Awkward situation with a friend

victory

Anyway, it's gone 9pm did you get the phone call?

purple.sarah

koalamummy wrote: »

Thank you. I have already got myself into a ridiculous state with worrying about how it is going to go. I more than anything want it to go well and leave us both happy but am more than a bit concerned that this may not be the end result.

It is kind of you to be worried about her feelings but I worry she doesn't seem as concerned about yours. You sound like such a lovely person, if someone doesn't appreciate your friendship they are not worth your time, let alone thousands of pounds of your money.

Erinnire

Hope everything went well with the phone call Koalamummy. Have been thinking of you this evening.

koalamummy

Thank you again everybody for taking the time to consider my situation.

Phone call went well albeit a little awkward and stilted at the outset. I have had a sincere apology for being ignored for so long, which as I had come to expect from what some posters had stated, an explanation that being around me and my at times annoyingly happy family unit was too difficult especially since I had a habit of making light of horrendous pregnancies. If I can though please let me justify myself a bit by saying that finding humour in it was my coping mechanism, at no time did I ever view any of it as a joke.

I have been filled in on the background of what has happened to her medically over the last 2 years. It is pretty horrific and to be honest makes me feel terrible for how easy life has been for me.

We are meeting for lunch tomorrow for a longer chat without my children.

mountainofdebt

koalamummy wrote: »

I have been filled in on the background of what has happened to her medically over the last 2 years. It is pretty horrific and to be honest makes me feel terrible for how easy life has been for me.

We are meeting for lunch tomorrow for a longer chat without my children.

Don't feel terrible - you didn't put her in that situation, you didn't wish that on her.

Just don't get sucked in on the sympathy vote....which is what she's after

shop-to-drop

I'm glad you feel it went well but please don't agree to giving her money I fear you will be even more hurt by her than ever if you do.

meritaten

sounds like emotional blackmail hun. your life has been easy........hers been so hard............you make light of your troubles - she shouts, screams and is abusive!
hun - her medical trials over the last two years - did she text you then asking for 'emotional' support? No? a friend would have - after apologising for the disgusting display of anger and jealousy.
you got an apology for being ignored for so long? what about the 'outburst'? get an apology for that did you?
Still think she is no 'friend' and think you are being 'played'. You are way too nice Koalamummy! and she knows this!

purple.sarah

koalamummy wrote: »

Thank you again everybody for taking the time to consider my situation.

Phone call went well albeit a little awkward and stilted at the outset. I have had a sincere apology for being ignored for so long, which as I had come to expect from what some posters had stated, an explanation that being around me and my at times annoyingly happy family unit was too difficult especially since I had a habit of making light of horrendous pregnancies. If I can though please let me justify myself a bit by saying that finding humour in it was my coping mechanism, at no time did I ever view any of it as a joke.

I have been filled in on the background of what has happened to her medically over the last 2 years. It is pretty horrific and to be honest makes me feel terrible for how easy life has been for me.

We are meeting for lunch tomorrow for a longer chat without my children.

I'm glad she apologised. Please try not to feel guilty. As you said your pregnancies weren't easy and her troubles don't invalidate yours. You don't need to justify yourself. Frankly, no one in their right mind would think struggling with horrendous pregnancies was easy or funny for you.

koalamummy

I thought that I was being sensitive, however I came across as being a heartless gloating moo. Hard not to feel bad.

mountainofdebt

koalamummy wrote: »

I thought that I was being sensitive, however I came across as being a heartless gloating moo. Hard not to feel bad.

Your words or her (implied) words?