Should I be more cross with her?

skattykatty

Unfortunately, I can believe that a teacher was that openly prejudiced and insulting. I'm sorry your daughter and her classmates had to endure that. Am very impressed with her quick wit!

I agree with others who have suggested you hear the story from the teacher. It's important you don't tell him your daughter's story first. You could say you are calling to clarify why your daughter got a C1, as it's very unusual and you are concerned about how she's doing in class. Ask clear, non leading, questions. Note down what he tells you and note down what your daughter has told you. If the two stories are quite different (and I imagine he will be covering his back), or even if they are not, let him know that you will be contacting the Head of Year so you can all sit down and resolve the issue. Then you tell the story as your daughter did and take it from there.

I think it's important that he knows he can't push your kid and others from 'that estate' around. Make him aware that you are all watching him! How dare he!

Nicki

I think Mrcow's suggestion is completely BRILLIANT!!!

I assume the teacher DID say it by the way, but he's really going to squirm if he has to admit to it, and think on his feet to find a way to spin things to not make himself look like a complete bigot. Completely mortifying. I like it

Well done for your daughter too for not taking it lying down, and not IMO being too rude or confrontational either about it, just not letting it pass.

BillTrac

Amazing!

He can be derogatory about where you live..

Great comeback by your daughter

And because she knocks down where he lives she gets punished, but he can say what he likes:mad:

Op, I certainly wouldn't let this lie. I would talk to a few others in you daughters class to try and get an idea of what did happen, then decide what action to take if any.

Some (note I said some, my daughters a teacher and some of the stories she tells me!!!) teachers can hold a grudge for the merest slight, and you don't want that affecting your daughters education

FBaby

The issue is not so much about the truth of what has been actually said but the interpretation of it. Like you, I trust that my daughter wouldn't be rude or make up stories about what has happened, however, as an emotional 13 year old, I do believe she could be prone to jump to conclusion as what have been said, and her interpretation of what was said leading to a similar response.

I do find it odd too that a teacher would so openly say something like this and this why I am wondering if he said something general that your daugther took personally, hence the outcome.

i would definitely want to speak to the Head of year and approach it open-minded. It is not the end of the world, and your daughter probably felt insulted enough to warrant that come back, but it is important to investigate how misinterprations do lead to many troubles!

Gillyx

I'd be tempted to write out her C1 (punishment) for her, with a nice lenghty letter to the teacher in question about why you feel she shouldn't fill it out.

I am disgusted that a teacher would act in this manner. Good on your daughter for sticking up for her community.

thatgirlsam

FBaby wrote: »

The issue is not so much about the truth of what has been actually said but the interpretation of it. Like you, I trust that my daughter wouldn't be rude or make up stories about what has happened, however, as an emotional 13 year old, I do believe she could be prone to jump to conclusion as what have been said, and her interpretation of what was said leading to a similar response.

I do find it odd too that a teacher would so openly say something like this and this why I am wondering if he said something general that your daugther took personally, hence the outcome.

i would definitely want to speak to the Head of year and approach it open-minded. It is not the end of the world, and your daughter probably felt insulted enough to warrant that come back, but it is important to investigate how misinterprations do lead to many troubles!

She didn't mis-interpret the fact that he named our estate and said it was awful though, obviously she would take it personally as she lives there!

I have asked how the conversation started in the first place. She says that the teacher was kind of having a joke with a boy in the class and said he knew where he lived. The boy said 'you don't know where I live Sir'

The teacher said 'I bet it's *name of estate*. The boy said no, and this is when the teacher said how awful and rough it is. And then asked the class who lives there.

I do wonder wether he made the comment about it being rough without thinking, then thought 'Oh shiote, I wonder if there is anyone in the class who lives there, I'd better find out'

Doesn't really explain why he rolled his eyes and said 'there's always one'

I am looking forward to hearing his explanation though

JimmyTheWig

What is a C1, out of interest?

Justicia

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I do wonder wether he made the comment about it being rough without thinking, then thought 'Oh shiote, I wonder if there is anyone in the class who lives there, I'd better find out'

Doesn't really explain why he rolled his eyes and said 'there's always one'

As per my previous post, those are my thoughts also.

Is he a (relatively) newly qualified teacher?

poet123

I think it was probably a light hearted conversation which went out of control and went further than intended. I would suspect the teacher is fairly inexperienced.

thatgirlsam

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

What is a C1, out of interest?

It's a sanction that cancels out an R2, which is a reward (when you have enough of them), and I *think* two C1's in a day, or is it week, means a detention after school. I'm not 100% sure as she has never had one before!

The reason she is not that bothered is the fact that she has shed loads of R2's already and isn't fussed by losing one. She says 'it was worth it'