Wedding presents for Newlyweds who have been together numeros years!

mrcow

VK-2008 wrote: »

With regards to money I don't think there is anything wrong with asking for money as a gift or putting it in your invitations in form of a poem

If I was invited to a wedding and they put a request for money in the form of a naff poem, I'd give them your towel cake just to serve them right!

Wedding poems asking for money are a crime against poetry and should be outlawed as too tasteless for words.

If you want to ask for money, then just ask for it like a normal person would.

Person_one

fluffnutter wrote: »

But increasingly I see people who want the 'dream' wedding peddled by the media and celebrity which is entirely out of the reach of most people. So rather than marry within budget, they ask their guests for contributions. I've seen threads on here where brides are relying on money from their guests to pay for their weddings! This is what I and, I assume, Person_one meant by 'billing their guests'.

Sort of.

If I give cash freely I really don't mind what it gets spent on.

Its the asking and the expectation that bothers me. The idea that as you're getting married your guests owe you a certain amount of their money and you are within your rights to demand it from them.

VK-2008

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Because the OP keeps losing it and accusing people of being childish for just typing a different opinion than themselves have got?

emmmmm how exactly have i lost it!?!?!?
and yes you are being a child squabbling on a forum this is my thread everyone can have a view whether i like it or not but to squabble like you are doing shows your immaturity

VK-2008

mrcow i disagree i think its nice, its not forcing anyone to give money merely a suggestion - i understand not everyone likes it

would you feel offended mr cow if someone put a gift list in? as they are asking for something from that?

but yet again why you throwing a dig in about a towel cake? there is no need for that

Sambucus_Nigra

VK-2008 wrote: »

emmmmm how exactly have i lost it!?!?!?
and yes you are being a child squabbling on a forum this is my thread everyone can have a view whether i like it or not but to squabble like you are doing shows your immaturity

I'm not squabbling. I asked a question.

Loving the 'it's my thread' line. You'll be taking your thread and going home soon then...so that nobody can play. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

mrcow

VK-2008 wrote: »

mrcow i disagree i think its nice, its not forcing anyone to give money merely a suggestion - i understand not everyone likes it

would you feel offended mr cow if someone put a gift list in? as they are asking for something from that?

but yet again why you throwing a dig in about a towel cake? there is no need for that

It's not the asking for money that is a problem for me, if you read my post properly, you'd see that.

It's doing so in a tacky, tasteless poem.

Saying something like "we haven't got a gift list but if you want to gift money, we'd be very grateful" is fine. Because you're being normal.

Sticking the request into a naff poem is the height of tastelessness.

PS: I love gift lists and money donations for weddings - as a guest at least I know what I'm buying is wanted.

PPS. I just picked on the towel cake as it was the naffest present I would think of at the time. I could have equally said "loo brush". I didn't realise it was an issue?

Dasa

I think the Op is in the process of doing that going by another thread I've seen, and I can understand why.

notanewuser

VK-2008 wrote: »

Sambucas if your trying to get a reaction off me it's not going to happen
You just keep stirring and stirring
Grow up
I asked for people's advice
I have took it on board I have not been nasty or cruel or objective against people who do not like certain ideas for gifts so why are you still going on
You want me to bow down and just give money or gift card like you would go well no that's not going to happen as I don't like giving money
Don't say I haven't considered other people's comments or opinions when I clearly have you don't clearly read all the posts
So why don't you drop it and accept the fact some people like some gifts others do not
Everyone has the right to gift what thry want
I hope you get lots and lots and lots of gifts as towel cakes and nappy cakes because then you would have to reconsider all your friends lol!!!!!
Grow up and let the thread continue for other people who would like to spread ideas and see what others say

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I couldn't give a monkey's - I am just asking!

Strewth. Chill out a bit eh?

VK-2008 wrote: »

eh that wasnot for you it was for not a new user

i dont need to chill out
im actually quite relaxed
i just get annoyed with folk going on and on like that person is doing

Erm, Sambucas answered your post to her, not your post to me!

I think you're getting a bit upset and confused. :rotfl::rotfl:

glitter03

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Because the OP keeps losing it and accusing people of being childish for just typing a different opinion than themselves have got?

Or the OP feels like they have to keep defending themselves because a small number of posters are relentlessly mocking their choice of gifts.

The OP gave a few examples in ther first post and quite a fair few pages ago stated they would be giving the couple vouchers.

Dasa

OP IGNORE them they are obviously on a wind up mission.