How do you know when he likes you?

SuzieSue

piccybabes wrote: »

Nooo! No woman will look at their best after this film. My wife spent two of the three hours sniffing into a roll of tissue paper she'd taken especially for the occasion!

Thanks for the warning, I am going to see it next week.

simple_but_sweet

this sounds like just getting the craic and being friendly to me. Although, if u like his company and can have a laugh I really do wish u all the best and hope that its more (fingers crossed!)

puppypants

Re: Les Mis - I went to see this last week and I cried through the whole film, I was soaked at the end and didn't take tissues, so my pashmina was wringing wet. It should carry a warning that tissues are obligatory!! It is too emotionally draining for a first date!!! xxx

Maureen43

SuzieSue wrote: »

Most people can't so don't feel inadequate. If you can't ask him then email or text him.

I would second the email idea, but not from your work email account!

busiscoming2

Do you leave work at the same time? Could you not ask him if he fancies a coffee/drink before heading home?

miss_independent

OP I can sympathise, it's pretty hard when your feelings for someone are growing and you aren't sure if he feels the same way. Been there, done it x100.

However, I've also had lot of male friends and the kind of banter you describe is quite common... I definitely wouldn't read too much into the comment he made after you tripped. If anything, I'd take it that he is pretty sure you have a crush on him and was trying to wind you up/get you embarrassed/make you blush/whatever. Alot of guys I know get kicks out of knowing a girl fancies them, even if they aren't interested. It strokes their ego and they will keep up with the banter to keep stoking the ego fire lol.

I'm another one who believes in the "If he's not asking you out, he's just not that into you" idea. Yes, there are extremely shy and insecure men (and women!) but in my experience, if they have feelings for a woman who they know is single - they will do something about it. If she's single that means someone else could get there first so they would want to make a move asap. If he's shy or uncertain about whether you'd be interested, he might not be directly asking you out, he may be complimenting you on your appearance alot, taking a genuine interest in your life (trying to figure out what you do in your free time for example), helping you with things - basically trying to impress you. I agree that prolonged eye contact, smiling at each other alot etc can also be a sign that something is developing.

I try not to get emotionally involved now until I am certain a man is interested in me. I can't be doing with following someone around like a lost puppy whilst he continues to play games with me. Too much drama. If he likes you you'll know.

Just continue to be yourself, be confident, and if something happens then great.

Lotus-eater

I wouldn't concentrate on "he might be too shy to ask you out", in today's work environment, it's probably more down to the stigma of coming on to a colleague.

No one wants to be seen as a sexual pest at work.

I would just ask him for a coffee or a beer etc.

12 years is a long gap though, think it through properly first.

SuzieSue

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I wouldn't concentrate on "he might be too shy to ask you out", in today's work environment, it's probably more down to the stigma of coming on to a colleague.

No one wants to be seen as a sexual pest at work.

I would just ask him for a coffee or a beer etc.

12 years is a long gap though, think it through properly first.

That is a very good point (about not wanting to be seen as a pest).

Re the age gap, it depends how old the OP is. If she is 18 then it is quite big, if she is 40, then not so.

Lotus-eater

When she is 60 and he's 72, then it's a pretty big gap too. When she's 70 and he's 82 (or dead) also.

Depends on the people obviously.

SuzieSue

Lotus-eater wrote: »

When she is 60 and he's 72, then it's a pretty big gap too. When she's 70 and he's 82 (or dead) also.

Depends on the people obviously.

Agreed, it's not ideal, but also it isn't ridiculously large like you get with rich old men marrying girls less than half their age (or the other way round).