Wedding presents for Newlyweds who have been together numeros years!

Mayflower10cat

To go back to OP's post; maybe it's because I'm a keen gardener (and because we'd lived together for 8 years before getting married and so had most household items) when a wedding invite comes to us from friends/family in a similar situation, I've usually bought a beautiful specimen rose bush with a significant name, or shrub. You can get a good quality rose delivered for under £30 with a gift card amd message.

mrcow

Mayflower10cat wrote: »

To go back to OP's post; maybe it's because I'm a keen gardener (and because we'd lived together for 8 years before getting married and so had most household items) when a wedding invite comes to us from friends/family in a similar situation, I've usually bought a beautiful specimen rose bush with a significant name, or shrub. You can get a good quality rose delivered for under £30 with a gift card amd message.

Someone bought me a special rose bush when we moved into our house. I treasure it. Sadly they've since passed away, but the roses bloom every year and remind me what a thoughtful gift it was.

Edit - and I'm a rubbish gardener, but roses are so hardy, they even survive my awful gardening!

j-josie

Person_one wrote: »

Your instincts are right, the only way to do it without being rude is to wait for people to ask. Make sure the key players (bridesmaids, ushers, parents, siblings) know that this is their preference and let the word spread organically.

Begging letters in wedding invites are awful, whether they rhyme or not, and the fact is that nobody owes them anything so its really off to basically bill your guests. Some of them will be hard up too remember.

Thanks ( & apologies to OP for hijacking this thread; her question just reminded me of our dilemma..). I think we will just leave it for people to ask - it would be actually nice for them to receive a mix - money from those who don't mind & want to..and say cinema or restaurant vouchers from others so they can do some fun things and some bits and bobs they can keep forever. I remember I got about 6 irons but this was back in the '80s in NI and it was still the tradition for the presents to be laid out in the spare room and showed off to every visitor...it was so embarrassing! but we still use the dessert bowls 27 years later and our wedding present dinner service comes out for use every Xmas

totallybored

Mayflower10cat wrote: »

To go back to OP's post; maybe it's because I'm a keen gardener (and because we'd lived together for 8 years before getting married and so had most household items) when a wedding invite comes to us from friends/family in a similar situation, I've usually bought a beautiful specimen rose bush with a significant name, or shrub. You can get a good quality rose delivered for under £30 with a gift card amd message.

I really like this idea, never thought of something like this before. Obviously no good if the couple live in a flat though!

Lexie

I'd say Giftcard for a department store.

During my pregnancy I couldn't bare the thought of sitting in the cinema confined for the length of the film.
24 hour morning sickness first 5 months then the constant need to pee the last 4 months not to mention uncomfortable seats. No way I could enjoy it.
They could use them after the birth but bare in mind not all new mums want to leave their newborns.

Just my 2 pence worth.

Ps like the idea of a Ross bush/tree/shrub for the garden that way it grows every year with their marriage.

notanewuser

Lexie wrote: »

I'd say Giftcard for a department store.

During my pregnancy I couldn't bare the thought of sitting in the cinema confined for the length of the film.
24 hour morning sickness first 5 months then the constant need to pee the last 4 months not to mention uncomfortable seats. No way I could enjoy it.
They could use them after the birth but bare in mind not all new mums want to leave their newborns.

Just my 2 pence worth.

DD was 15 months old before DH and I could go to the cinema and for a bite to eat.

I remember going to the cinema at 34 weeks. Baby almost jumped out of my stomach with the noises/soundtrack!!!

VK-2008

mrcow - as for nappy cake - yes when baby is born they will get that as a gift! as that is what i have decided on - tough whether everyone else on here agrees or not - some poeple like them some dont! so that's just the way it goes

Sambucus_Nigra

VK-2008 wrote: »

mrcow - as for nappy cake - yes when baby is born they will get that as a gift! as that is what i have decided on - tough whether everyone else on here agrees or not - some poeple like them some dont! so that's just the way it goes

If you are just going with what you had already decided - why ask in the first place?

You started this astounded that anyone wouldn't love a towel or nappy cake, and even though you've found out that actually, not everyone does - you still won't think 'I'll find out what they might want' and plough on regardless.

Seems a strange way to behave.

Luella14

But that's not what the OP has done. She was asking for advice on a wedding gift, has taken people's thoughts re towels in account and has decided on a different route. The baby gift is a separate matter and, as she's said, some like it, some don't.
OP- having read an above post, maybe it'd be nice for you to offer to babysit for the evening they choose to use their vouchers?

hawk30

I have to say that having googled nappy cakes they look extremely naff, but each to their own. My problem with that type of gift, however, is how do you know whether they plan on using disposables or reuseables? It might just get shoved in a cupboard or regifted.