Should I be more cross with her?

Mojisola

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I don't think that's the case. I certainly hope not anyway. There are many children from this estate who go to the school, it was unusual that she was the only one in this particular class.

The trouble is that prejudices don't have to have a factual base. I've been shocked to hear the talk in some staff rooms about certain areas of their town - as if everyone who happens to live in a certain area is bad!

thatgirlsam

Mojisola wrote: »

The trouble is that prejudices don't have to have a factual base. I've been shocked to hear the talk in some staff rooms about certain areas of their town - as if everyone who happens to live in a certain area is bad!

That is not nice

You would hope that adults could have more sense!

One good thing has come out of this, a girl in my dd's class apparently piped up when he gave her the C1 and said 'You started it Sir by being so rude in the first place'

This is a girl my dd has not really got along with, so my dd said thanks after class and they are friends now apparently

JimmyTheWig

thatgirlsam wrote: »

There are many children from this estate who go to the school, it was unusual that she was the only one in this particular class.

She probably wasn't. Chances are there were others who didn't want to put their hands up after what he'd already said. Your daughter stood up for all of them.

mrcow

I'd call him up. Tell him that you noticed that your daughter got a C1 for behaviour and ask him to tell you what was said.

Then you'll get the other side. Until then, it's all conjecture.

As a teacher, I'd prefer it if more parents did call in to discuss C1s etc that I'd issued. Iim never annoyed/dismayed when parents call in - at least it shows that they care/are bothered about school consequences.


If your daughter's version of events turns out to be true btw, then I'd be asking him on the phone how he can justify being so rude to his pupils. It would be very unprofessional to behave in that way. What he said served no benefit other than to pubically humiliate. Which is why I think you need to get the other side of it.

Also - if he can't handle it, he shouldn't dish it out in the first place.

thatgirlsam

mrcow wrote: »

I'd call him up. Tell him that you noticed that your daughter got a C1 for behaviour and ask him to tell you what was said.

Then you'll get the other side. Until then, it's all conjecture.

As a teacher, I'd prefer it if more parents did call in to discuss C1s etc that I'd issued.


If your daughter's version of events turns out to be true btw, then I'd be asking him on the phone how he can justify being so rude to his pupils. It would be very unprofessional to behave in that way. Which is why I think you need to get the other side of it.

Also - if he can't handle it, he shouldn't dish it out in the first place.

Do you think I will get the whole truth from him though? I'm not calling him a liar but if he said what she says he did, will he admit it to her mother? Who lives on this estate!!

I might ask one of the other children who was in class.

They do say there are 3 sides to every story, his side, her side, and the truth.

Errata

I thought the days were long past when teachers deliberately humiliated pupils for their own enjoyment. Apparently not.

thatgirlsam

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

She probably wasn't. Chances are there were others who didn't want to put their hands up after what he'd already said. Your daughter stood up for all of them.

Aw, I really hadn't thought of that. That makes me feel a bit cross!

Sambucus_Nigra

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Do you think I will get the whole truth from him though? I'm not calling him a liar but if he said what she says he did, will he admit it to her mother? Who lives on this estate!!

I might ask one of the other children who was in class.

They do say there are 3 sides to every story, his side, her side, and the truth.

I'd do that asap and get onto the school as soon as you can if it were me. I can't believe that a teacher was so rude about an area like that - particularly when there are kids from there in his class.

Person_one

Well I'm fuming and I don't even know your daughter.

Definitely definitely a formal complaint I'd say. I'd be demanding that the teacher gets sent for some training about prejudice and discrimination.

Maybe he should go and sit in on a few A level sociology classes too.

mrcow

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Do you think I will get the whole truth from him though? I'm not calling him a liar but if he said what she says he did, will he admit it to her mother? Who lives on this estate!!

Well this is why I'm thinking that she's not giving you the whole story. If he really said what she says he did, would he want to draw attention to himself by issuing a consequence? I certainly wouldn't.

The problem is, if you don't call him up, you've only got her side of it. I think it's worth a call. You don't have to discuss it with him, just say that you'd asked your daughter what it was about and she'd given you a bizarre answer and you'd like to get to the bottom of it.

In the very least, if he did say it, you'll get him back peddaling.

If you don't want to speak to him directly, then call the head of year and ask them to find out what went on and give you all call back. Seriously, no-one is going to think anything of you doing it, other than that you are a caring/concerned parent.