Wedding presents for Newlyweds who have been together numeros years!

Sambucus_Nigra

Luella14 wrote: »

But that's not what the OP has done. She was asking for advice on a wedding gift, has taken people's thoughts re towels in account and has decided on a different route. The baby gift is a separate matter and, as she's said, some like it, some don't.
OP- having read an above post, maybe it'd be nice for you to offer to babysit for the evening they choose to use their vouchers?

During the investigation she found out that some people really don't like these things; yet that has not been taken into consideration. I am just interested why ask when you already had fixed ideas about what to buy and have changed nothing as a result of the feedback from this thread.

Erinnire

I am another one that find towel and nappy cakes a bit naff. They look alright (I guess not really my taste) for about 5 minutes but then are destroyed to be used. If my friends were getting me a wedding gift/ new baby gift I would ideally like something I could treasure and would remember who it was from always when looking at it.

Also unless you know what brand of nappies they are going to use I wouldn't bother as you could end up giving them a present that is practically useless. I used Pampers with both of mine so if I got a bundle of huggies they would have gone straight in the bin. If just seems a waste

VK-2008

Sambucas if your trying to get a reaction off me it's not going to happen
You just keep stirring and stirring
Grow up
I asked for people's advice
I have took it on board I have not been nasty or cruel or objective against people who do not like certain ideas for gifts so why are you still going on
You want me to bow down and just give money or gift card like you would go well no that's not going to happen as I don't like giving money
Don't say I haven't considered other people's comments or opinions when I clearly have you don't clearly read all the posts
So why don't you drop it and accept the fact some people like some gifts others do not
Everyone has the right to gift what thry want
I hope you get lots and lots and lots of gifts as towel cakes and nappy cakes because then you would have to reconsider all your friends lol!!!!!
Grow up and let the thread continue for other people who would like to spread ideas and see what others say

Person_one

Erinnire wrote: »

I am another one that find towel and nappy cakes a bit naff. They look alright (I guess not really my taste) for about 5 minutes but then are destroyed to be used. If my friends were getting me a wedding gift/ new baby gift I would ideally like something I could treasure and would remember who it was from always when looking at it.

Also unless you know what brand of nappies they are going to use I wouldn't bother as you could end up giving them a present that is practically useless. I used Pampers with both of mine so if I got a bundle of huggies they would have gone straight in the bin. If just seems a waste

I bet nappies from a nappy cake are a pain to store and use as well, because they're not packed away neatly and compactly like ones in a packet that can be tucked away and don't take up a lot of space.

I'm imagining poor new parents sat surrounded by an explosion of too big wrong brand nappies!

Person_one

VK-2008 wrote: »

Sambucas if your trying to get a reaction off me it's not going to happen
You just keep stirring and stirring
Grow up
I asked for people's advice
I have took it on board I have not been nasty or cruel or objective against people who do not like certain ideas for gifts so why are you still going on
You want me to bow down and just give money or gift card like you would go well no that's not going to happen as I don't like giving money
Don't say I haven't considered other people's comments or opinions when I clearly have you don't clearly read all the posts
So why don't you drop it and accept the fact some people like some gifts others do not
Everyone has the right to gift what thry want
I hope you get lots and lots and lots of gifts as towel cakes and nappy cakes because then you would have to reconsider all your friends lol!!!!!
Grow up and let the thread continue for other people who would like to spread ideas and see what others say

You DO sell them don't you?

fluffnutter

Person_one wrote: »

Your instincts are right, the only way to do it without being rude is to wait for people to ask. Make sure the key players (bridesmaids, ushers, parents, siblings) know that this is their preference and let the word spread organically.

Begging letters in wedding invites are awful, whether they rhyme or not, and the fact is that nobody owes them anything so its really off to basically bill your guests. Some of them will be hard up too remember.

I couldn't agree with this more. I know it's become fairly normal to ask for cash, and I know that many guests are happy to give it, reasoning that the happy couple will be able to buy something they like without all the nonsense of a wedding list.

But it seems like the cash is increasingly being used for a glamorous honeymoon - and I think this is 'billing your guests'. I'm probably old-fashioned but if you can't afford a fortnight in the Bahamas at some naff Sandals resort, then you don't go. You don't get your guests to pay for your holiday for you.

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

I bet nappies from a nappy cake are a pain to store and use as well, because they're not packed away neatly and compactly like ones in a packet that can be tucked away and don't take up a lot of space.

I'm imagining poor new parents sat surrounded by an explosion of too big wrong brand nappies!

That's EXACTLY what happened with ours. 90% of it went to the charity shop. Had there been something telling me that the damn thing had 100+ size 4 Huggies nappies in it I wouldn't have opened it and the whole thing would have gone. There was one flannel and one very thin fleece blanket that I kept (for DD's toys - it was no good for a human). The dummies, nasty Johnson's baby toiletries and other bits all went.

Would have been simpler for the giver to just donate to charity or burn the cash she spent.

VK-2008

I love the fact not that I can tell u no I don't sell them
So get off ur high horse on that one

claire16c

fluffnutter wrote: »

I couldn't agree with this more. I know it's become fairly normal to ask for cash, and I know that many guests are happy to give it, reasoning that the happy couple will be able to buy something they like without all the nonsense of a wedding list.

But it seems like the cash is increasingly being used for a glamorous honeymoon - and I think this is 'billing your guests'. I'm probably old-fashioned but if you can't afford a fortnight in the Bahamas at some naff Sandals resort, then you don't go. You don't get your guests to pay for your holiday for you.

Whats wrong with the 'something that they like' being a trip away? I dont see how thats any different to them buying anything else they want.

For example they could take the cash and buy a load of new towels, cookware stuff etc. When they already have this stuff so theyre essentially upgrading it to a better brand for the sake of it because theyve got some vouchers. Or they could go and buy a whole new wardrobe, when they probably have clothes already!

But, I agree you should leave it as word of mouth and not put it in the invites.

kitschkitty

Why would a new parent want nappies that had been removed from their original packaging handled by someone else, and made into an unwieldy shape.

Surely it's unhygienic, hard to store, and the parents wouldn't know what brand/product to buy if they liked the nappies and wanted more or if they didn't like them they'd have to chuck them away.

I'd like to think they could pass them on (say to a women's refuge) but I suspect they wouldn't accept them as it's not even an opened package it's totally unpackaged!