Wedding presents for Newlyweds who have been together numeros years!

BitterAndTwisted

To be honest, I find that couples who have been living together for a number of years really don't expect the same kinds of wedding-presents that a pair of newly-weds would when setting up a home together for the first time. Some of my friends have requested none at all or a small contribution towards a holiday they have already booked.


Towels? No, absolutely not! Most people have all the towels they need in the colours they prefer. They've been living together for "numerous years", so are unlikely to be short of towels, or anything else pretty vital, really.

Person_one

Are there any couples getting married who haven't lived either independently (at least one of them) or together for a period first these days?

The days of everybody going straight from their parents' home to the marital home are long gone surely? Even in the more traditional Muslim families I know the groom at least has set up home on his own usually.

74jax

We're getting married after being together 8 years. We have two homes and really don't want gifts. We don't need towels, I wouldn't be offended by any present but that is an odd gift for a couple who already have towels.

If you have asked and they have said they don't want anything, then don't force something on them. Definitely don't force towels.......

Pupnik

Are they going on a honeymoon? If so, then perhaps vouchers for a meal or experience in the city they are going?

totallybored

Another vote for no towels! I can't think of anything worse to receive as a gift and I'd especially hate it if they were white (white towels always remind me of hotels too and I hate using towels that other people have used).

I'd go for either a voucher (John Lewis or amazon) or cash. I've been to a couple of weddings where I've given US dollars as a present as they were going to the states.

mrcow

No don't get them towels. Towels are very personal and if you don't get the right ones, they'll never get used.

The same with nappies. Nappy brands can be very personal too. And who would want to use a pile of nappies that had been all pulled around like that? There must be loads of things that they would actually like rather than some naff looking conconction. You could just ask them?

VK-2008

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

If someone bought us a towel/nappy cake, we'd seriously be reconsidering our friendship with them. Unless it was a cynical gift but I am struggling how it could ever be that cynical.

i would doubt you as a person if you were "seriously reconsidering" your friendship if they bought you that as a gift.

surely any gift is a present and should be appreciated whether to your taste or not

it has been decided i am giving cinema and meal vouchers so they can have a night out

Sambucus_Nigra

VK-2008 wrote: »

i would doubt you as a person if you were "seriously reconsidering" your friendship if they bought you that as a gift.

surely any gift is a present and should be appreciated whether to your taste or not

it has been decided i am giving cinema and meal vouchers so they can have a night out

No - definitely not. If I bought you a bag of sh1te and gave it to you would you think it's the thought that counted? No of course not.

If you bought me that and I questioned our friendship then I'd want you to doubt me as a person...that's the point.

Cinema and meal vouchers - good choice.

VK-2008

what friend would buy a bag of rubbish - i think you are clearly being very childish here, as stated if someone bought you a present you dont like then you shouldnt really question a friendship over it - you would just accept gift or whatever

if you dont like towel cakes or nappy cakes that's not a problem each to their own but for it to be part of a basis of a friendship i actually find that funny

omg someone got me a set of candle sticks for my wedding gift i did not like them in the slightest same with the cutlery set we got - but you know what i smiled said thank you and popped a lovely card in post

if anyone takes the time to gift you something the least you can do is appreciate the thought whether you like it or not

Person_one

Do you sell these 'cakes'? You seem quite attached to them!