How do you know when he likes you?

tesuhoha

All the advice I have read about this kind of thing suggests that men are not objects of mystery or too shy to ask a woman out. If a man likes you they will somehow manage to make a move. If not then he is just not into you I am afraid.

Bella73

Never mix work with pleasure! I've known a work colleague have to leave once their relationship was over.

quinechinoise

love4cats wrote: »

he said "I can understand how you did it, you were too busy gazing at me with the door open and the light lighting me up from behind".

If he's nice, it's a joke between friends. If he's not nice, he likes himself more than you.

That's my third-hand interpretation, without the benefit of vocal tone or facial expression.

guruchelles

Sleazy wrote: »

I would suggest you ask him the same question that 74jax asked you - "do you like me as a friend or more"? You may or may not get the answer you want, but if you don't ask you may never know ....

He may not actually know yet. He may fancy you, but need to spend some time with you to be able to answer that question. I wouldn't expect him to play all his cards by asking such a direct question straight off.

tesuhoha wrote:

All the advice I have read about this kind of thing suggests that men are not
objects of mystery or too shy to ask a woman out. If a man likes you they will
somehow manage to make a move. If not then he is just not into you I am afraid.

Some are, some aren't. There are 30 million males in this country, you can't generalise. He might have been thinking about that 'gazing' comment all day and getting up the guts to say it, or he might have just said it off the cuff in a banter-type way. I'm afraid the only way you're going to know if he likes you is to spend more time with him, be yourself (albeit a positive side of yourself) and see what happens.

Person_one

tesuhoha wrote: »

All the advice I have read about this kind of thing suggests that men are not objects of mystery or too shy to ask a woman out. If a man likes you they will somehow manage to make a move. If not then he is just not into you I am afraid.

Dating advice in books and magazines is largely complete tripe.

We all know shy men lacking in confidence exist, or men who are insecure about their appeal to women, we've all met them at some point surely?

Whether that's the case here, obviously, I have no idea, but there's nothing wrong with a woman acting on her interest, no reason why she always needs to wait passively for the man to make a move.

tesuhoha

Person_one wrote: »

Dating advice in books and magazines is largely complete tripe.

We all know shy men lacking in confidence exist, or men who are insecure about their appeal to women, we've all met them at some point surely?

Whether that's the case here, obviously, I have no idea, but there's nothing wrong with a woman acting on her interest, no reason why she always needs to wait passively for the man to make a move.

Maybe, but I've been watching the Undateables and there are some of the shyest men on there. Even the very shyest of them managed to ask the girl they liked for her phone number. A move could be a very shy hesitant probe to see if she liked him. After all she likes him and is wondering if she should say something - surely he would be thinking the same way but there is no stigma about a man asking a woman out so it is easier for the man to do the running.

Errata

"I can understand how you did it, you were too busy gazing at me with the door open and the light lighting me up from behind".

He's already found the love of his life. Himself

lostinrates

Bella73 wrote: »

Never mix work with pleasure! I've known a work colleague have to leave once their relationship was over.

I agree.

If you are not sure how to read him when you have the bigginings of interest, imagine the agony of working with him after a relationship.

SuzieSue

The best thing to do is steer the conversation towards a film you would like to see (preferably also one that he might like and hasn't seen yet) and then suggest that you could both see it together.

Something like:

My friend went to see Les Mis over the weekend and thought it was brilliant. Have you seen it yet?

Hopefully he will say no and you can go from there.

SuzieSue

lostinrates wrote: »

I agree.

If you are not sure how to read him when you have the bigginings of interest, imagine the agony of working with him after a relationship.

It depends how closely they work together, but if he is her boss (or vice versa) then they need to keep it under wraps (I've been there and done it and am still with him after 7 years so it can work although we didn't make it public until after I had left the company).