Am I too overprotective of my Son?

zaksmum

Very difficult situation. A family member, aged 13, is allowed to play violent 18 rated XBox games unsupervised and allowed full access to the internet.

If he didn't, he would have absolutely nothing in common with his classmates because they all seem to be obsessed with all this stuff and it's all they talk about.

When my own kids started secondary school many years ago and started asking for expensive designer trainers, jackets etc., I had to do my best to find the money for these items because if I hadn't, my kids would not have fitted in and would've been a target for bullying.

I remember when a NAF NAF jacket was essential to my 13 year old. She would have traded a kidney for one. I found a shop in town willing to put the jacket aside for Christmas for her and let me pay a weekly amount from July onwards so it'd be paid off by Christmas. The price was horrendous and I made a good few sacrifices to find that weekly amount, but although it went against my principles it was worth it to see her so happy on Christmas morning.

It wasn't common sense. Common sense would've seen her in any old jacket costing a tenth of the price. But she was happy and that was all I wanted. Who can say which is the right course of action to take?

cheepskate_2

ruby-roo wrote: »

It is laughable that your come back didn't answer my question. I notice you have done that to other posters on here too.

Opps , Note to myself to mark every question with a big red flag

cheepskate_2

ruby-roo wrote: »

The above is from the first post cheapskate. It doesn't take much to work out that adult themed programmes on you tube are most likely sexually explicit.

The OP also asked if she shoud allow her child to watch !!!!!! further down the same thread. Did you not read those bits cheapskate?

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As the OP's son does not have any school friends, then she wouldn't have any idea what happens in their household so then it is all hearsay from her child. Not the best to be going on

Tiddlywinks

cheepskate wrote: »

In society we always have hysteria from some quarter about something or other, suppose it makes people feel they are better than others. Each generation of parents thinks some new technology will unbalance their kids.

Generation before it was age related movies, Has everyone who watched a movie that wasn't age appropriate turned into a physco

Before movies I remember all the who ha about ..........wait for it.......................ELVIS. How he would turn the children into sex raving lunatics, The government wanted to ban him. so where are all the 60/70 year old nymphs now.

So, it's an hysterical response to try to protect an 11 yo from exposure to adult material? Why?

We are now a long way from the days of Elvis aren't we? And look at the 'progress' we've made...

- Increased teenage pregnancies (even though there is far more information than ever before)
- Underage drinking
- rise of the gang culture
- glamorisation of guns / gangsta style raising of weapons
- general lack of adherance to 'rules' and the 'you can't make me', 'I've got rights' attitude.

Oh no... society hasn't regressed at all has it?

Tiddlywinks

cheepskate wrote: »

As the OP's son does not have any school friends, then she wouldn't have any idea what happens in their household so then it is all hearsay from her child. Not the best to be going on

What a nasty and thoroughly cheap shot that was.

make_me_wise

cheepskate wrote: »

Opps , Note to myself to mark every question with a big red flag

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Having read all your posts on here, the above is such a predictable response from you, to a poster asking why you have not responded to a very pertinent question.

CH27

cheepskate wrote: »

As the OP's son does not have any school friends, then she wouldn't have any idea what happens in their household so then it is all hearsay from her child. Not the best to be going on

Is there any need to be so harsh?

pigpen

If my 12 y/o swore at me she would be getting severely punished.. My 18 year old doesn't swear near me and I would never allow my younger children to use profanities. I am not naive enough to think they don't at school or when I'm not there, but they know my feelings on such matters... It is adult language the same as their are adult activities and there are consequences for the children thinking they can partake in them.

Mine have youtube blocked on all their devices. Not only for the download limit but because there is too much on there I don't want them to see.

cheepskate wrote: »

Before movies I remember all the who ha about ..........wait for it.......................ELVIS. How he would turn the children into sex raving lunatics, The government wanted to ban him. so where are all the 60/70 year old nymphs now.

The ones that aren't dead from the drugs and alcohol are leaning on the bar addled on whisky leering over the young women in their very little clothing.. and most of them are proud of it.. You need to meet my stepdad!!! lol

make_me_wise

I have an 11 year old son OP. I would not permit him to watch x rated films and he is not allowed onto youtube unsupervised. My laptop allows him onto sites that I think are appropriate for a child of his age.

I am no prude and watch things like Keith Lemon myself. Most of it is harmless and would probably go over his head. However there are times when Keith goes too far to make it suitable for a child. This is why this programme and others like it are on after the watershed.

Each parent can decide to raise their child in their own way. What the OP describes happening with her sons school friends is not how I would choose to raise my children though.

morganedge

My friends took their child out of school for good, last week (will be 'home schooled' from now on) due to bullying.
Not a suggestion of course! Just that this is a common problem. Schools do seem kind of powerless.

Not sure what to suggest, really. The general anti-social behaviour of people in England nowadays is concerning. I see many examples, every single day. And these people are 'raising' the sort of kids who bully your son.