How do you know when he likes you?

CC-Warrior

Hope you get it sorted anyway. In the time spent discussing this tonight, a colleague has asked me to go for a drink with her after work

Lotus-eater

VestanPance wrote: »

I will say that I do think my friend got very lucky. If any blokes are reading, make your move if interested, because no matter who much things have changed and evolved the vast majority of women still won't ask a guy out and expect the guy to go after them.

If you're a naturally shy bloke then you need to take some risks, or else expect to end up with a lot of meals for one.

You know what, when I was younger, I don't think I would have stopped to think about asking someone out if I thought she might be into me and I liked her.
If I had have done, I wouldn't have met my wife, as it was a one time opportunity.
But as I am now older and in my early 40's, I think I would think twice if I was single, so you ask one, she says no, then 2 more and they say no and suddenly you're the guy who hits on any woman.
It's really not easy being a bloke :rotfl:

VestanPance

I think I was lucky when younger as well, as I had zero fear of rejection. The way I viewed it was they would either be interested or not. Nothing I could do about that other than ask.

I've avoided being that old bloke that asks anyone out by becoming the old anti-social git! Not sure if that's an improvement or not.

CC-Warrior

Lotus-eater wrote: »

You know what, when I was younger, I don't think I would have stopped to think about asking someone out if I thought she might be into me and I liked her.
If I had have done, I wouldn't have met my wife, as it was a one time opportunity.
But as I am now older and in my early 40's, I think I would think twice if I was single, so you ask one, she says no, then 2 more and they say no and suddenly you're the guy who hits on any woman.
It's really not easy being a bloke :rotfl:

No, it isn't. Getting rejected hits your confidence unless you've developed some super-immunity to it (like a pick-up artist).

VestanPance

CC-Warrior wrote: »

No, it isn't. Getting rejected hits your confidence unless you've developed some super-immunity to it (like a pick-up artist).

Just takes a different mindset. I was no great shakes with the ladies, but was always confident and rejections never bothered me at all.

To me I looked at it like I asked and if they said no then fair enough. Just like there would have been some ladies who liked me that I wasn't interested in.

To be honest the whole dating thing would be much simpler if it was just a given if you liked someone that they also liked you.

SuzieSue

love4cats wrote: »

I know you're right. But my gut instinct is telling me that if I have to make the first move, I should wait a little longer. See what this week brings first, maybe seek advice from the lass at work who I know won't say anything and who has known him a lot longer.

I would agree in other social situations, but not at work. It is very difficult for a man at work to make the first move in case the other party has no feelings and he is accused of being a pest.

By asking him out for a drink or to go to the cinema you have lost nothing and could gain much more.

And I'm another one who disagrees with people saying "if he was interested he would let you know". You are interested and are not letting him know probably for the same reason as him - fear of rejection.

love4cats

Well, I've had an interesting day! Went to work, spoke to the lass I mentioned before, said I wasn't sure and 'we'd see etc' and then after work what happens? Guy in question asks me if I want to go for coffee.

It was only for an hour before they closed but he then waited with me while I waited for my bus home and then he gave me a quick peck before leaving. Fair to say I'm no longer confused!

victory

love4cats wrote: »

Well, I've had an interesting day! Went to work, spoke to the lass I mentioned before, said I wasn't sure and 'we'd see etc' and then after work what happens? Guy in question asks me if I want to go for coffee.

It was only for an hour before they closed but he then waited with me while I waited for my bus home and then he gave me a quick peck before leaving. Fair to say I'm no longer confused!

Awe that's nice::D:D

SuzieSue

love4cats wrote: »

Well, I've had an interesting day! Went to work, spoke to the lass I mentioned before, said I wasn't sure and 'we'd see etc' and then after work what happens? Guy in question asks me if I want to go for coffee.

It was only for an hour before they closed but he then waited with me while I waited for my bus home and then he gave me a quick peck before leaving. Fair to say I'm no longer confused!

Excellent news. So pleased for you.

SuzieSue

love4cats wrote: »

Well, I've had an interesting day! Went to work, spoke to the lass I mentioned before, said I wasn't sure and 'we'd see etc' and then after work what happens? Guy in question asks me if I want to go for coffee.

It was only for an hour before they closed but he then waited with me while I waited for my bus home and then he gave me a quick peck before leaving. Fair to say I'm no longer confused!

Also, happy that you have proved all those people who said that he would have let you know by now wrong.