How do you know when he likes you?

SuzieSue

Bella73 wrote: »

Never mix work with pleasure! I've known a work colleague have to leave once their relationship was over.

Yes, that is the risk you take, but for me, the best and safest place to meet somone is either through mutual friends or at work and so is worth the risk and I don't think I would be confident enough to trust someone I had met on the internet or in a bar.

lostinrates

SuzieSue wrote: »

Yes, that is the risk you take, but for me, the best and safest place to meet somone is either through mutual friends or at work and so is worth the risk and I don't think I would be confident enough to trust someone I had met on the internet or in a bar.

Safe includes risking your income?

Fwiw I have known some working relationships work brilliantly, but I have known many more go wrong. My husband and I met in a working environment and worked together and have set up a business together but he also works away.

I also worked with my EX partner. :rotfl:

I think a prerequisite for a working relationship to work well is the majority and self assurance to guage reactions from him in the work place and have the confidence and maturity to deal with it with both highs and lows discretely and discrete from working environment.

SuzieSue

lostinrates wrote: »

Safe includes risking your income?


I think a prerequisite for a working relationship to work well is the majority and self assurance to guage reactions from him in the work place and have the confidence and maturity to deal with it with both highs and lows discretely and discrete from working environment.

Well, if you can be mature about it then there is no risk to your income if everything goes wrong. If you can't be mature about it, don't do it.

The only reason I had to leave the company was because he was my immediate boss and it was against company policy. If it had gone wrong I hope I would have been able to deal with it and if I had any doubt that I couldn't then I wouldn't have got involved in the first place.

Errata

I would never mix business with pleasure, the tittering and gossip when it happens brings nothing but grief.

SuzieSue

Errata wrote: »

I would never mix business with pleasure, the tittering and gossip when it happens brings nothing but grief.

It depends on the work place. If it is large enough there are probably lots of relationships going on so there won't be much gossip. My sister met her husband in a large company and there was no gossip at all because no-one she knew knew him.

lostinrates

SuzieSue wrote: »

Well, if you can be mature about it then there is no risk to your income if everything goes wrong. If you can't be mature about it, don't do it.

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Well that is the point I was making.:).

Not very many people are prepared to accept they might not be mature though.

Better_Off_1983

Don't **** where you eat!

SuzieSue

lostinrates wrote: »

Well that is the point I was making.:).

Not very many people are prepared to accept they might not be mature though.

Ageed and even if you are mature enough there is not gurantee that the other person won't be a bunny boiler so you are probably right that it is a risk, but it is still worth taking for me as I have met all my partners (including my current partner who is my soul mate) through work.

love4cats

There are people at work though who are together and other people don't bat an eyelid.

I have been thinking about messaging him saying something along the lines of 'you know what you said earlier? well what if that was the case?'

Though something's telling me to wait a bit.

SuzieSue

love4cats wrote: »

There are people at work though who are together and other people don't bat an eyelid.

I have been thinking about messaging him saying something along the lines of 'you know what you said earlier? well what if that was the case?'

Though something's telling me to wait a bit.

No, why don't you ask him out as a friend and see what happens. Email is probably best as he can take time to decide if he wants to go or not. If he says no, then you know where you are.