Should I be more cross with her?

thatgirlsam

Justicia wrote: »

As per my previous post, those are my thoughts also.

Is he a (relatively) newly qualified teacher?

I asked is he young and she said no, he is old. I asked how old. She said about 40! :mad: :rotfl:

I have no idea if he is newly qualified though.

Joons

Tell you what, I wudn't go foning anyone, take your daughter's word for it and leave it at that, the teacher sounds a complete idiot, feel sorry for your daughter having to listen to such rubbish.

thatgirlsam

Joons wrote: »

Tell you what, I wudn't go foning anyone, take your daughter's word for it and leave it at that, the teacher sounds a complete idiot, feel sorry for your daughter having to listen to such rubbish.

The teacher is a human, we all make mistakes

I do beleive her, she is a very honest person.

It wouldn't be fair if I didn't hear the other side of the story though.

Flyboy152

thatgirlsam wrote: »

My dd, she is 13, has come home today with a C1 (punishment at school) for being rude to a teacher, she was worried to tell me but did so straight away.

In class today the teacher was making derogatory comments about the estate we live on, saying how rough it is and just awful etc. He asked the class who here lives on *our estate*.

She put her hand up, he then rolled his eyes and said 'oh there's always one'

She said 'It really isn't that bad Sir'. He said, 'well where do you know that's worse than *our estate*.

She said 'Your road', he asks why, she says 'Because you live on it'

He gives her a C1 for being rude. Usually, with my kids, if they are in trouble at school, then they're in trouble at home, but I don't really feel cross with her. I just told a couple of people, one says I should go mad at the teacher, one says I should go mad at my dd

I do realise this is a bit of a non-event but we are stuck in on a snowy day and wondered your opinions!

It sounds to me as though this teacher is a bit of a bully. I'd e-mail him and ask him for a copy of the school's anti-bullying policy and then ask him if he agrees with it. Teachers like this are nothing new, we had them when I was at school (far too many years ago to admit to on here ) and sounds as thought they are still around.

Failing that, a message to the headteacher, politely, calmly and logically explaining your concerns. Ask him to investigate the incident and report back to you with a detailed explainton of the teacher's excuses.

Flyboy152

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I asked her does she think I should have a word with someone at school, she said 'don't worry Mum I've sorted it'

She is fairly quiet and shy usually!

I do wonder thought wether she has just confirmed his belief that people who live on this estate are indeed rough, which would be a shame

Bad enough that she hears it from other kids, let alone adults.

I would still recommend a word with the headteacher, because this will just carry on. Nothing will change and the teacher will continue to bully other students. Especially ones who he considers not worthy of attention, because they come from the wrong side of town.

Justicia

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I asked is he young and she said no, he is old. I asked how old. She said about 40! :mad: :rotfl:

:eek: He's ancient! Should have retired years ago! :rotfl::D

:A

Flyboy152

lazer wrote: »

I would go to the head teacher with this one.

It is not acceptable for a teacher to degrade the area a pupil lives in and it could in the wrng circumstances lead to the other pupils bullying the child for being from the scum estate or whatever

However it all depends on the context of the discussion - if they were learning about supply and demand and market forces and the effect on house prices it could be relevant - that there is no demand so prices are lower on your estate etc.

Your daughter was cheeky in her response - but it was a quick response -bright child you have there!

But that is still no excuse for, "he then rolled his eyes and said 'oh there's always one', "

dogcat_2

:eek:I would be straight on the phone to the school to complain. I would also say that my daughter would not be staying for detention. I think the teacher was very immature, especially when he asked who lived on the estate.

Flyboy152

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Yep, I agree I did wonder if i got the 'full version'

But... she has always been one for fairness and honesty, and promises me that is what happened. She is one of those kids who wouldn't want a teacher to get into trouble unfairly!

I don't know wether to tell the school, obviously they will have to have a word to him to ask him what happened, I don't want him then marking her out as a trouble maker. Although, it is out of order of him to make these comments in the first place.

I will ask to talk to her head of year, who is lovely and likes my daughter, and explain to her what has happened

But this is exactly how bullies continue in their behaviour, unless they are challenged.

Tiglath

DH is a teacher. He said if he'd been silly enough to put himself in that situation as a teacher, he'd take it on the chin, say 'Fair enough' and apologise.