Am I too overprotective of my Son?

ms_london

nfollows1982 wrote: »

I don't accept this view that parents who let their sons play Call of Duty or watch Keith Lemon are deprived etc etc IMHO that's entirely reasonable of a boy that age and there's no wonder that your son doesn't fit in at school!

It's all good and well saying get him into other activities, but how is that going to help him when nobody else at school is interested in what he's doing?

I feel incredibly sorry for your son!!

I think it depends on whether the op's son actually wants to play call of duty or watch Keith lemon, if he doesn't why should he be made to watch them just to fit in with the rest of the herd. Kids are cruel, and there are bullies in all stages of life, but blending in for the sake of it is ridiculous, yes you can keep a low profile but I think children need to be taught to stand up for themselves as yes, school should take more responsibility.

However, if your son does want to play call of duty and watch Keith lemon (as examples) you need to establish how strict you are being, but at the end of the day you are the parent nod if you don't feel it's right then that's fair enough, or you could compromise, whatever you feel best. I cringe at half of what Keith lemon says, and although funny, I'm 32!!

Children should be children for as long as they can, there are always going to be other children at school who grow up faster, but I think o long as your son is happy in who he is and doesn't let it bother him that's all that matters. There is always going to be peer pressure. Xx

ms_london

Claire212 wrote: »

It just baffles me that not only are you now judged on how you look, but what you do, and some parents have accepted it as the norm and just go with the flow and let things go because they want their child to be socially accepted.
Lol.

I guess if the parent is someone who makes these type if judgements then their little angels are going to be raised in the same way, and yes it is sad but it has always been an issue, just gets worse and worse as the years go in...

You sound like you are doing a great job, so do what feels right for you and your son. xx

red_devil

does he like football or any team sports?

red_devil

zaksmum wrote: »

Very difficult situation. A family member, aged 13, is allowed to play violent 18 rated XBox games unsupervised and allowed full access to the internet.

If he didn't, he would have absolutely nothing in common with his classmates because they all seem to be obsessed with all this stuff and it's all they talk about.

When my own kids started secondary school many years ago and started asking for expensive designer trainers, jackets etc., I had to do my best to find the money for these items because if I hadn't, my kids would not have fitted in and would've been a target for bullying.

I remember when a NAF NAF jacket was essential to my 13 year old. She would have traded a kidney for one. I found a shop in town willing to put the jacket aside for Christmas for her and let me pay a weekly amount from July onwards so it'd be paid off by Christmas. The price was horrendous and I made a good few sacrifices to find that weekly amount, but although it went against my principles it was worth it to see her so happy on Christmas morning.

It wasn't common sense. Common sense would've seen her in any old jacket costing a tenth of the price. But she was happy and that was all I wanted. Who can say which is the right course of action to take?

yes but where does that end what when the demands get bigger and bigger? surely children have to understand that you cant always afford everything.

If she wanted a special jacket why not buy it herself.