sorry but you seem to have texted the wrong person - you sent this to your inconsiderate, heartless, thoughtless ex friend. All the best.'

koalamummy

lostinrates wrote: »

Some people do go a bit loopy in their frustrated broodiness, I am one of them. :D

I think your understanding is wonderful, and she probably misses you too, but is consumed by want and envy at times.

I think the suggestion above of replying with ' sorry we cannot help with money but good luck' is kind. You might add, if you feel it. 'but I miss you and think of you lots'

Thank you. Whereas she knows my second child took many years to conceive I really do appreciate that it hurts when somebody else has 3x over the one thing you really want.

My big problem is that I am, and she knows it, a ridiculous saver. I have bank accounts for everything and always have done. My teenage sons driving lesson fund is non negotiable, however I also have one for my two younger children aged 4 and 19 months.

meritaten

Then she only wants you for your money hun. she is no friend of yours. delete her - permanently!

lostinrates

koalamummy wrote: »

Thank you. Whereas she knows my second child took many years to conceive I really do appreciate that it hurts when somebody else has 3x over the one thing you really want.

My big problem is that I am, and she knows it, a ridiculous saver. I have bank accounts for everything and always have done. My teenage sons driving lesson fund is non negotiable, however I also have one for my two younger children aged 4 and 19 months.

No, that's not your problem, and it's nothing to do with her. That's you providing for your family.

koalamummy

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I would probably text back with 'Sorry but you seem to have texted the wrong person - you sent this to your inconsiderate, heartless, thoughtless ex friend. All the best.'

Thank you I really needed something to cheer me up and your post did it. Those were the socially adjusted terms in case anybody was interested! :rotfl:

smartpicture

I think you're probably in danger of taking this too personally. Chances are it's been sent to every contact in their address book.

*max*

Could it have been a mass text? As in she sent the same thing to everyone on her contact list, kind of like a fundraising?

Doesn't excuse anything obviously (really crass if that's what it is, btw) - I just have trouble imagining someone specifically asking you for money when you fell out 2 years ago with no contact since!

Sambucus_Nigra

koalamummy wrote: »

Thank you I really needed something to cheer me up and your post did it. Those were the socially adjusted terms in case anybody was interested! :rotfl:

Yeah, I guessed as much.

Do not under any circumstances even consider lending her any thing. And that includes your precious time.

Skippycat

Personally, I would just ignore the text completely. If she hasn't bothered contacting you in 2 years to see how you are or to try and maintain a friendship then she has got an absolute nerve texting you now and asking for handouts...

koalamummy

*max* wrote: »

Could it have been a mass text? As in she sent the same thing to everyone on her contact list, kind of like a fundraising?

Doesn't excuse anything obviously (really crass if that's what it is, btw) - I just have trouble imagining someone specifically asking you for money when you fell out 2 years ago with no contact since!

I think that is part of the real problem....there was no falling out....just a one sided rant with no space for response and then no contact.

Please don't misunderstand I eventually got the hint.

However I always hoped this would not be the end of the road.