How do you know when he likes you?

miss_independent

:iloveyou:

ukjoel wrote: »

This isn't rocket science.

Catch his eye in team meetings and smile, does he smile back?
IF YES
Then hold the stare for slightly longer than is comfortable - does he do the same?
IF YES
Show him a report you have put together/seen/ found sitting around on a photocopier. - Sit a little too close (those chairs on wheels have a mind of their own) review report.
IF HE REMAINS INTERESTED IN THE DULL REPORT
Using your hand point out bits, then occasionally (accidentally) touch his hand.
IF HE DOESNT SHRINK BACK
A bit of arm touching - followed by moving chair so possible knee on knee contact.
IF HE HASNT MOVED AWAY.
Flag something interesting on his desk - and steer conversation away from report onto something more personal.
MIRROR HIS BODY LANGUAGE - ALWAYS REPLY POSITIVELY. LAUGH AT HIS JOKES.

If all goes well go for the soft sell - I used to go for the Orange Wednesday takedown. Love a film, two for one on weds but never have anyone to go with.

OH I WILL GO WITH YOU.

JOB DONE - Start planning the wedding........

:T

:beer:

:iloveyou:

Can I hire you for a day to train me?!

getmore4less

love4cats wrote: »

Blimey, hold your horses! I'm 30, and retirement is a long long way off and I aint the kind to look that far ahead. I'm only concerned with the here and now .

that makes it a lot easier stop messing about in your head.

Next time you see him "wana sh*g?".

Job done.

VestanPance

Person_one wrote: »

Dating advice in books and magazines is largely complete tripe.

We all know shy men lacking in confidence exist, or men who are insecure about their appeal to women, we've all met them at some point surely?

Whether that's the case here, obviously, I have no idea, but there's nothing wrong with a woman acting on her interest, no reason why she always needs to wait passively for the man to make a move.

I completely agree with this, but would add one point. The comment made to the OP wasn't that of one made by a shy guy. I've known many a shy guy and when around women they like they don't drop witty one liners. They tend to perfect that rabbit staring at the headlights type look!

Sounds like this bloke is flirty. What the OP needs to do if figure if he's flirty to everyone, fairly easy to notice, or only to folk he's interested in.

I personally don't believe in games and think those women that play them to "test" a man's intentions are pretty much doomed to failure. If you are interested and he's single just ask the guy out.

love4cats

VestanPance wrote: »

I completely agree with this, but would add one point. The comment made to the OP wasn't that of one made by a shy guy. I've known many a shy guy and when around women they like they don't drop witty one liners. They tend to perfect that rabbit staring at the headlights type look!

Sounds like this bloke is flirty. What the OP needs to do if figure if he's flirty to everyone, fairly easy to notice, or only to folk he's interested in.

I personally don't believe in games and think those women that play them to "test" a man's intentions are pretty much doomed to failure. If you are interested and he's single just ask the guy out.

He's certainly not shy around work, but he's also not the loud OTT type either. And he's not the flirty type either. He likes a laugh, which is what makes him hard to figure out and what makes it difficult to judge when he's having a laugh or being serious.

CC-Warrior

tesuhoha wrote: »

All the advice I have read about this kind of thing suggests that men are not objects of mystery or too shy to ask a woman out. If a man likes you they will somehow manage to make a move. If not then he is just not into you I am afraid.

Disagree, I've passed on a few as I'm quite shy sometimes. Hate myself for it.

tesuhoha

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Disagree, I've passed on a few as I'm quite shy sometimes. Hate myself for it.

But if you were really really keen on someone would you not make some kind of effort to get to know her?

VestanPance

tesuhoha wrote: »

But if you were really really keen on someone would you not make some kind of effort to get to know her?

That tends to miss the point of shy guys. Normally their fear of rejection completely kills their ability to make contact. They assume rejection, so don't make a move for fear of embarrassing themselves.

Not all guys are confident. One of my closest friends would still be single if his wife didn't ask him out way back then. He'd been doe eyed over her for three years, but any time she was near him he completely bottled up. Thankfully she asked him out and he managed to mumble out a 'yes' when asked.

love4cats

tesuhoha wrote: »

But if you were really really keen on someone would you not make some kind of effort to get to know her?

It doesn't matter how keen you are on someone sometimes. My self confidence is so low, I've never asked anyone out. The fear of rejection is just too strong.

That's why I've used internet dating in the past, you have the anonymity at first of the internet. I've had two relationships using internet dating but in the end they didn't last because we had so little in common. I'm not interested in that method anymore. Also I've been single for a while after my last relationship ended (one of the above) because I just haven't wanted another.

Now I really like this guy and I'm ready again for another relationship, it's just hard not knowing how to figure him out and wondering if he's the same as me, too shy/unsure to make a move!

lostinrates

love4cats wrote: »

It doesn't matter how keen you are on someone sometimes. My self confidence is so low, I've never asked anyone out. The fear of rejection is just too strong.

That's why I've used internet dating in the past, you have the anonymity at first of the internet. I've had two relationships using internet dating but in the end they didn't last because we had so little in common. I'm not interested in that method anymore. Also I've been single for a while after my last relationship ended (one of the above) because I just haven't wanted another.

Now I really like this guy and I'm ready again for another relationship, it's just hard not knowing how to figure him out and wondering if he's the same as me, too shy/unsure to make a move!

It's exactly your lack of self confidence that makes me think office dating is a potentially very bad move for you.

love4cats

lostinrates wrote: »

It's exactly your lack of self confidence that makes me think office dating is a potentially very bad move for you.

To be honest, at the moment it's only temporary. It's supposed to end next week, but that's a bit up in the air at the moment, it may last, it may not.